This year, spring wasn't marked by changing temperatures or budding blooms, but rather Taylor Swift turning all of her social-media accounts over to a pastel-colored dreamland of butterflies and glitter hearts. Fans braced themselves for a totally new Swift era — and that's what they got, with Swift giving herself a full image overhaul of sorts for her seventh album: Lover.
Gone is that iconic buttery-blonde hair, and in its place are streaks of pink and blue. Her once-signature red lip has been swapped for a bright fuchsia. But that's not the only major makeup change surrounding her forthcoming album release.
When Swift debuted the cover art for her new album via Instagram Live on Thursday, fans quickly spotted a giant glittery heart outlining her right eye.
This led to some pandemonium for the Swifties. On Twitter, not only are fans flipping out over this look (in a good way), but many are also planning on rocking the same pink glitter heart whenever they get to see her perform live — and even in the lead-up to the album's release on August 23.
I thought we were just gonna do cute lil heart stamps for tour but Taylor said hang on a sec- pic.twitter.com/vgEZjpGzkU
WELP.! All of us are going to show up with glittery heart to the tour huh.!!!!💕🤧
— Diana (CUZ SHADE NEVER MADE ANYBODY LESS GAY.!) (@Diana11485161) June 13, 2019
Normal people: Put the glittery heart on your cheek Taylor! Or maybe on your hand or arm! Taylor: No, I have to put it around my eye. Normal people: Why? It looks weird and dumb. Taylor: Cause then they’ll keep making my songs #1. Normal people: Who? Taylor: (((them)))
So it looks like I’ll be getting a glittery heart tattoo around my eye now. Thanks @taylorswift13, I’m sure my grandma will love it. 😘😂
— whitney 🧡 never met taylor but TS7 is my era 🦋 (@whitaker8721) June 13, 2019
Some people dreamed bigger: Will Swift be selling glittery heart stickers on tour?
IDK about you but that glittery heart around the eye makes me nervous 😅💖 Chances of me sweating it off and into my eye are HIGH! Someone sell like a bedazzled sticker thing, the way @ladygaga wore during Super Bowl please!!! @taylornation13@taylorswift13#PreorderLover
That'd be a pretty smart move, in our opinion. Of course, hearts have remained a major motif for this new era, with Swift posting a pink diamond heart in the countdown to the release of her single "Me!" in April, and even uploading several pictures of her wearing a crystal-encrusted heart ring.
Now, because of Swift's history of using her beauty to send cryptic clues and Easter eggs about her upcoming projects, fans have already started getting suspicious about what this heart could signify. In May, she told Entertainment Weekly that she was sending a message to fans with the pastel rainbow manicure she wore while recording the vertical Spotify video for "Delicate."
In the Taylor Swift universe, even something as minor as a manicure can signal a new era, so what could something as dramatic as a giant glitter heart represent? Only time will tell, but we recommend stocking up on pink glitter now.
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Late on Thursday night, Swift debuted the single art for her latest song "You Need To Calm Down," from her forthcoming album, Lover. In it, Swift appears as we've never seen her before: Wearing a baby-pink bikini with her back turned to the camera, the "Me!" singer reveals a truly enormous tattoo that winds from just below her bra strap all the way up to her neck. The ink features a motif we've come to associate with Swift's new era: a snake transforming into a swarm of butterflies.
Swift's caption matched ours and most fans reactions: "Gxgjxkhdkdkydkhdkhfjvjfj."
The same imagery is also reflected in the very beginning of her "Me!" music video, which shows a snake erupting into butterflies. Fans have already concluded that it likely symbolizes Swift's own metamorphosis from the darker, snake themes of her Reputation era (when the "Old Taylor was dead") to a place of being reborn and happy. With her latest album reportedly all about love, it makes sense. Another interesting layer to the butterfly-and-heart motif: A group of butterflies is often referred to as a "kaleidoscope," which could bring new meaning to the famous lyric she referenced in her "Me!" video: "Kaleidoscope of loud heartbeats under coats."
the snake to butterflies back tattoo taylor swift literally has zero chill and IM SO BLESSED AND FORTUNATE TO BE ALIVE TO SEE THIS ALL WITH MY OWN TWO EYES @taylornation13pic.twitter.com/MgMchpLA8u
Not since Mandy Moore in A Walk To Remember have we seen a fake butterfly back tattoo make such a splash among the youth, and if Swift is strategic about it, we smell a great merch opportunity (along with glitter heart makeup and blue-and-pink hair chalk) in her future.
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A new Netflix series, called Trinkets, drops today and follows a group of teenage friends who bond over an unlikely shared interest: shoplifting. This certainly isn't the first time shoplifting is portrayed in pop culture. But unlike the campy 2013 movie Bling Ring, Trinkets focuses on the darker, psychological reasons why people shoplift.
The friends at the center of the series, Elodie Davis (Brianna Hildebrand), Moe Truax (Kiana Madeira), and Tabitha Foster (Quintessa Swindell), turn to shoplifting as a way to cope with hardships in their adolescent lives — from losing a parent to having an abusive partner. They meet at a Shoplifters Anonymous support group.
The author of the novel upon which the series is based, Kristen "Kiwi" Smith, told Teen Vogue that she thinks the idea of shoplifting is particularly appealing to audiences that might be grappling with similar issues. "A lot of young women are perhaps drawn to it because they don't have enough control and power so it's a way to seize it even if it's misguided. It's a way to fill some holes that you have inside with possessions," Smith said. "I really wanted to get into what are the things that make you susceptible to this addiction. It's a real thing. We wanted to explore all of these things in a way as earnest and true as possible."
This is indeed one of the many reasons why people shoplift, according to Terry Shulman, LMSW, a recovering shoplifter, founder of Kleptomaniacs and Shoplifters Anonymous, and author of Something for Nothing: Shoplifting Addiction and Recovery. "Some start after a loss, trauma, betrayal, or some difficult transition in their life," he says. While there's a buffet of maladaptive coping mechanisms people may gravitate towards during troubling times, such as substance abuse or gambling, shoplifting provides a specific type of thrill, he says.
The motivation to shoplift is often not about having the actual items, but regaining a sense of control. For example, some people will steal nonsensical things that they'll never use, such as clothing that doesn't fit or hundreds of pens, because the act helps them de-escalate feelings of anxiety. Shulman recalls feeling a "bit of charge or momentary satisfaction" when he used to shoplift. "I was making life right by taking something life had taken from me," he adds. "I didn’t know that at the time, but that was very powerful in a way. It was symbolic and through repetition it got to be a real habit."
