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    On November 14, the administrators of Kaj Baker's private all-girls' dorm, Scottish Rite Dormitory at the University of Texas at Austin, called her into their office for a chat.

    SRD Director Mary Mazurek and SRD registrar Meshelle Bourne told Baker, a freshman, that some people at the dorm weren't comfortable with her girlfriend Carlee coming over.

    "We’re trying to make sure that everybody — all 315 residents — feels more comfortable," Mazurek said in the meeting with Baker, according to the video by The Daily Texan below. "And sometimes that takes compromise on both sides to do that."

    They brought up that she had stayed over for three nights, until 3 in the morning. SRD is a private off-campus dorm that only houses women. According to its contract, men are only allowed at certain times if they're escorted, but female guests are allowed anytime and can stay overnight. When Baker brought this up, the administrators agreed that she hadn't broken any rules.

    That's when Baker realized that she and Carlee were being targeted for their sexuality. "They told me that from this point forward, I was not allowed to have any guests over," Baker told Refinery29. "When I asked them why, they told me that my girlfriend and I make people uncomfortable, and that people are not comfortable with my sexual orientation at the dorm." She said SRD has not contacted her since.

    "I hope that in the future, SRD staff does not use a resident's sexual orientation to justify a guest ban," said Baker.

    According to The Daily Texan, Carlee said she hadn't even been showering at the dorm or using the dining hall. "Every time I’ve gone there, we’ve gotten looks," Carlee said. "At the beginning, people didn’t really know who I was, but then that all kind of subsided, and people have been really nice to us. So it was just surprising that they were trying to say that now I wasn’t allowed to be there."

    Baker said that she now feels uncomfortable staying in the dorm, and has been staying at Carlee's apartment.

    "They were telling me that SRD is conservative, we're not UT," she said in the video. "UT is liberal with whom they let in the dorms, we're not, the girls parents pay $10,000 a year to live here and you're making people uncomfortable. ... And I guess it hurts that they're saying other people don't feel comfortable in the dorm because of us, but honestly, it's the reverse."

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    Depending who you ask, flirting can feel like a delightful game of witty repartee or an awkward conversational dance where no one knows the steps. If only there was a cheat code that let you know what sort of joke or remark would impress the person you're flirting with before you even opened your mouth.

    Well, if you mainly hang out with horoscope readers, knowing someone's Zodiac sign can at least hint at the right way to approach them. Not that every Leo will respond to the same exact come on, but you can bet that a Pisces will prefer a softer approach than, say, a hot-headed Aries. And, it's safe to say it will always take a unique icebreaker to impress an Aquarius.

    Whether you want to impress that cutie at the coffee shop or chat up your neighbor from downstairs, you can learn a lot about how to connect with them if you know their sign. And, if you don't know their astrological identity, just go with the old chestnut: "So, what's your sign?"

    Catch their interest with: overt innuendo.

    Talk is cheap, said an Aries, probably. If they're attracted to you, a Mars-ruled Ram won't tiptoe around the matter — they'll come right out and tell you. So, if the feeling is mutual, let them know ASAP, preferably with an eyebrow-raising remark that borders on explicit but stays firmly within the bounds of flirty. Making an Aries blush is a sign of great bravado and a move they won't forget anytime soon.

    illustrated by Mallory Heyer.

    Catch their interest with: a direct approach.

    This down-to-earth sign knows what they want and they'll respond if you show them that you do, too. You might touch their arm while you're chatting (as long as they're amenable to being touched). You might maintain eye contact. You might just tell them straight away that you're interested in going on a date — yes, it can be that simple when flirting with a head-games-averse Taurean.

    illustrated by Mallory Heyer.

    Catch their interest with: wit.

    Can you keep up? A Gemini won't just respect you if you can keep pace with their mile-a-minute conversation style — if your wit dazzles them sufficiently, they'll want to bring you home to mom and dad. Have your best one-liners and humorous observations at the ready and don't forget to brush up on the news before chatting up someone born under the sign of the Twin.

    illustrated by Mallory Heyer.

    Catch their interest with: chat up their friends.

    To quote the Spice Girls: "If you wanna be a Cancer's my lover, you've gotta get with that Cancer's my friends." Most Crabs maintain a close-knit group of friends who mean the world to them — and their opinions are just as significant. This doesn't mean you should spend the night buttering up everyone who came out with the Cancer you're interested in, but don't ignore them, either. Show that you mesh with the whole group.

    illustrated by Mallory Heyer.

    Catch their interest with: your full attention.

    Wanting to date a Leo is like vying for a Best Supporting Actor Oscar — excellence is a must, but so is willingness to direct the spotlight elsewhere. After all, Leo is the star lead of the Zodiac. These folks love being showered with attention, so try talking to them apart from the group or in a quieter part of the bar, to show that they completely have your ear.

    illustrated by Mallory Heyer.

    Catch their interest with: little favors.

    There are a few consistent truths about this world: Death is inevitable, we don't deserve dogs, and most Virgos are tired. You're bound to impress them if you can beat them to one of their many, many tasks, no matter how small. Maybe you pick up the tab before they ask for it or maybe you bring them a coffee the next time you meet up. Sure, they might be annoyed if you didn't do it exactly the way they like to, but the gesture will have a major impact all the same.

    illustrated by Mallory Heyer.

    Catch their interest with: flattery.

    For the record, we're not calling every single Libra shallow, but if there ever was a sign that knew how to take a compliment, it's this Venus-ruled air sign. Libras tend to take great care in how they present themselves to world, and acknowledging that with a meaningful remark (don't be creepy) will boost their confidence. Point out something that makes them stand out from the crowd.

    illustrated by Mallory Heyer.

    Catch their interest with: the cold shoulder.

    Alright, that's probably an overstatement — don't needlessly play hard-to-get, but don't worry about being too outgoing, either. This private water sign likes to reveal personal details gradually, as they feel more comfortable around a date or new partner, and you can follow suit. In fact, some Scorpios have a bit of a detective streak, so maintaining an air of mystery may actually make them want to get to know you better.

    illustrated by Mallory Heyer.

    Catch their interest with: going full cornball.

    Save your silliest, most eye-roll-worthy pickup lines for the next time a Sag chats you up. Not only will they actually keep talking to you after you drop a ridiculous one-liner, they'll likely get a genuine belly laugh out of it. Members of this sign rarely take themselves too seriously and they're drawn to those who maintain a similar sense of humor. Save your smoldering gaze for someone else.

    illustrated by Mallory Heyer.

    Catch their interest with: sarcasm.

    Caps are used to being the most acerbic people in the room, so they're bound to notice when someone tops their scathing remark with one of their own. One of the Zodiac's biggest proponents of tough love, Capricorns actually tend to respond well to dark humor and teasing, especially when it's directed at themselves. Don't worry, if you go too far with your ribbing they'll put you in your place — all in good fun, right?

    illustrated by Mallory Heyer.

    Catch their interest with: a startlingly deep question.

    It's no secret that Aquarians think a little differently than most. They're the innovators, the geniuses, and the quirky best friends of the Zodiac. Asking them something unexpected, something they haven't had to answer in a million dating profiles, will let them know that you want to them to feel comfortable showing their most eccentric side. If you ask us, lead with a question about their thoughts on AI.

    illustrated by Mallory Heyer.

    Catch their interest with: self-deprecation.

    With some signs, confidence is key — we're looking at you, fire signs. But, a sign like Pisces, which values vulnerability and sensitivity over bluster, is much more likely to hit it off with someone who's willing to poke fun at themselves. Crack a little joke about how you're always late or took the wrong train to get to the party, and they'll start to warm up. Pisces are drawn to humanity, and what's more human than admitting your little imperfections?

    illustrated by Mallory Heyer.

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    Nick Jonas and Priyanka Chopra's blink-and-you'll-miss-it whirlwind relationship progression is finally culminating this Saturday, December 1 (at least we think!), in the wedding we have all been waiting for. While it won't be live-streamed like the royal weddings of 2018 (even though, ahem, it should be), we are giving the Jonas-Chopra nuptials the royal treatment and tallying up their soon-to-be combined net worth once they are bound in holy matrimony.

    After bouncing onto the scene in 2005 as the youngest (and, IMO, cutest) of the Jonas Brothers, the singer, 26, parlayed his family band's early success into a solid solo career in 2014 — the biggest source of his wealth. In addition to his many Billboard Hot 100 hits, Jonas has also graced the big and small screens in both Jumanji and Scream Queens, and he's had two stage appearances in Les Miserables and Hairspray. According to, Jonas is worth a total of $25 million.

    In 2017, Chopra, 36, was ranked #7 on Forbes' list of Bollywood's highest paid actors, where her starring role in the TV series Quantico and advertisements for Pantene, LYF smartphones, and Nirav Modi were noted as the top contributors to her wealth. Forbes estimates that Chopra earned $3 million per season of Quantico. But Chopra is truly a triple threat: in addition to the acting career we know her best for, she won the Miss World competition in 2000 and, before Hollywood, had a prolific film career in Bollywood, where she reportedly earned $1 million per film. She was even a pop star for a while there — in 2013, she released a song called "Exotic," featuring Pitbull. The UNICEF Goodwill Ambassador also owns Purple Pebble Pictures, a production company focused on small-budget films, as well as investment properties in India. According to Yahoo! Finance, Chopra is worth a total of $28 million.

    We stan a Hollywood power couple, and the soon-to-be newlyweds (who, together, are worth a combined $53 million!) certainly fit that description.

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    Think about the last time you walked into a Victoria's Secret. Maybe it was the 'Buy 5, Get 2 Free on Thongs' sign that pulled you in. Or perhaps you had to swing by for your fifth consecutive bachelorette party this year (will they ever end?!). Regardless of why you were there, chances are you took a quick stroll through the beauty section, picked up that purple Love Spell body mist, and spritzed it on your wrist — for nostalgia's sake, of course.

    If you're still a sucker for those sugary, sexy scents that bring you back to your first training bra, Victoria's Secret just announced a huge BOGO beauty sale. From now through December 11, both online and in stores, when you buy one VS beauty product — a sparkly body lotion or a matte liquid lipstick — you'll get a second, lesser-priced product for free, when you use the offer code 'GET1FREE' at checkout.

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    The best-selling Victoria's Secret fragrance — Bombshell, fittingly — smells of fresh-cut grass, sunflowers, and, for many of us, the 7th grade.

    Victoria's Secret Bombshell Eau de Parfum, $55, available at Victoria's Secret

    This gift set includes a purse-sized fragrance mist, a sparkly pink body lotion, and calls itself 'Pure Seduction.' Throw it in with a lace teddy, and your bachelorette gift is done.

    Victoria's Secret Mini Mist & Lotion Gift Set, $15, available at Victoria's Secret

    Crush is a cult-favorite VS scent and, despite its youthful name, actually something we'd still wear today. A spicy floral, it's sexy without being cloyingly sweet.

    Victoria's Secret Crush Fragrance Lotion, $25, available at Victoria's Secret

    Looking to cop the tanned, glowy legs of a Victoria's Secret Angel? This gradual tanner — just $9 with any other purchase — can get you pretty close.

    Victoria's Secret Perfect Tan Gradual Self Tan Lotion, $18, available at Victoria's Secret

    Last year, four VS Angels — Candice, Elsa, Jasmine, and Sara — made their own, personalized liquid lipstick s. Right now, you can grab all four shades for the price of two, and wear your favorite while watching show. Finger's crossed it withstands pizza grease...

    Victoria's Secret Velvet Matte Cream Liquid Lip, $14, available at Victoria's Secret

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    The vast majority of humans have naturally dark hair, which might be why it seems that blonde hair gets so much damn attention. These days, it's nearly impossible to have a conversation about changing your hair color and not hear the sun-kissed shade come up. But do blondes really have more fun? Maybe, but they also have breakage, brittle ends, and more dates with their colorist than Bumble prospects. Sure, going blonde can be great, but being a fresh brunette shade has its perks too — and we’re not the only ones who think so.

    At the start of this year, Riawna Capri, celeb stylist and co-founder of Nine Zero One salon, told us that rich, warm colors were in and cool, ashy hues were out. Turns out, she wasn't wrong. After a whirlwind summer filled with creamy, golden blondes and velvety redheads, the brunettes are finally about to hit their peak again. So, if you're looking to warm things up for winter, keep clicking for the best brown hair color options that we're predicting will be huge this season.

    Dark Chocolate
    Let's start with It model Bella Hadid and her new dark chocolate hair. Just ahead of the 2018 filming of the Victoria's Secret Fashion Show, the model got a color refresh with Jenna Perry at New York's White Rose Collective.

    Perry told Refinery29 that she was inspired by the Victoria's Secret catalogs from the '90s for the look. Although most of Perry's clients pay her a visit for balayage, it's a darker look like Hadid's that she predicts will be all over the streets in 2019.

    Photo: Michael Stewart/Getty Images.

    Perry often looks to the runways of the '90s for brunette inspiration since highlights were far less common then. "It's modern with a retro feel," Perry explains. "The '90s are influencing us so much right now. If you look back, everyone was very single-process, one-tone dark. I think it's sexy."

    Many colorists will opt for a gloss to give natural brunettes rich, refreshed results like this. Daniel M, a colorist at Nova Arts Salon, says that a gloss will also keep darker hair from looking flat.

    Justin Anderson, colorist and co-founder of dpHUE, tells us it's not that uncommon that women prefer darker hair colors in the fall and winter. It's the season of cozy activities, so why not have your new shiny hair match?