Over time, many people start chasing opportunities to shoplift, and it can become like an addiction, Shulman says. Technically, "kleptomania" is defined in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) as an impulse-control disorder, not an addiction, and is characterized by a "repeated failure to resist impulses to steal objects that have no immediate use or intrinsic value to the individual, accompanied by feelings of increased tension before committing the theft and either pleasure or relief during the act." Kleptomania is also often referred to as "addictive compulsive stealing." Both terms refer to people taking something, and feeling temporary relief, fulfillment, satisfaction, and momentary empowerment, he says.
As the show suggests, many people seek treatment through support groups and counseling to stop stealing. Shulman hopes that people who see Trinkets and are also struggling with shoplifting might be compelled to find support. And, although there's always a risk that fictional portrayals will glamorize a serious mental health issue, he's also optimistic that this show will spread awareness about people with kleptomania. "I'm delighted because it brings it to the forefront and people get to learn a little bit," he says.
If you are struggling with obsessive compulsive disorder and are in need of information and support, please call the National Alliance on Mental Illness at 1-800-950-6264. For a 24-hour crisis line, text “NAMI” to 741741.
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There's a lot that goes into planning a wedding: finding the perfect dress, securing a venue, booking a photographer... the to-do list is never-ending. And as much as brides trust in their dictionary-sized wedding planning books, there's usually that one task that's left for last minute or gets forgotten completely. We're talking about small traditions, like the gifts that show your appreciation for all the time and money your friends have put into your big day.
Don't just settle for the usual engraved silk robe or friendship bracelets. Your bridal party deserves a gift that they'll use well past the wedding, something that can begin to make up for all of your bridezilla moments — and there's no better option than beauty products. From luxurious skin-care sets to solo products that can be added to a curated gift box, these are the beauty presents that will win the hearts of your bride squad.
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We love shoes just as much as the next girl, but if there's one accessory we can't stop adding to our wardrobes, it's handbags. Thankfully, there's no end to the array of options we can choose from — especially right now. From classic names like Prada and Gucci, to emerging designers like Danse Lente and Yuzefi, brands are going the extra mile to make their handbags stand out from the rest.
You've got granny bags, orange bags, mock croc bags, and even bags that look like, well, this. And honestly, we're pretty smitten with them all. To make the search for your go-to handbag a tad easier, we scoured the Internet to find the handbag trends that are making the biggest splash this summer. Ahead, click through the 8 bag trends to buy up now.
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I'm going to let you in on a deep, dark secret. Up until the age of 18, I didn't moisturize — at all. I'd suffered with awful teenage acne, and because I didn't know better, my idea of a good skin-care routine consisted of an intense cleanser, alcohol-based toner (which I cringe just thinking about in retrospect), and all of the Persa-Gel I could slather on my face. Shockingly, my skin didn't clear up until I hit my early twenties. I can say with confidence that now, applying moisturizer is one of the most important steps in my daily routine — and I think I've found The One.
After running out of my all-time favorite, Sunday Riley's Tidal, I decided to bite the bullet and test out a moisturizer I'd only heard good things about since it launched about two years ago. The first thing I noticed about Tatcha's The Water Cream was the texture, which is what I imagine it would be like if a cloud could be packaged into a jar of face cream. True to its name, the consistency is gel-like and lightweight, but packs a hydrating punch — perfect for my very oily, acne-prone skin.
After cleansing and toning, I applied a nickel-sized amount all over, and was blown away with how well it absorbed. It made my skin look dewy, but not greasy, like I'd just chugged a gallon of H2O. It does have a subtle, fresh floral fragrance, but nothing that irritated my skin. (However, sensitive skin types might react differently.) Plus, it wore well under my foundation and gave me a glow so real, highlighter was basically optional.
A few weeks in, and it has yet to break me out — which is a rare occurrence, given that I'm constantly testing new products, many of which leave a pimple in their wake. It's worth noting, however, that at $68, it's not exactly a casual skin-care purchase. That said, one jar lasted me a solid three months (the fact that I used it only in the morning vs. in the AM/PM also helped extend its life), and everything about it from the formula to the packaging is as luxe as it gets.
According to the brand, ingredients like Japanese wild rose are meant to help minimize the appearance of pores and texture, while leopard lily extract helps control excess oil and boost skin turnover. I honestly can't say that it's done a whole lot in terms of evening out my acne scars, but as for hydrating, soothing, and giving me a thoroughly enjoyable sensorial experience, if you will? 10/10 — would recommend.
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And just like that, Carol Lim and Humberto Leon's time at Kenzo has come to a close. After eight years, they are leaving the LVMH-backed French fashion house to focus on their Opening Ceremony business, which is based in New York. Lim and Leon joined Kenzo as artistic directors in 2011, the first Asian-Americans to hold the position in LVMH history.
Since then, the husband and wife duo has continuously outdone themselves with innovative collections and campaigns, including casting all Asian runway, celebrating Britney Spears as a fashion icon, and reminding us of the immigrant stories that shape the fashion industry. In a press release announcing their departure, the brand curiously stated the duo was "quit[ting] the artistic direction of Kenzo" but also celebrated the collaborations during their tenure, most of which were the first of their kind at a global luxury brand.
"Humberto and Carol consistently brought diversity and inclusion to the forefront at Kenzo, using their collections, fashion shows, advertising, and special projects to engage and galvanize a new generation of creatives," said Kenzo CEO Sidney Toledano in a statement.
Lim and Leon's official last day is July 1, days after they present their final collection for Kenzo — Spring 2020 — on June 23. The brand has not yet named their replacement.
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In our seriesMy 6-Figure Paycheck,women making more than $100,000 open up about how they got there and what exactly they do. We take a closer look at what it feels like to be a woman making six-figures —when only 5% of American women make that much, according to theU.S. Census— w ith the hope it will give women insight into how to better navigate their own career and salary trajectories.
Job: Compliance Officer, Financial Services Age: 34 Location: New York, NY Degree: B.A. in international relations, Juris Doctor First Salary: $35,000 Current Salary: Base $138,000, with 16% performance bonus target. I received a $30,000 bonus for my performance in 2017.
As a kid, what did you want to be when you grew up?
"I never had (and still don’t have) a set answer to this question. I wanted to be a chef, study business (and do who knows what), or be a diplomat. In college I declared a major in international relations at the last minute and also studied languages and economics. All I know is that I always like seeing the big picture and solving puzzles. These are the common threads of all my post-college jobs."