    Toasted Chestnut
    If you look closely at some natural brunette hair, you'll notice red undertones. The "toasted chestnut" trend simply enhances what you were born with, packing a punch with the help of a red-tinted gloss or a few highlights.

    Perry says she prefers mixing red into brunette hair colors because it adds warmth to the skin. Priyanka Chopra's highlights are minimal (and slightly grown-out), but serve as the perfect example of a minimal change with maximum impact.

    Elisabeth Lovell, co-founder of the Whiteroom in Brooklyn, recently told us that brunettes might worry the addition of red undertones will turn their hair brassy, but she has a solution: the Christophe Robin hair mask in Warm Chestnut. It wards off brassiness and keeps your color rich and shiny.

    Typically, the lifetime of any hair color depends on the person and, most importantly, their products. Perry is a fan of Rahua shampoos and Olaplex for long-lasting color.

    Cold Brew
    We get it: Kicking the blonde addiction can be tough — but it's not impossible. That's exactly why the "cold brew " hair color trend that exploded this summer is sticking around this winter. Not only is it universally flattering, but it's an easier shade to rock when you're used to being light.

    NYC-based colorist Stephanie Brown tells us that the key to achieving this brunette is to ask your stylist to ribbon rich highlights and lowlights through your hair for dimension. "It’s all about swirling neutral and golden tones down the hair," Brown explains. "Just like when you pour a little bit of milk into your coffee."

    Anderson tells us that he often looks to someone like Lily Aldridge when hunting for brunette inspiration. Since she focuses most of her highlights on her ends, the look isn't just low-maintenance, but it will last months.

    And if you prefer to keep the blonde as minimal as possible, that works, too! Brown says a few painted pieces of golden blonde weaved throughout the head should do the trick.

    Illuminated Brunette
    We call this the shade of brunette that's doing the most. Straight out of Brazil, the "illuminated brunette " trend includes painting one-inch pieces of hair several shades lighter than your natural color, while keeping the shadow-y root completely intact. All the rage in São Paulo, exactly where you can find hairstylist João Bosco 's Salon 1838, think of this as the new balayage trend your group chat will be blowing up about.

    Good news: The grow-out won't drive you crazy. If you're a lighter shade of brunette by birth, ask your colorist for highlights and lowlights to darken everything up for the season.

    Naturally deeper brunettes should opt for rich reds all over the head. Bonus: This looks so good on curls thanks to the instant depth and movement the illuminated highlights add.

    Cindy Crawford probably didn't go to Brazil for this look, but her toasted, auburn-y brown is perfectly pretty. Want to copy it? Anderson recommends using a shampoo that caters to brunettes for long-lasting results, like dpHUE's Cool Brunette Shampoo.

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    Primer is divisive. There are those who swear by it — and have the Instagram-ready skin to prove it — and those who think the stuff is a pore-clogging, breakout-causing nightmare. To be honest, we're not entirely sure where we stand. As with all products, there are some amazing priming bases out there, but we've also fallen victim to heavy, sticky, flaky formulas. So we asked the skin pros: Could this makeup step be doing more harm than good?

    Ahead, we answer four of the most common questions we get about primers — and whether or not that extra step in your routine is worth it.

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    A: If you break out, it’s most likely that the issue already existed underneath the surface of your skin before you even put primer on.

    Dermatologist Dendy Engelman, MD, tells us that anything can cause your breakout, and while new products can be catalysts for irritation, odds are the addition of the primer just pushed your skin to its breaking point. Dr. Engelman says you most likely already have some underlying inflammation, excess sebum, and irritation bubbling beneath the surface, so those are the issues to target, rather than ditching the primer altogether.

    Solving those issues begins during your morning skin-care routine. Consider investing in exfoliating tonics to clear out your pores before you do your makeup or using a daily serum formulated with a gentle BHA, salicylic acid, to keep acne away.

    From the outside, this does not look like your regular primer — probably because it works harder, better, and faster than the rest. Yes, it's a balm, but it's the kind that leaves your complexion silky smooth — and grease-free! — in seconds.

    Tatcha The Silk Canvas Protective Primer, $52, available at Sephora

    A: Not all primers contain ingredients that are comedogenic (in other words, pore-clogging).

    Beauty chemist Ni’kita Wilson explains that not all primers — and their ingredients — will contribute to excess oil production, greasy T-zones, or breakouts. If you have acne-prone or oily skin, then you should be more aware of what your skin type can handle, but the primer in itself isn’t entirely responsible for clogged pores. Wilson says a lot of other makeup products can get into pores, like finishing powders. If you have oily skin, it is easier for them to get caught in excess sebum, making them harder to remove. But if you are a primer devotee and hate hearing this, consider adding a deep cleaning tool, like a cleansing brush or a konjac sponge, into your regimen each night so this won't be such a problem.

    Just in case your makeup angers your acne, this primer neutralizes redness so no one will ever have to know just how irritated your skin is. Its other talents: mattifying, smoothing, and treating (yep, it's formulated with pimple-busting ingredients, like zinc, sulfur, and kaolin clay).

    bareMinerals Blemish Rescue Anti-Redness Mattifying Primer, $26, available at Sephora

    A: If you want to make your makeup last all day long, this step could be crucial.

    Dr. Engelman explains, “Most primers contain some sort of polymer and silicone that act like a second skin to allow makeup to adhere to it better. They also fill in lines and creases to create a smoother, more even appearance.”

    If you’re really set on not using primer, there are alternatives. Dr. Engelman suggests hyaluronic acid to plump, caffeine to reduce dimpling, and retinoids for a collagen boost. Adding these products and ingredients into your daily skin-care routine can make the need for a oil-preventing primer obsolete. These options, however, won’t keep your makeup from melting off on a Saturday night. In that case, opt for a setting spray that can be used before and after your makeup is finished.

    Not into going full matte? This setting spray locks in makeup, but adds a dewy glow that lasts hours. Bonus: Its alcohol-free formula is super-hydrating.

    Cover FX Dewy Finish Setting Spray, $31, available at Sephora

    A: Primers containing silicone can have a blurring effect, but you can get similar results from other primers.

    Silicones tend to get a bad rep because the name itself implies synthetic and unnatural, but we’ve got news for you: Most things you put on your skin, hair, and nails are mostly likely "unnatural." Primers containing silicone do make your makeup look better and last longer, and they are especially useful if a blurred, pore-less effect is what you're searching for. Bottom line: Silicones will smooth lines, extend the wear of your foundation, and help the rest of your makeup apply more evenly. But keep in mind, other primers have benefits, too. "The non-silicone-based products could do the same thing, but the degree to how well they work depends on the ingredients being used," says Wilson.

    Unfortunately, silicones are made to essentially act like glue. RealSelf contributor Eric Schweiger, MD, explains that if the polymers are formulated with a comedogenic ingredient, they can lock it into the pore all day long, which can lead to clogging and breakouts. If you're not willing to risk it, opt for a water-based primer instead. Sure, it won't be as powerful as its competitor, but it's a primer all the same.

    If you're looking for makeup that doubles as a skin-care step, look no further than this smoothing and hydrating primer. Water-based and packed with vitamins A, C, and E, it's fit for all skin types – a perfect pick if you're too scared to use silicone primer.

    Laura Mercier Foundation Primer, $38, available at Sephora

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    Ever wanted to send an Insta Story of your face-mask selfie (or drunk selfie on a bad Tinder date) to just your best friends instead of your entire Instagram following? Well, starting today, you can. Behold the app's newest feature: Close Friends.

    Think: Myspace Top 8 and Snapchat Best Friends, but less petty. Close Friends is a private list of your inner circle, which makes it easier to share your content with the people you like the best. But don't worry — you're the only one who can see your list, and you can change it at any time.

    So how does it work? The list lives in the right-hand panel of your profile, where you can find your Saved posts. To access it, simply click on the green "Add" button next to your friend's handle to include them on your list. Now when you go to post a Story, you'll find a green-starred "Close Friends" button on the bottom left corner of your screen that you can press to send your personal content to your handpicked group — for the moments you want to share but not with your entire following (including you know, your mom's friend from college or your aunt or your boss).

    Until now, users have been able to take photos or videos and DM them to friends, but this feature changes the game by turning the content from DM into a Story. If you're on someone's Close Friends list, their photo will show up in your Stories lineup with a green ring, and their Story will have a green badge marking it as a Close Friends Story.

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    Up next in sweater innovations: open back sweaters. They may seem unintuitive — a piece of clothing created to keep you toasty in the coldest months has a gaping hole in the back? — but we’re slowly coming to appreciate all the layering possibilities of backless sweaters. Use them as a window to subtly showcase another top or as an opportunity to show off a little skin, even when it's chilly.

    In the ever-evolving experimentation of making sweaters more exciting, open back sweaters (also referred to as reversible cardigans) are on the come up. They're already available in all shapes and sizes from a thin or thick rib knit to cable knit or intarsia varieties. So ditch that striped sweater you've been keeping in your cart and head straight for this cozy new trend instead.

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    Whether it’s the smell of just-baked ginger cookies that takes you back to your grandmother's kitchen or a whiff of an aftershave that reminds you vividly of a teenage kiss, the time-traveling potential of fragrance can stop you in your tracks — and as we approach the dark days of winter, scent is a powerful force in mentally transporting you back to the happy, sunnier times of summer. Catch a sniff of a tropical flower like hibiscus (the hero scent in Soap & Glory's new Call Of Fruity range) and you’ll find yourself miraculously on a faraway tropical island.

    Smell and memory are intrinsically linked unlike any of our other senses. Fragrance expert Roja Dove explains that this is because smell is processed in the olfactory organ, which is located in the most primitive part of our brain. "Scent, the oldest sense, was developed for survival — to search for food, escape danger, and to find a mate," Dove says. This means our olfactory organ, essentially millions of nerves, has an impressive ability to recall scents we have previously encountered. "As the olfactory message enters the brain, it passes the area where cognitive recognition occurs and a positive or negative association is formed," continues Dove. "When we encounter the same odors again, it will stimulate the most primitive parts of our subconscious, triggering an association that we generally refer to as a memory."

    This is why we can often feel floored by these flashback moments. "Odors work like a cat burglar," explains Dove. "They intrude unannounced into our minds and soul, and when revisited, they unlock the floodgates of memories and emotions, leaving a profound imprint in our mind." However, when we use scent to our advantage, it can be positively influential. "Scents themselves have positive associations and make us feel safe, secure, happy, and well."

    This is where the joy of fragrance comes in. The right choice can dramatically alter your mood; for instance, citrus and fruit aromas are known for their revitalizing abilities. "These notes inject life and boost vitality," Dove adds. "Think about the effect of someone peeling an orange in a stuffy train carriage — it instantly recharges the stale, stagnant air."

    While you might think fragrance is only for perfume, we can also dial up its power via our body- and skin-care rituals. As winter draws in and crawling out of bed proves even more problematic, a ritual including scented products can wake you up and instill that summer feeling to set the tone for a brighter day ahead. Zingy bergamot orange is your best bet when looking for an energizing scent. "You smell citrus notes further up the nose, which means these materials do quite literally lift you up," Dove tells Refinery29. "Bergamot is the most enjoyable citrus note to be energized by as it doesn’t have an acidic or sour edge." When it's combined with tropical notes like melon or hibiscus, in your shower gel for example, it becomes a place that reminds you of your favorite summer memories — from sandy beaches to happy-hour cocktails. Try Soap & Glory's Call Of Fruity Bubbles In Paradise Refreshing Body Wash™ to instantly feel like you’re on island time.

    Much like our clearer, sunnier outlook on life, our skin tends to fare better in summer, too. As the cold and dehydrating winter weather arrives, so do roughness, pesky dry patches, and lackluster skin. In order to emulate that smooth and glowing summer skin, it pays to amp up your body-care routine when the temperature cools. Start with an exfoliating scrub like Soap & Glory’s Call Of Fruity Summer Scrubbin’ Cooling Body Scrub™, which buffs away dead skin cells using coconut shell and pink jojoba balls, leaving your skin ready for the next step.

    Post-shower and scrub, lock in moisture and that summer aura by covering yourself in a scented moisturizer. Ingredients like coconut oil, cocoa butter, and aloe extract will help hydrate and soothe in equal measure, while remedying dry, cracked winter skin in next to no time. Soap & Glory’s Call Of Fruity No Woman No Dry Hydrating Body Butter™ offers all this in one tub.

    For those midday moments when you’d give anything for a magic carpet to whisk you from your computer screen to the lounge chair, use fragrance as a form of escapism. Keep an on-the-go hand cream like Soap & Glory's Call Of Fruity Hand Food™ in your work locker or handbag for a spot of deskside dreaming.

    While our body- and skin-care routines may alter during summer and winter, the mood-boosting abilities of these self-care rituals shouldn't be underrated. After all, as Dove puts it: "Scent can be likened to a bunch of keys. When revisited, they unlock the floodgates." And as the days get shorter and darker, it’s reassuring to know that the feel-good summer vibe is just a shower away.

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    From Barbie dolls to baby showers to modern-day millennials to Janelle Monáe videos, the color pink has long had a fan base that's diverse and ever-changing. Right now Hollywood is showing the color some love with stars like Julia Roberts, Kylie Jenner, Amber Rose, and Halsey all dyeing their hair shades like baby, flamingo, and even neon Post-it pink.