What did you study in college?
"I have a B.A. in international relations. I went to law school after working for a couple of years after college."
Did you have to take out student loans?
"I took out loans for law school. I did this in a rather thoughtless way, so I wound up with almost $250,000 in student loans and accumulated interest and credit card debt by the time I started paying them back. (Due to a crappy economy and poor job prospects, I deferred my loans for one year after finishing law school. For context, I made $45,000/year at my first post-law-school job.) I no longer have credit card debt, and I plan to pay the loans off within four years from now. The loan payoff date will be about 11 years from when I received my degree."
Have you been working at this company since you graduated from college?
"I have not been working at this job since I graduated from college. Before law school, I worked as a paralegal. Since law school I have had various compliance roles in financial services, at three different companies. I was promoted twice at my prior company and once (so far) at my current company."
How would you explain your day-to-day role at your job?
"I help the financial analysts 'stay between the lines' of financial regulations as they do their jobs."
Did you negotiate your salary?
"Since college, I’ve switched full-time jobs several times (not including law-school internships). I only negotiated for my last two roles. I previously did not negotiate due to lack of confidence, and because I received bad advice from a family member. Lesson learned — NEVER skip negotiating out of fear the company will revoke the job offer! The more you negotiate, the easier it gets. I usually do research based on salary comparison websites and then round up. I’ve found these websites provide lowball salary estimates for my industry and location."
Is your current job your “passion”? If not, what is?
"None of my jobs have ever been my 'passion,' but they presented challenges and puzzles that interested me and that I enjoyed solving. There is also a lot of money to be made in finance in NYC, even in a job like compliance. My goal right now is to make as much money as possible so I can finish paying off my debt, build substantial savings, and quit corporate life. I suppose you could say that this goal is my passion."
If you could, would you change anything in your career trajectory?
"I would have listened less to my family and more to my gut. Both sides of my family are extremely risk-adverse, so I was always pushed into taking a desk job or doing anything that seemed 'secure.' (Though I would argue that no desk job is secure these days...) In college, I was attracted to career trajectories that did not have so much perceived security (moving abroad, working in international development). I don’t regret not doing those things, as I really like my life now. However, I do constantly remind myself that taking risks and pushing limits is good and gets me what I want out of life."
What professional advice would you give your younger self?
"Aside from the previous answer, I would also tell myself not to take every single decision and career move so seriously and literally. The important things in life often are not tangible or able to be described on a résumé. These important things will also frequently not happen at work or have anything to do with your career. Work is not life. Lastly, don’t work hard, work smart. Figure out how to make your boss and their boss look good based on the work you do. Ask them how you can help them meet their goals, and then commit to finishing all of your assigned projects early. Happy management = $$$. $$$ = freedom to live the life you want."
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If we're ranking the pitfalls of summer, humidity is hands down the most offensive. No matter how the increased moisture levels mess with your hair — creating a fuzzy halo around your air-dried curls or instantly unpinning the flyaways you spent twelve minutes smoothing — it's a struggle that often ends with a heavy sigh and a Sephora search for "anti-frizz treatment."
If you're prone to the perennial fight against the muggy air, the quickest fix may just be to switch up your shampoo. Celebrity stylist Justine Marjan tells us that your in-shower rinse-and-repeat formula can actually make a big impact in how your hair responds — or doesn't respond — to the dew point. "You want to find a shampoo that pushes moisture into the hair," she says. "When your hair is well-hydrated, it's soft, silky, and more manageable when the moisture in the air increases."
With that three-pronged goal in mind — softness, smoothness, and manageability — we asked five celebrity hairstylists to share their arsenal of humidity-blocking shampoos. Ahead, their favorite bottles, and a foolproof guide to making stubborn frizz a non-issue this summer.
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Nicholas Sparks, the famed author of The Notebook, A Walk To Remember, and other bestselling romance novels, has come under fire for his alleged role in banning an LGBTQ+ club at a prep school he co-founded in North Carolina. The scandal resurfaced after The Daily Beastpublished emails on Thursday exchanged between Sparks and the Epiphany School of Global Studies’s former headmaster, Saul Benjamin, that leave his denials in question.
In one email, Sparks writes “not allowing them to have a club is NOT discrimination" about an LGBTQ organization attempting to form at his school. He also argued with Benjamin about including a specific mention of LGBTQ students in a non-discrimination clause. He seemed to chide Benjamin for "rock[ing] the boat" with “what some perceive as an agenda that strives to make homosexuality open and accepted,” per another email obtained by The Daily Beast.
"We've had gay students before, many of them. Tom [a former headmaster] handled it quietly and wonderfully, and the students considered themselves fortunate,” Sparks writes in one of the emails.
In a Twitter post, Sparks says The Daily Beas t’s reporting is “not news,” and says it repeats "false accusations" and claims made against the school, and ignores evidence that he presented to the court in a lawsuit that’s been going on between the school, Sparks, and Benjamin since 2014.
In the suit, Benjamin claims there was a pattern of homophobia, racism, and harassment at Epiphany , according to The Daily Beast. “Sparks and members of the Board unapologetically marginalized, bullied, and harassed members of the School community,” according to a complaint obtained by The Daily Beas t, “whose religious views and/or identities did not conform to their religiously driven, bigoted preconceptions."
Sparks allegedly wrote in one email: “Regarding diversity, I’ve now told you half a dozen times that our lack of diversity has NOTHING to do with the school or anyone at the school. It’s not because of what we as a school has or hasn’t done. It has nothing to do with racism or vestiges of Jim Crow. It comes down to 1) Money and 2) Culture.”
Sparks noted in his Twitter statement that many, but not all, of the lawsuit’s claims haven't held up in the the courts. He specifically points out that claims of discrimination and harassment against him and the school have been dismissed, but it's unclear if the emails published yesterday by The Daily Beast have been addressed in court yet. The TV Channel WITN reported that the emails were filed as part of the ongoing lawsuit.
Benjamin‘s lawsuit will be back in court this summer.
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The husbands of the four most well-known female candidates — Sen. Kamala Harris, Sen. Elizabeth Warren, Sen. Amy Klobuchar, and Sen. Kirsten Gillibrand — have been traveling with their partners on the campaign trail, and supporting them every step of the way.
Ahead of Father's Day, we decided to get a more in-depth look into their thoughts on fatherhood, their relationships with the potential first female presidents of the U.S., and more. Read it, ahead.
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In the video, Tamblyn says she'd like to start taking birth control to manage pain from endometriosis. Her doctor (played by Cross) tells her, “According to this latest research I have here from 1926, women don’t have intercourse until they’re married, so you’re good to go.” Then he writes her a prescription for Viagra so she can “find a gentleman that will intercourse the cramps out of you once you’re married. Win/win.” When Tamblyn says, “This is ridiculous. What if I had to make some really difficult life decision, like terminating a pregnancy?” he responds by repeating “No,” over and over again.
We eventually learn that the “gynotician’s” only medical training is a “B.A. from Todd Akin Non-Technical College and Biological-Ish Studies In Rhetoric, with a minor in Online Poker.” (Akin is the Republican who infamously said, “If it's a legitimate rape, the female body has ways to try to shut that whole thing down.”) "What makes you qualified to make decisions about my health?" Tamblyn asks. Cross responds, "I got elected."
Tamblyn and Cross actually wrote the video over six years ago, as Republican lawmakers were trying to repeal the Affordable Care Act. In a statement, the pair describe this as "a time when reproductive healthcare and bodily autonomy was being threatened, like it always has been in this country, and sadly, little has changed to date.” They add, “In fact, under our current government, we are going backwards. While we hope the video makes you laugh at the absurdity and cruelty of mirrored life, the truth of where we are and where we have been is no laughing matter.”
They point to the recently-passed laws rolling back abortion rights in Alabama, Georgia, and Kentucky. These laws “are hypocritical disasters, putting not just women’s lives at risk, but also the lives of trans and non-binary people too,” they say. “Because laws that dictate what our bodies are allowed to do or not do, what they are allowed to have or not have, what they are allowed to be or not be, are extremely harming to all different kinds of people, including men.”
In their statement, Tamblyn and Cross say that they hope people will be inspired to take action. “We ask that you fight with us by donating to organizations who are fighting to protect our right to choice, organizations like NARAL and Planned Parenthood,” they say. “It will take each and every one of us to show up for each other right now in the same way we hope that others will show up for us.” (Here are some additional organizations to donate to and other ways to help.)
Last month, Tamblyn responded to Georgia and Alabama passing anti-abortion laws by sharing her story on Twitter with the #YouKnowMe hashtag, joining public figures including Busy Philipps, Miranda July, and Jameela Jamil. “In 2012, I had an abortion,” Tamblyn wrote. “It was one of the hardest decisions I've ever had to make. I still think about it to this day. But these truths do not make me regret my decision. It was the right choice for me, at that time in my life. I have not a single doubt about this. #YouKnowMe.”
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Two weeks after she was reportedly forced to cancel a scheduled performance at a Memorial Day festival due to "serious fallout from her recent cosmetic surgeries," Cardi B has announced to fans that she's done going under the knife.
"I been working out for the past 2 weeks cause bitch I ain’t getting surgery again," Cardi wrote on Twitter. What's more, she added that the regular exercise — hopefully cleared by her doctors — has also alleviated her chronic migraines, which she visited the hospital for earlier this year: "But let me tell you I haven’t got a headache ever since."
I been working out for the past 2 weeks cause bitch I ain’t getting surgery again😂😂😂but let me tell you I haven’t got a headache ever since .
The rapper's post-baby plastic surgeries have been a topic of discussion for over a month now, ever since the new mom told Entertainment Tonight that she'd gotten her breast implants redone. Cardi went into even more detail about her liposuction surgery, telling the crowd at the Beale Street Music Festival in Tennessee that she wasn't even supposed to be performing post-op. Most recently, she showed her Instagram followers a photo of her extremely swollen feet, sharing that the swelling also affects her stomach and that medical professionals were advising her to take it slow. “Look how swollen my feet get every time I take a plane, imagine my body,” she wrote. “Reasons why doctors told me to chill on shows.”
Cardi says she's been so candid about her negative experiences for a reason: She wants to be upfront about the harsher realities of plastic surgery. "I want to explain to people how hard it is to process. I feel like people look at girls on Instagram and go, 'Oh, they got their lipo done and it was so easy,"' she told ET in May. "It is just such a long, hard process."
Clearly, the star has had to face the fact that the recovery process can't be rushed; the complications haven't only affected her ability to perform, but her overall health as well. "Healing takes time. You can't speed ahead as usual, ignoring the fact you are recovering from surgery," board-certified plastic surgeon Karen M. Horton, M.D., recently told us. "That's when you'll get into trouble."
It seems that Cardi is taking her learning experience seriously — and hopefully taking some well-deserved time off, and avoiding future surgeries, will help her stay out of trouble and get her back on her feet.
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Ah, Father’s Day. Maybe you’ve already drafted your father-daughter Instagram post. Maybe you’re stressing out about sending a card in time. Or, maybe, you flat-out hate this stupid holiday. Maybe your father wasn’t there for you. Maybe he was abusive, neglectful, or just plain toxic.
This holiday hits home in an especially dreadful way for author Lane Moore, who writes in her book How To Be Alone, “I grew up a real-life Matilda: surrounded by biological family who, in constantly rotating ways, couldn’t be bothered.” She says the holiday takes a toll on her every year, and that toll echoes loud in her mind as it bounces off Facebook walls full of "my dad is great" posts.
For people who grew up in a happy home where their dad read stories to them before bed, it’s not uncommon to overlook people who have a bad relationship with their dad on Father’s Day. These people might think to acknowledge people who’s parents have died, or people going through fertility struggles — but people with bad parents often go under the radar, and Moore says this can make people who are in the situation feel more alone.
But if this is something you’re going through on Father’s Day, you aren’t the only one. Here are a few coping strategies for handling this holiday if your dad is toxic.
Talk it out.
Dr. Barbara Van Dahlen, Ph.D., creator of a mental health nonprofit called Give an Hour, says it can be a good idea to find a friend, therapist, or family member you trust and talk to them about the feelings Father’s Day is bringing up for you.
“It’s always a sign that something is still weighing on us or burdening us if we can’t talk about it,” she says. “Talking is a way of bringing it into the light. It doesn’t mean we have to go into great detail… But, at some point, try to find a place where you can lift that burden by sharing.”
She says when you pick this person, it's best to find someone who will just listen, and not try to give you advice. If you do get advice, take it with a grain of salt. No one knows your situation like you do. “Sometimes people who mean well will say things like, ‘you should reach out to him’ or ‘I’m sure he loves you,’” Van Dahlen says. “That’s a don’t do.” If you know that reaching out to your dad would put you back in a dangerous or draining situation, keep that in the back of your mind. Don’t let someone convince you to do something that you know could ultimately be bad for you.