    Although it seems like a great shade for someone just starting to tinker with hair dye, there are a few things to keep in mind if you're looking to channel your inner Jem. This isn't a shade that can go on just anyone, as hairstylist Lewis Pallett, who just dyed Suki Waterhouse 's hair pink, told us. "Brunettes and dark blondes will get a completely different shade of pink compared to people with light or bleached blonde, and dark brown may not get any difference at all," Pallett says.

    And so if you do have darker hair, a brighter, bolder pink would be an easier color to achieve as opposed to a pastel. Also, since it can be hard to get exactly the shade you want, it is vital to pay attention to how long you're keeping that dye on. "When dealing with color, there’s really no set time for how long to leave it on," Chris Appleton, who dyed Kylie Jenner's hair pink in September, says. "You need to watch it, wipe some off the hair to see what’s going on underneath, and keep checking until you get the desired color... Less is more, especially with frosted colors."

    To keep your preferred pink shade vibrant, Appleton recommends using a sulfate-free shampoo as well. If you're careful with all these steps, you'll undoubtedly be left with a hair color that makes you look equal parts chic and daring. See how your favorite celebs are rocking this hue, ahead.

    Finally free from her role on Game of Thrones, Maisie Williams debuted new bubblegum pink hair on her Instagram Stories while sending a message to her fans in Brazil. Since GoT wrapped, a number of Williams' co-stars have also had hair transformations, including Emilia Clarke, who got a pixie cut, and Kit Harington, who cut his long Jon Snow locks.


    Julia Roberts' subtle pink highlights were a happy accident. As she revealed on Jimmy Kimmel Live, the new color was a result of dressing up as a flamingo for Halloween, so we take it this isn't a permanent look.

    For a mysterious project over the weekend, actress Suki Waterhouse posted a picture of herself on Instagram with a whole new look: bright pink highlights. According to Pallett, he achieved the look with just one can of $10 Schwarzkopf Live Color spray in Candy Pink.

    "I went over each section several times to build up the color," Pallett tells Refinery29. "When you do this, the hair becomes wet, so wait for it to dry, brush the hair, and then reapply. This gives you different shades and tones, so some bits are slightly darker while others are slightly lighter." The dye itself completely rinsed out in just one wash, which is a shame because this color rules.

    Courtesy of Lewis Pallett

    Since her latest role has her wearing a wig almost 24/7, actress Kiersey Clemons decided now was the time to experiment with her color, dyeing her tips a glorious neon pink for a hidden bit of self-expression.

    The men of Hollywood are even in on this trend, with Jonah Hill joining Hollywood's pink pack. This unlikely hair hero of ours debuted bright neon pink hair early this year, and frankly we've yet to recover.


    Chewing Gum actress and writer Michaela Coel showed how girls with natural hair can rock this trend beautifully earlier this year, dyeing her closely shaved head a light baby pink.


    Similar to Suki, Kylie Jenner also got her pink hair on the cheap. Hairstylist Chris Appleton mixed two different shades of pink Lime Crime Unicorn Hair Tint — Kawaii and Bunny, both $16 — to get just the right frosted pink shade.

    "It was a collaboration," Appleton told Refinery29. "We were speaking about different colors and decided to go with a frosted pink, with more of a candy tint to it. The great thing about going blonde is that you can easily add a sparkle of color to change it up. I love this shade of pink we did because it’s warm on the skin, but more importantly, this shade is super frosted, soft and versatile."

    Less bubblegum and more rose pink, Halsey dyed her buzzed hair this lovely deep pink shade, and then proceeded to wear outfits that matched the color exactly for the next few months.

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    Eyeliner can be the saving grace of the time-strapped. A quick swipe and you've got a statement makeup look that takes no time to create. But liner is also notoriously finicky — who hasn't accidentally wiped their eye only to smudge that practiced flick? Suddenly, your perfectly defined gaze is looking more raccoon than ravishing.

    Fortunately, there is a fix for this problem: long-wear liner. These stay-put pens, pots, and pencils grab tight to your lid and hold on for dear life. They're so good, you might find your only issue is how the hell to get them off. (Hint: We love a good cleansing oil for this particular task.)

    Ahead, the eyeliners you can trust to stay in place — no matter what you throw at them.

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    A 2-in-1 product is music to a beauty enthusiast's ears, especially when it allows you to easily change up your look. This long-wear liner has a precise tip on one end for when you want a clean line, and a smudger tip on the other side for when you're ready to transform into a smoky look.

    Milk Makeup Long Wear Gel Eyeliner, $22, available at Sephora

    This formula lasts for 24 hours, which is amazing, but it's the felt-tip brush that won our hearts. Read: It's very precise.

    Dior Diorshow On Stage Liquid Eyeliner, $30.5, available at Sephora

    Don't let the intense pigment of this liner scare you away. It packs on color but stays right in place with its waterproof and sweat-resistant formula.

    Bobbi Brown Long-Wear Gel Eyeliner, $27, available at Sephora

    Fenty Beauty global makeup artist Hector Espinal told us that this new liner is one of his favorite products from the brand. Why? He praises its long-lasting formula: "I feel like I can do anything with it and it won't budge."

    Fenty Beauty By Rihanna FLYLINER, $20, available at Fenty Beauty

    At under-$3 this felt-tip black liner is as good as the pricier stuff. It's long-wearing, jet-black, and never skips or drags on our lids.

    Jordana Fabuliner Liquid Eye Liner, $2.89, available at

    This liner manages to cling to our eyelids for hours and comes in four neutral hues.

    NARS Eyeliner Stylo, $28, available at Sephora

    Behold: A liquid liner we can't stop talking about. The opaque pigment really lasts, plus it's easy to control and has the chicest packaging.

    Eyeko Eye Do Liquid Eyeliner, $17.6, available at Eyeko

    Marc Jacobs Beauty has managed to fuse the precision of a gel and the ease of a pencil into one user-friendly product that doesn't budge once it sets. That's a long way of saying it's great for those of us who don't moonlight as makeup artists.

    Marc Jacobs Beauty Highliner Gel Eye Crayon Eyeliner, $25, available at Sephora

    There's nothing outdated about using gel eyeliner in a pot. The formula is smooth enough that even the most shaky-handed amateurs can draw a perfect cat-eye. Plus, the product lasts for months.

    Chanel CALLIGRAPHIE DE CHANEL Longwear Intense Cream Eyeliner, $35, available at Chanel

    If the innovative wand isn't cool enough for you, the slick liner will seal the deal. With one of the smallest brush tips we've ever used, this liquid formula is crazy precise and dries almost instantly. The unique, bendable wand makes for tight control and easy application — even for liner amateurs.

    Lancôme GRANDIÔSE Bendable Liquid Eyeliner, $32, available at Sephora

    Sure, the formula is trustworthy and stands up against sweat, but it's the wide variety of colors that hold our interest. From baby blue to olive green, this set has you prepared for any occasion or mood.

    Stila Stay All Day Waterproof Liquid Eye Liner, $22, available at Amazon

    This one will last through an hour-long gym sesh, dip in the pool, and even a light showering of rain. (We tested.)

    Urban Decay 24/7 Glide-On Eye Pencil, $21, available at Sephora

    This formula promises the intense, concentrated color of a liquid liner, plus the silky finish of a gel, all with the convenience of a pencil. It’s a tall order, but it delivers — and, yes, it lasts all day.

    Pixi Endless Silky Eye Pen Gunmetal , $12, available at Target

    Pair this with the fan-favorite Lights, Camera, Lashes Mascara. It's long-lasting and adds just enough drama to your look.

    Tarte lights, camera, lashes liquid eyeliner, $20, available at Tarte

    Makeup artists, editors, and bloggers alike have raved about this drugstore gel eyeliner for years. Once slicked onto the lids (just use the A+ brush that comes with it) the formula allows for some time to blend before it dries — and once it does, it's not going anywhere.

    Maybelline Eye Studio Lasting Drama Gel Eyeliner, $9.99, available at Ulta BeautyPhoto: Courtesy of Maybelline.

    This tried-and-true liquid eyeliner has a super-fine tip, making it ideal for tracing on a cat-eye. Plus, the long-wearing formula doesn't get flaky, even if you head out straight after work. (And stay out well past midnight.)

    L'Oréal Lineur Intense Felt Tip Liquid Eyeliner, $9.99, available at Ulta Beauty

    For those of you looking for a long-wearing, no-tug liquid liner, this one will be right up your alley. It also has a high-satin, rich-girl finish we're mad about.

    Chantecaille Le Stylo Ultra Slim Liquid Eyeliner, $34, available at NordstromPhoto: Via Nordstrom.

    Although we can't say we've worn this eyeliner-eyeshadow hybrid for 24 hours straight, we have counted on it to get us through two conferences calls, three appetizers, and um, a few aperitifs. We're happy to report the color held up the whole time.

    Too Faced Bulletproof 24 Hour Eyeliner, $17.05, available at Walmart

    Take this option for a spin if drawing on the perfect cat-eye still intimidates you. The applicator has a flex tip for easy control and the pigment is water-resistant.

    Almay Liquid Eyeliner, $7.99, available at Ulta Beauty

    Make Up For Ever's Aqua XL line is famous for its waterproof formulas, so you can bet these brand-new liquid liners are going to be bold, in-your-face, and budge-proof for hours — even when you work up a major sweat.

    Sephora Aqua XL Ink Eye Liner, $24, available at Sephora

    You never know what you can find when you're browsing your favorite clothing retailer's site. Exhibit A: This liquid eyeliner. Our test for long-lasting wear involved a stellar cat-eye and even faux freckles. To much surprise, every last ink mark lasted through sweat and rain.

    & Other Stories Eye Marker, $15, available at & Other Stories

    Sir John's tip for applying these ultra-pigmented babies? Draw a tiny dot at the side of your eye, then slowly wing out to create the shape. "If it's after dark, [or] after a couple of glasses of rosé, no one's paying attention to how level they are," he says.

    L'Oreal Paris Paints Eyeliner, $9.99, available at L'Oreal Paris

    Unlike our favorite pencil liners from the '00s, this option doesn't turn the whites of our eyes red or smudge every time we blink.

    Natasha Denona Eye Liner Pencil, $18, available at Sephora

    The Cadillac of liquid liners, this formula’s staying power is so intense that it’s almost scary — in the best way. If you’re looking for a liquid eyeliner that will not budge (save for an oil cleanser to take it off at the end of the day), this one’s for you.

    Lorac Front of the Line PRO Liquid Eyeliner, $23, available at Ulta Beauty

    The easiest, creamiest, longest-wearing pencil you’ll ever use, it makes inferior liners feel like chalk by comparison.

    Make Up For Ever Aqua XL Eye Pencil Waterproof Eyeliner, $21, available at Sephora

    Since legendary makeup artist Pat McGrath is behind this liner, you can bet on its long-wear stamina. If it can last on Bella Hadid's eyes down at hot runway, it will definitely stay on your lids through an eight-hour work day.

    Pat McGrath Permagel Ultra Glide Eye Pencil, $25, available at Sephora

    The pen's curved tip can be angled wherever you need it be. No more jagged lines!

    Maybelline Curvitude Liner, $7.99, available at Ulta Beauty

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    Is there anything more ceremonious than dragging a matchstick across a rough sandpaper-lined box, dipping the running flame to a fresh candle wick, and breathing in your favorite holiday scent? It's that smell — fresh balsam (like breathing in a pine tree) or the sticky sweet smell of a pipping hot cinnamon roll (the kind you crave on a chilly Sunday morning) — that truly kick-starts the season.

    And now, you can get the jar you love — the jumbo, 3-wick variety — for just $8.95. This Saturday, December 1, is National Candle Day across America and Bath & Body Works is dropping a one-day sale to celebrate. When you shop the sale online or in stores, you'll get any extra-large Bath & Body Works candle for under $9, which is a major steal considering that these bad boys typically retail for $24.50.

    Ahead, we have all the new, holiday-scented candles we're buying this weekend. And we recommend shopping the sale hard — grab a candle for your mailman and yoga instructor, too — because National Candle Day only comes around once a year.

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    Picture squeezing a tall, bushy pine tree in a glass jar. Lighting this candle smells just like that.

    Bath & Body Works Fresh Balsam 3-Wick Candle, $8.94, available at Bath & Body Works

    If your ideal holiday evening involves a seat by the blazing fireplace cradling a mug of creamy eggnog spiked with a heavy pour of rum, this candle is going to be right up your alley.

    Bath & Body Works Butter Rum Eggnog 3-Wick Candle, $8.94, available at Bath & Body Works

    The bright red color might scream seasonal, but the crisp apple smell wafting from the jar is delightfully subtle.

    Bath & Body Works Winter Candy Apple 3-Wick Candle, $8.94, available at Bath & Body Works

    This candle smells like digging into dessert — a warm gooey brownie topped with a large scoop of mint chocolate chip ice cream.

    Bath & Body Works Peppermint Brownie 3-Wick Candle, $8.94, available at Bath & Body Works

    Citrus can feel super summer-y , but when you blend zesty lemon with orange and sweet mango essential oils and call it Snowflakes and Citrus, you've got a fresh take on the holiday candle.

    Bath & Body Works Snowflakes & Citrus 3-Wick Candle, $8.94, available at Bath & Body Works

    The candle for when your chilly Sunday morning calls for a steamy cinnamon roll, dripping with thick, sugary white icing.

    Bath & Body Works Cinnamon Caramel Swirl 3-Wick Candle, $8.94, available at Bath & Body Works

    And this one smells like biting into a tangy cranberry that's been rolled in fine-grained sugar crystals for a touch of sweetness.