Stay away from social media.
“I often advise people stay off of social media,” Moore says. “People go on social and post about their parents. I’m sure it’s not that they’re meaning to brag, it’s just what people do these days. But they’re likely not thinking about people who’ve lost their parents, or especially people who have a bad relationship with their parents.”
If seeing this bugs you, consider that, and don’t put yourself in a situation that will upset you.
Know you’re not the only one.
Another thing that’s important to consider about social media: People are often only posting their highlight reels, and leaving out a lot of the negative parts of their lives — this includes their relationships with their parents.
On Father’s Day, everyone posts like they have the most amazing father, but it’s not always an accurate depiction, Moore says. “These social media posts, some of them are by friends who I know for a fact don’t have good relationships with dads,” she says. “Someone becomes a saint when they die, and on Father’s and Mothers Day. I have compassion for it. I know what it feels like to want to say, “I’m normal, I have a great dad.” But pushing the fact that the relationship isn’t great under the rug does a disservice. I wish we could be more honest.”
The fact that people pretend things are fine when they aren’t can lead to more people feeling like they’re alone in this, Moore says. But the fact is, the world is bigger and more complicated than what’s shown on Instagram. You’re not the only one who's ever been here and that your feelings are real, acceptable, and valid.
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Welcome toMoney Diaries, where we're tackling what might be the last taboo facing modern working women: money. We're asking millennials how they spend their hard-earned money during a seven-day period — and we're tracking every last dollar.
Today: a manager working in video production who makes $49,000 per year and spends some of her money this week on green ginger tea.
Occupation: Manager Industry: Video Production Age: 30 Location: Nashville, TN Salary: $49,000 (I also make ~$100 to $200 monthly from side projects.) Paycheck Amount (2x/month): $1,594 Gender Identity: Woman
Monthly Expenses Rent: $625 for my third of a 2,200-square-foot, four-bedroom, three-bathroom house shared with my boyfriend and one roommate. Student Loans: $268 (I have $27,000 in total.) Car Payment: $288 (I have $10,000 remaining.) House Bills/Internet: ~$100 Car Insurance: $81.12 Phone: $0 (I'm on my parents' plan.) Credit Card Payments: $445 total minimum payments across three cards. Total debt is $15k. Since starting this new job, I've begun to more aggressively repay and usually pay around $500 extra each month. Health Insurance: Covered by work Dental/Vision Insurance: $27.50 pretax FSA: $20 pretax Spotify: $10.91 Netflix: $14.22 HBO: $0 (Someone once signed into our Roku, and I'm too nervous about messing anything up to check whose it is.) Hulu: $0 Medium: $5 iCloud: $1.99 Savings: I've paused on savings to focus on repaying debt. I have about $3,000 saved currently. 401(k): $163.34 (My company matches my 4% contribution, which is their max. I will probably increase my contribution once I have some debt paid down.)
Annual Expenses Amazon Prime: I share a friend's account for $50/yearly
Day One
10:15 a.m. — I wake up with my boyfriend, B. He gets up to make coffee and lets our kitten in so I can snuggle her in bed. It's Sunday and the first day I've slept in all month, so I lounge a bit and submit my hours for yesterday's photo-booth gig (over the past year, I've operated photo booths as a side job). I'll make $100 plus $60 in mileage. Eventually I get up and make an egg scramble with tomato, spinach, and feta. I join B. on the front porch for breakfast and then water the porch flowers and the back vegetable garden.
11:45 a.m. — I wash my face with Pacifica pineapple cleanser (I don't love it, so I'm trying to use it up to justify purchasing something else), spritz on homemade rose toner, apply Milk Cooling Water under my eyes, and roll on Say Yes to Cucumber moisturizer. B. goes to band practice, and I throw on some high-waisted denim shorts, B.'s band's tee, slip on Vans, then head out to run some errands. I return the photo booth and head to TJ Maxx. I never shop there, but we just moved into our new house and I need a few household things that I think I may find cheaper than at Target, where I would normally shop. I pick up a laundry hamper, shower basket, dish-brush holder, and spice rack. I realize at checkout that I forgot my debit card, so I put it on my credit card and immediately transfer the money over. $38.16
1 p.m. — I head to the farmer's market to get some lemons to make lemonade and a snack to bring to my friend's pool later, and to peruse my favorite plant store, Gardens of Babylon, but after driving around for 20 minutes looking for parking, I get too annoyed and give up.
1:35 p.m. — I get home and make a quick snack-plate lunch of pita, hummus, cherry tomatoes, tabbouleh, rice, and strawberries. I fill up a water bottle, put on my swimsuit, and head to my friend's pool.
5 p.m. — Another friend meets us at the pool and brings corn and watermelon, so after lounging for a few hours, we head up to my friend's loft. Her mom sent her a full salmon filet from California, so we smoke a bowl and cook ourselves a feast! I'm the dick who didn't bring anything.
7:45 p.m. — When I get home, B. and I go to Whole Foods because he wants a vegan pizza. I pick up lemons, jalapeño, guac, tortilla chips, and Traditional Medicinals green tea ginger. He gets some other groceries as well. We always buy our groceries separately but share most staple items. It just works for us. $18.05
8:45 p.m. — At home I unpack the groceries, then take a shower and do my regular skin-care routine (except I use Soap & Glory vitamin C cleanser at night). I make my lunch for tomorrow — strawberry salad with chicken, almonds, feta, avocado, and cilantro dressing. B. and I started BlacKkKlansman a while ago, and we finally get around to watching the end of it tonight. Get in bed at 10:45.
Daily Total: $56.21
Day Two
7:30 a.m. — My alarm goes off, and I snooze until 7:45. I chug a glass of water, put on a kettle for tea, and do my skin-care routine. I step outside to check the weather and notice the rose bush has bloomed! I'm hit with the realization that I'm officially an actual adult, because the presence of the flower excites me more than it should. I go back inside to make a breakfast of Greek yogurt, coconut granola, blackberries, and honey with chocolate chips on top, 'cause I'm an adult now, dang it, and who says I can't? I eat breakfast on the porch and then head back in to put on my work makeup look: Bare Minerals powder (which I'm nearly out of), Glossier Boy Brow, Tarte bronzer, and MAC mascara. It felt a bit cool on the porch this morning (69 degrees = cool for Nashville summer), so I throw on a vintage long-sleeve red silk Japanese blouse and Amo jeans with black oxford Dr. Martens. I still have a few minutes before I need to leave, so I play with my kitten.
9 a.m. — Arrive at work, grab a cup of office coffee, and realize I forgot the lunch that I packed. My coworker brought in some cookies, so I have one as a second breakfast because, like I said, I'm an adult, okay?
12:18 p.m. — My coworker is ordering sushi for lunch, and I'm tempted but don't want to spend that much, so I decide to walk a few blocks down to Jimmy John's instead. I order a Beach Club sandwich with turkey, provolone, and avocado. $7.39
3:30 p.m. — There's some food at the office, which I snack on. I drink a Blood Orange Sanpellegrino from the office fridge. Today I'm organizing a shoot in the D.C. area, working on a video, and putting together pitch decks for a couple of large production projects for our biggest client.
4:40 p.m. — I use my personal laptop for work and haven't had Microsoft Office since my free college subscription expired. My coworker asks me to purchase Office so that I stop sending him contracts in Pages. I put it on my credit card and submit an expense report for it immediately. ($79.46 expensed)
5:07 p.m. — I head home from work, play with the cat, and then snack on some quinoa crisps and hummus while making spicy cilantro lemonade. For dinner, I eat my forgotten salad from lunch. I walk my bike down to the gas station to air up the tires, then ride back home and spend the rest of the evening hanging up our art in the house with B.
9:13 p.m. — Because of moving and traveling, I've recently fallen off some of my regular routines, namely working out and reading. So I perform a few quick ab and glute exercises so that I at least do SOMETHING and then shower and pick out tomorrow's outfit that I hopefully will still feel like wearing in the morning. I've been reading mostly nonfiction recently and am in the mood for a good story, so I choose Life of Pi from B.'s book collection, as I've never read it or seen the movie.
Daily Total: $7.39
Day Three
7:30 a.m. — My alarm goes off, and I'm tempted to snooze because I didn't sleep well last night but force myself up anyway. I chug a glass of water, make ginger green tea and a yogurt bowl, and eat on the porch. I water the porch flowers, take the trash to the curb, and go back inside to get ready. Do my skin-care routine, apply makeup, and put on the outfit I picked last night: black Topshop skinnies and a gingham short-sleeve button-down. After six years of working from home/traveling, I don't have any SFW warm-weather tops. Somehow everything I own is cropped! I make a mental note to be on the lookout for summer tops I can wear for work and play (do those exist?). I play with the cat, and I'm out the door by 8:45.
9 a.m. — Arrive at the office and pour a cup of office coffee. I check my bank account and see that I received my refund from two Aritzia dresses I purchased a few weeks ago that didn't fit. I already re-ordered the dresses in a smaller size (and one had gone on sale, score!), so I was refunded $245 for my return.
1 p.m. — For lunch, I eat the other half of my Jimmy John's sandwich from yesterday.
3:40 p.m. — I eat some snacks from the office snack cupboard. Since I used up the rest of my Bare Minerals this morning, I check the price on Bare Minerals' website and Amazon. It's $7 cheaper on Amazon, and although I won't receive it until Thursday even with Prime, I decide to save the extra bucks and a trip to the mall. $23.99
5:10 p.m. — On my way home from work, I pass by a new farmer's market in my neighborhood, so I decide to check it out. I pick up a dozen eggs and some coconut friendship bread. When I get home, I pour a glass of lemonade and water the vegetable garden. I feel bad for neglecting the plants yesterday, so as an apology I play ukulele for them. I firmly believe showing positivity toward plants helps them grow. $16.09
7:45 p.m. — For dinner, I make ground turkey and bell pepper tacos for me and B., and we watch the Game of Thrones documentary on HBO. We both work in video production, so we're fascinated by the behind-the-scenes insight. I think showing the perspective of the background actor is really unique. I even tear up a few times. B. commits to speaking solely in an Irish accent for the rest of the night. I do my skin-care routine and then get into bed around 10, but we cuddle and chat until 11 or so.
Daily Total: $40.08
Day Four
7:30 a.m. — Same morning routine of green tea ginger and yogurt on the porch and then watering the flowers. I put on my makeup, and because I'm out of Bare Minerals I use an old Milk mini Blur Stick that I purchased a while ago but don't really care for. Get dressed in AA gray skinnies with a light blue vintage short-sleeved sweater. It's cropped but only shows a sliver of my stomach when I lift my arms, so I think that's fine, right? I slide into pony-hair mules. I don't have a full-length mirror yet, so I just roll with the outfit and hope it's not too wack.
8:45 a.m. — I decide to try an episode of TED Talks Daily on my commute. At work, I volunteer myself to make the office coffee, and it turns out horribly watery.
11 a.m. — My doctor's office calls, saying my new IUD has arrived. I've had my current one for just over five years, so it's time to replace it. I have Mirena now but will replace it with Kyleena. I make an appointment for next Tuesday to give myself time to mentally prepare. I'm terrified, because although the insertion process the first time around was brief, it was excruciating. However, the ease and convenience are worth it to me. My insurance will cover the cost 100%.
1:20 p.m. — I brought lunch from home today — grilled chicken, pita and hummus, tabbouleh, and cherry tomatoes. I eat at my desk while making phone calls to hire crew for a shoot next week.
5:15 p.m. — I leave work to scoop B. from home, and we go pick up a bookcase we're buying off of Craigslist. He pays cash, and I Venmo him for half ($12.50). We unload the bookcase at home and start filling it with books. B. makes a vegan pizza and adds chicken sausage (he's lactose- intolerant, not vegan), and I eat a slice. I finish up the waistband on a skirt I'm upcycling from a prairie dress, but when I try it on, I decide it's still too long and I'll need to hem it before wearing. $12.50
7:50 p.m. — I was planning on going to a free hot yoga class tonight, but instead I'm going to see a psych-rock band I like at Soft Junk, a BYOB DIY-type venue. Because YOLO. I shower and reapply my makeup, adding a thick black winged line of MAC Fluidline eyeliner. I put on a red and gold vintage cropped top, high-waisted shorts, and Docs. B. doesn't feel like going, but I spoke to a friend earlier who wants to come, and it's a small East Nashville rock 'n' roll scene — I always see people I know at shows. I should eat something else before heading out, but I'm lazy and don't feel like making anything. I grab two beers from the fridge and put them in my purse to drink at the show. The cover is $10, but I only see the last band, so they take my $5 in cash. $5
11:15 p.m. — The show ends, and I go to Taco Bell for a crunch taco and a soft taco. Wash face, brush teeth, and am in bed by 11:50. $3.04
Daily Total: $20.54
Day Five
7:30 a.m. — I wake up, drink a glass of water, make green tea, and fry two eggs. On Thursdays my coworkers and I have a fancy appetizer lunch, and I'll need to pick up something to bring on my way to work, so I skip my usual breakfast on the porch and eat in the bathroom while getting ready. I tie up a black band tee over a black Aritzia dress paired with red Western booties. I wake B. up to ask him a question, and he pulls me in for a snuggle I don't have time for, but he's the sweetest man in the world and watering the flowers can wait.