    Bath & Body Works Frosted Cranberry 3-Wick Candle, $8.94, available at Bath & Body Works

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    On her sophomore album, The Pains of Growing, Alessia Cara, now aged 22, looks into the abyss of some of life’s scariest moments and sets them to upbeat songs.

    On the album’s debut single, “Growing Pains,” Cara (this year’s Best New Artist Grammy winner) struggles ostensibly with growing up and all the attendant, anguished self-awareness (“I cry / more than I want to admit but I can't lie / to myself, to anyone / cause phoning it in isn’t any fun”). On “7 Days,” Cara offers an update to the infamous “What If God Were One of Us” examining the idea that God has turned his back on everyone, blaming Instagram fame and television for humanity’s undoing. Life on tour (and reruns of Friends) make up “Wherever I Live,” while disillusionment with an unclear cause is the focus of “All We Know.” And there is a breakup; the toxic relationship looms large over every other song on the album, including “Trust My Lonely.”

    There’s a lot of pain to explore here, along with some growth for Cara, who wrote all the lyrics on this album herself. At times, this leads her to something extraordinary, like “Out of Love,” where Cara examines the push and pull in relationships with piano balladry reminiscent of Alicia Keys. Less successful is the silly pop fluff of “Nintendo Game,” where she contextualizes a relationship as a showdown. Overall, the album follows an upbeat pop sound that belies the bleak themes it explores.

    This doesn’t always work. While Cara is brave to bare her soul with such rawness– and it feels like a genuine attempt to connect with listeners – she encounters some trouble communicating musically. The evolution is necessary for every artist, and Cara’s early teenaged success has granted her a measure of freedom to explore. Now that she’s ventured even further out emotionally, the next phase would seem to be stepping further out into the world of more experimental music production.

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    If we're lucky, most of us have at least one friend that is there with us through everything: someone who is just as game to tolerate our incessant workshopping of dating-app openers and complaints about work drama as they are to celebrate our promotions and finally getting over our exes. And while a festive holiday candle is always a solid gift, our ride or dies deserve a little something extra for all that love and care they give us 365 days a year.

    That's why we've curated this list of 13 extravagant (or, at the very least, extravagant- feeling) gifts to give your BFF this holiday season: from a plush Turkish cotton robe to Ferrero Rocher ® luxurious gold-wrapped fine hazelnut chocolate. Click through to check out our favorite posh presents for that friend who always goes above and beyond. It's time to finally give back.

    The best part of staying at a nice hotel — besides room service, of course — is the ridiculously soft robe that awaits you in the closet. While your budget might not allow you to gift your friend a proper hotel stay, you can get them that cozy white bathrobe to recreate the feeling at home. This one is made from 100% long-staple Turkish cotton and is so comfy, they might even sleep in it.

    Parachute Classic Bathrobe, $99.00, available at Parachute.

    A truly restful sleep is a gift in and of itself, and you can help your friend achieve it with this sleek, satin-front eye mask. The back of the mask is made with charcoal-powder-infused organic cotton, which helps reduce the appearance of puffiness while the slight pressure of the pillowed fabric eases tension. In other words, it's perfect for that one friend who's always seeking out an extra hour of beauty sleep before your weekend brunch date.

    Morihata Binchotan Charcoal Eye Mask, $26.00, available at Poketo.

    If there's nothing that brings your friend more joy than really amazing chocolate, opt for something a little more elegant than your standard bars. Ferrero Rocher ® fine hazelnut chocolate, wrapped in gold foil and arranged in a box, are just as delicious as they are beautiful.

    Ferrero Rocher Fine Hazelnut Chocolates, $8.47, available at Amazon.

    While your friend's of-the-moment Bumble fling and the surprise flowers they keep sending may not last through cuffing season, you can gift them something that will stand the test of time: a subtly colored glass vase that turns an average bouquet of carnations into a jaw-dropping centerpiece.

    Spartan Shop Balefire Glass Suspension Vase in Iris Gold, $82.00, available at Spartan Shop.

    Your workaholic friend could probably use a little something special to get their mind off of that end-of-the-year project (even if just for a few seconds). This aromatherapy oil can be added to the tub, dropped inside a pillowcase, or massaged onto the temples for peak peace of mind, no matter if your friend needs a second to chill, inspire, relax, or reboot; the set comes with four oils to do it all.

    Naturopathica Aromatic Alchemy Gift Set, $98.00, available at Naturopathica.

    If your friend is the kind of person who programs their coffeemaker at night so they can have a fresh cup as soon as they get out of bed, there's a good chance they can't function without three cups every day (at the bare minimum). Feed their coffee obsession with this pristine glass and copper French press, a luxe way for them to brew coffee on those lazy weekend mornings when a quality cup of joe is much preferred.

    Yield Glass French Press, $85.00, available at Otherwild.

    Instead of getting your friend yet another candle, try a home scent that's a little more unexpected. This intricately foil-stamped box comes with 25 incense sticks in a variety of scents, so they can set the right ambiance — whether they're looking for a 4 p.m. detox with iris, juniper, mandarin, and patchouli or they're trying to add a moody background scent of amber, clove, lavender, and oak moss to that 12 a.m. Netflix binge.

    Cinnamon Projects Incense, $30.00, available at Coming Soon.

    No vanity is complete without a large, lavish mirror that doubles as storage for all those serum dropper bottles. Give the friend who notoriously applies mascara in the reflection of their phone something that will turn their makeup routine into an intentional part of their morning. This mirror can be turned up, down, and all around, taking their vanity from basic to beauty-vlogger-worthy.

    Normann Copenhagen Flip Mirror, $120.00, available at Danish Design Store.

    If you let us loose in a jewelry store, we could easily rack up a bill with pieces that fit our personal style. But jewelry shopping for someone else can feel next to impossible. These gold earrings are a safe bet and an easy way to treat your BFF: The square cuff shape is a modern take on your traditional hoop, but they aren't so trendy that they'll go out of style within a year.

    GLDN Eileen Cuff Hoops in 14K Gold Filled, $34.00, available at GLDN.

    Even if your friend's cooking skills are more boxed mac 'n' cheese than beef bourguignon, an elegant cooking staple is always a nice treat. Instead of getting them a cookbook or a decorative mug, gift them the ultimate chef's-kiss moment: black Burgundy truffle, the perfect finishing touch to any pasta, sauce, or takeout fries.

    Mikuni Wild Harvest Black Burgundy Truffle, $39.00, available at Food52.

    A face mask infused with real 24-karat gold is just the kind of over-the-top gift your closest friend deserves. This mask firms up skin and leaves behind a radiant glow, with golden flecks that sparkle like the crown of a certain newly minted Duchess of Sussex. It's a treatment that looks (and feels) like something straight from a five-star spa and is the least you can do to repay your friend for that time you woke them up at 3 a.m. to watch the royal wedding.