8:45 a.m. — I stop by Kroger and spend too long trying to pick out cheeses. I settle on a gouda and a cheddar, which is probably overboard. $13.79
12:30 p.m. — My coworkers and I break for our fancy lunch — assorted meats, cheeses, crackers, fruit, seafood salad, veggies, two desserts, and lemonade.
5:30 p.m. — I get home from work and snack on chips and guacamole in between doing chores (laundry, litter box, dishwasher). Dinner is grilled chicken, rice, sautéed peppers, and onions. A friend comes over and brings the biggest, juiciest strawberries and a six-pack of Diskin Cider as a housewarming gift. She, B., our roommate, and I hang on the patio eating strawberries and drinking cider until my roommate leaves and B. goes to band rehearsal. My friend and I continue hanging on the patio while I sand and paint my nightstand. It used to be a shabby-chic yellow and is now a slick, shiny navy.
9 p.m. — My friend takes off to meet a date, and I decide to take a bath using a Lush bath bomb and Lush face mask. As usual, I only last about 15 minutes until I get too hot and get out. I crawl into bed with my kitten and read until I fall asleep.
Daily Total: $13.79
Day Six
7:45 a.m. — It's Friday and raining outside, so I sleep in for an extra 15 minutes. Water, tea, skin care, and makeup, and then I get dressed in a vintage cream silk blouse and wide-leg black and white polka dot pants. For breakfast I have a slice of coconut bread with jam. I have a few extra minutes to journal and play with the cat. I scoop her up to kiss her goodbye, and she bites me on the nose.
12:30 p.m. — Free lunch today! We order Indian food, and I get a chicken tandoori coconut curry bowl.
12:45 p.m. — I spill neon yellow curry down my shirt.
3:15 p.m. — It's been a slow day at work, but I finally get a fun project: scout a voiceover actor to narrate a video. I spend the afternoon listening to voice-actor reels. I receive an email confirming $172.50 was deposited in my account for the photo-booth event last weekend. I ended up staying a bit later at the event, so I guess they paid me for the extra time!
5:30 p.m. — CMA Fest is taking place in downtown Nashville, so traffic is wild and my commute home takes a bit longer. B. and I are shooting our friends' live show tonight. When I get home, I eat my leftover Indian food and then get the cameras ready. We pack up the car and head to the venue.
9:45 p.m. — The first band was killer! It's a live recording as well, so they provide free beers and BBQ chicken for the crowd. I have a couple beers while shooting and eat some drumsticks between sets. After the show, we head to our favorite beer and burger dive, Dino's, with the band and some friends. My cut for the shoot is $100, and the band pays us in cash. I don't eat, and our friend buys us a round of beers. After the bar we head to a friend's house for no reason.
Daily Total: $0
Day Seven
9:30 a.m. — I wake up and remember that I need to send some work emails. I'd love to sleep in, but I know I'll just have anxious thoughts or dreams until I get up and do my work. I send the emails and then crawl back in bed with B. to snuggle. We get up, and I make us egg scrambles with spinach, cherry tomatoes, avocado, and salsa and slice some coconut bread. B. pours us some cold brew he made earlier in the week and squeezes fresh grapefruit juice into two Topo Chicos. We eat our breakfast on the porch, and then I weed the garden and sing and play ukulele for the plants. My Roma tomatoes have fruited! Surely it's due to my singing and not the 24 hours of rain we've just had.
11:50 a.m. — B. goes to return the camera lens he rented for last night, and I jump in the shower. His band is playing a one-day mini arts and music festival today, and some friends also invited us to come play wiffle ball and camp out on their property in the country. I want to do both things because FOMO. B. gets home and runs through his set. I take my time getting ready while listening to Crime Junkie. I dress in a white vintage Mexican embroidered top, white high-waisted shorts, and Swedish Hasbeens wood platform sandals. While I wait for B. to finish up, I drink lemonade and read on the porch.
3:30 p.m. — We head over to the festival, and as soon as we arrive, we order some tacos from the Thai truck — BBQ pork and spicy guacamole folded into roti. I also order a Thai tea ($16.81). The tacos are huge and come in twos, so I eat one and give the other to a friend. We watch some incredible bands, hang with all of our buds, window-shop the vintage booths, and have our portrait drawn Picasso-style by an eight-year-old brilliant entrepreneur. We don't have any cash, but the festival set up Venmo for him, so I send $5. I get a free drink ticket from B.'s band but end up purchasing too many more throughout the day. $42.81
10.45 p.m. — The fest ends and we're exhausted, so we skip the camp-out at our friends' property and head home to watch the Miley episode of Black Mirror. We're in bed by midnight.
Daily Total: $42.81
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On Thursday, Kim Kardashian West, who has been getting serious about her legal career, returned to the White House to once again speak about criminal justice — and to announce a new partnership with Lyft to provide formerly incarcerated people with rides to job interviews.
"I'm so happy to announce today that we have a ride-share partnership where formerly incarcerated people will be gifted gift cards so that they can get rides to and from job interview, to and from jobs, family members," Kardashian West said.
The social media influencer announced in a video posted to Twitter earlier on Thursday that she would be visiting the White House again to speak at the Second Chance Hiring and Re-entry Event. The event was promoting the hiring of prisoners released under the First Step Act, a criminal justice reform law President Donald Trump signed into law in December 2018. Kardashian West first visited the White House a year ago to advocate for the release of Alice Marie Johnson, a 63-year-old woman who was sentenced to life in prison for a first-time drug offense.
Kim K also shared a moment with Ivanka Trump, who has been involved in advocacy for the First Step Act. Ivanka praised her “passionate advocacy” on criminal justice reform, and Kardashian West tweeted back thanking her "for helping me to start this amazing journey of fighting for people who truly deserve a second chance!"
Thank you @IvankaTrump for helping me to start this amazing journey of fighting for people who truly deserve a second chance! https://t.co/wdltrPtrFo
— Kim Kardashian West (@KimKardashian) June 14, 2019
Jessica Jackson, a human rights attorney who has been instrumental in this movement and who has been helping Kardashian West with her legal career, previously told Refinery29 that she was at first a little skeptical about Ivanka's participation. "At first, I had my doubts. What I knew about Ivanka and Jared [Kushner] is everything you read in the news," said the Democrat. "I live in the Bay Area — It’s the heart of the resistance. I’ve definitely seen a different side of them up close and personal." But then she saw that Ivanka genuinely wanted to be involved.
Before making her announcement, Kardashian West spoke about Johnson and her visits with other prisoners, which inspired her to provide support for formerly incarcerated people. “I’m happy to help and [support] where I can,” she said. “Seeing the lack of support that really existed, whether it’s housing, or the amount of letters that I get with people just needing transportation to job interviews, to jobs.” The reality TV star also shouted out attorneys Jackson and Erin Haney of #Cut50, a national initiative to reduce the prison population, whom she’s been assisting since she began pursuing a career in the legal field.
#Cut50 played an instrumental role in the passage of the First Step Act, a rare bipartisan effort that has resulted in reduced sentences for 1,051 crack offenders (91% of whom are Black). “Late last year, we fought tirelessly to pass this law, leading a bipartisan coalition of grassroots advocates, formerly incarcerated leaders, and Members of Congress,” Jackson and Haney said in a statement to Refinery29. “Let’s keep this momentum going by making sure those who are coming out of federal prison are given support and empathy as they take the next step in their lives.”
“Everyone wants the community to be safe. The more opportunity ... that [formerly incarcerated people] have, and the support that we help give them, the safer everyone will be, and the recidivism rate will just continue to get lower,” she said.
According to a 2018 report from the Bureau of Justice Statistics, five out of six state prisoners were arrested at least once within nine years of their release.
For most of our adolescent and adult lives, at-home acne-treatment tactics have been limited to over-the-counter creams and doctor-prescribed topicals. But when you need to phone a friend to zap a pesky pimple and can't make it to a dermatologist to pull out the big guns (hello, cortisone shot), acne patches are the real MVP. The innovation has exploded in the skin-care world, and many brands have successfully been able to put the power of acne-fighting ingredients into teeny stickers that put the kibosh on your breakout.
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With thousands of lighting fixtures, sofas, and so much more to choose from, you’re bound to find a few items that fit nicely with your interior design aesthetic — and at an affordable price point, too. The Home Depot has always been committed to giving its customers great deals — and its decor line is no exception. From a space-saving kitchen cart to a plush, six-piece towel set for less than $30, THD proves turning your home into a beautiful place doesn’t have to cost you a small fortune.
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On Sunday's episode of KUWTK, Kardashian West decides that consulting with a so-called "medical medium" is the next stop on her quest to calming her still-incurable condition. With Kourtney by her side, Kardashian West meets with Anthony William, who claims to be the first and only "medical medium," with 1.9 million Instagram followers and four books that have made it to the New York Times best-seller list.
For the record, William is not a doctor, and has never attended medical school nor had any formal training. Rather, in an interview with Refinery29, William says that since the age of four, he has heard a voice that he refers to as "Spirit." He says that Spirit tells him advanced medical information — ahead of science and research, he claims — about people close by him. "Just like you’d hear your best friend talk to you in your ear, that's how I hear the voice," William says. "It’s not like other mediums, where they hear it inside their head or they get a vision or they see a color or see something like that. I’m hearing it as if someone’s talking to me. It’s actually quite annoying."
In the latest episode, you see William approach Kardashian West, close his eyes, and move his hands lightly over her body. This is how most of his initial analyses go, according to William, who also claims that Kardashian West reached out to him directly via Instagram to appear on the show.
"I'm not only hearing Spirit deliver the medical information, but I’m also busy looking for things inside the body," he says. "What happens is that I start going blind and there’s all this white light, and so I start losing my vision. When I lose my vision, Spirit is looking inside Kim’s liver and telling me what’s going on in there."
As you see on the show, he ends up telling Kardashian West that an abundance of copper in her liver is what's causing her psoriasis to flare up. While there's no telling if his diagnosis is accurate, studies have shown that there is a link between high serum copper levels and psoriasis. "The spirit is literally saying, 'Inside her liver, she has an abundance of toxic copper, and that’s what’s being released out to her skin in a process that’s occurring through a viral issue, which is causing this psoriasis,'" William says.
His proposed cure? Drinking a lot of plain celery juice, which William believes contains a compound that can get rid of copper in the body over a long, indeterminate period of time. "It's the sodium cluster salt inside celery juice," he claims. "This miraculous phytochemical compound — I learned all this from Spirit — the sodium cluster salt enters the liver and binds onto copper, and starts to disarm copper and flush it out of the system so it’s not always going up to her skin."
William considers himself the originator of the "global celery juice movement," claiming that drinking it daily can help heal everything from psoriasis and acne to constipation and high blood pressure. Plenty of celebrities have publicly declared that they're on board with his plan, including Pharrell Williams, Miranda Kerr, and Debra Messing. And celery juice does have proven benefits: It's packed with chemical constituents that can help prevent ulcers and inflammation, in addition to containing a phytonutrient called phthalides that can actually reduce blood pressure. But is it the miracle, cure-all ingredient Williams claims it to be? Not necessarily, and it should be noted that many studies on celery juice have been done on rats and mice in a laboratory setting, so we don't know the long-term effects on humans yet.
Again, William is not a doctor, and has never attended medical school or medical classes. He is also not a trained nutritionist, and has never taken nutrition classes or courses. But nevertheless, his following is massive: According to William, in addition to those celebrity fans, he's met with 250,000 individuals in the past 35 years of marketing himself as a medical medium, all while selling books that spread the knowledge Spirit tells him and contain recipes for the juices he believes to be beneficial. He also has a number of YouTube videos that show anyone with internet access how to make these juices properly.
William says he first met Kardashian in late January or early February, and Kardashian West has posted multiple times about her psoriasis flare-ups since then. In mid-March, amidst one of these flare-ups, she actually posted about drinking a Blueberry Detox Smoothie, the recipe for which came from William himself. When we mentioned that Kardashian West still seemed to be struggling with the condition, William again noted that drinking celery juice has proven benefits over a long period of time — not just over a few weeks.
Of the nonbelievers, William says: "I don't blame them one bit. Everybody’s a skeptic about something. But these skeptics should take a look at the testimonials on Instagram from women who are telling their story, and they’re being honest and truthful and no one’s being paid to do it. No one’s being prompted. People’s lives are being turned around."
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