    Peter Thomas Roth 24K Gold Mask Pure Luxury Lift & Firm Mask, $80.00, available at Sephora.

    Whether your friend leans into the homebody lifestyle all year long or they're just looking to survive their apartment's inconsistent heating schedule, a faux-fur blanket is just what they're missing. This one, with a gradient gray, brown, and white animal-like pattern, looks like the real deal, but it's consciously made of acrylic and cotton.

    H&M Faux Fur Throw, $79.99, available at H&M.

    Your friend might not know the difference between an Old Fashioned and a Manhattan, but that shouldn't stop them from feeling like they could make a fancy cocktail if they truly wanted to. To help them feel like the mixologist of their dreams, get them a deluxe bar-top set like this one, with marble and brass fixtures that give it a certain air of 1950s glam.

    West Elm Deco Bar Tools Set in Brass + Marble, $79.00, available at West Elm.

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    Let's just say it: Sticking to a budget while traveling is extremely difficult. Not only are flights and lodging pricey, but activity fees, cabs, and on-the-go meals can add up quickly. And don't even get us started on stuff like exchange rates and foreign transaction fees. But just because we're watching our bank accounts doesn't mean we're cool with missing out on seeing the world.

    There are plenty of small strategies you can implement while traveling that will help save dough without ruining the fun and spontaneity of being in a new place. In some cases, it might even make your experience feel more authentic. We asked four bona fide travel experts — women whose passport stamps inspire serious FOMO — to share their strategies for saving money on everything from flights to food. Read on to hear what they had to say.

    "Be flexible with your travel dates," suggests Beth Whitman, a women's travel expert and the founder of "When searching for flights, if you can be flexible on the day and time you’re flying, you can search for the least expensive options and book accordingly. Most airlines and online travel agent sites give you the ability to choose flexible dates to find the best fares."

    While this can be difficult if you're trying to be somewhere for a wedding or holiday, if you work at a company that allows you to sometimes work from home (or you just have extra time off you can take), consider flying to your destination a little or earlier or leaving a little later than you normally might.

    "With most people trying to get home in time for work, airlines usually hike up the prices for weekend flights. Instead of traveling back on Sunday, which tends to be a peak day, try flying home Monday or Tuesday to avoid the extra costs," agrees Ariana Pierce, a travel influencer and the founder of Style & Travel Girl.

    While Airbnb is a great temporary housing resource, it's a misconception that it's always going to be cheaper than a hotel. "A seemingly cheap Airbnb or homestay option may not be so cheap after additional fees are included at the time of booking," cautions Alyse, the blogger behind The Invisible Tourist. "In some cases, homestays may end up costing more than an actual hotel room, especially for only a few night’s stay. Be sure to compare accommodation prices on various websites and shop around for the best deal."

    Pierce also suggests being open to staying in hostels, even if you're no longer in your early 20s. "If you are set on having your own room and bathroom, those options are also available and more than likely will be less than your average hotel room. Plus, it’s a great place to meet new people and make friends," she explains.

    "Carry healthy snacks with you on the plane so you don’t have to rely on expensive airport or plane food. Consider an apple with a packet of Justin’s Almond Butter or a mix of nuts and dried fruit," Whitman says, echoing the sentiments of some flight attendants we recently spoke to. After all, why shell out for pricey airport food that's rarely tasty or wholesome when you could pinch your pennies until you reach your (hopefully delicious) destination?

    This one is for all of you intrepid travelers abroad: "In some countries, restaurants have separate menus for locals and an English menu aimed at tourists. Depending on the country, this creates a problem when the pricing on the English menu has been set much higher than the local one to rip off unsuspecting visitors," says Alyse. "By learning a little of the local language beforehand, know what to order off the locals’ menu to save money avoid being scammed." Who knew?

    Even the most popular destinations typically have an "off season," and if you can find out when it is (and don't mind potentially not-so-great weather), that's the time to travel there on the cheap.

    "Many times, you will find that plane tickets, hotels, and activities cost less, which makes for a great vacation and — the best part — less tourists," Pierce says. "For example, Quebec City has an amazing deal at the Fairmont Le Chateau Frontenac where they are offering Christmas in November for guests to get significant discounts this season. What I love about this is that you can save money and stay at a luxurious hotel."

    Okay, so it's kind of annoying getting text alerts and promotional emails all the time, but sometimes, it's worth it — literally. "Most companies love to reward their subscribers with deals and specials as a thank you for signing up and being a loyal customer," Pierce says. "Take some time to join your favorite airline and hotel’s newsletter, and watch for daily deals that come through for various destinations."

    If you really don't want all that stuff clogging up your inbox, Pierce suggests opening a special email account just for those kinds of messages. Why didn't we think of that?

    While its tempting to rely on taxis and Ubers in a foreign city, they can be a real money-suck. "Walk at your destination rather than taking a taxi," Whitman suggests. "You’ll definitely save money but you’ll also see more sights at a slower pace and have more interactions with local people."

    If walking really isn't an option — say you're going to or from the airport, or you're staying in a place that's off the beaten path — Alyse suggests doing a little research ahead of time to figure out how best to get around. "It’s easy to find out the most cost efficient way to get into the city centre, which is usually by train or bus. An added bonus is you’ll get a realistic glimpse into local life at your destination," she says. And it could mean the difference between shelling out $40 and saving that cash for shopping or food.

    If you're staying in a house or apartment in your destination, remember that you can save serious money on food by making your meals there.

    "A hidden value in using vacation rentals is the money you save not eating out. I’m not saying you need to eat every meal in, but the savings add up when you cook for breakfast or lunch a few times while you’re away," explains Melanie Fish, HomeAway's resident travel expert. "Most vacation home owners provide basic spices and condiments so no need to overspend at the grocery store. If the house information isn’t clear on what’s included, it’s perfectly fine to message the homeowner and ask before you travel."

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    Hot tools can do a number on your hair — and that's true no matter your texture, affinity for trying new colors, or the season. That's why leave-in conditioners are a godsend, particularly for natural, curly, and color-treated strands, because they can help save you from a world of damage.

    While liquid formulations typically get a bad rap during colder months because they can harden (making hair brittle and prone to breakage), they're perfect for the more hospitable seasons — so, whenever it's not freezing cold outside. And while the handy product won't make your overall routine any less time-consuming, by making your hair more manageable, it will making getting out the door in the morning that much easier.

    Keep reading to see pro and staff picks for the leave-in conditioners and treatments that leave our locks soft as can be.

    At Refinery29, we’re here to help you navigate this overwhelming world of stuff. All of our market picks are independently selected and curated by the editorial team. If you buy something we link to on our site, Refinery29 may earn commission.

    Best On A Budget

    If you're currently working with dry, overprocessed curls, this $8 leave-in spray is a must-have. Just spritz it through damp hair as a primer before adding your usual curl-defining gels, creams, or oils for a boost of softness.

    Not Your Mother's Royal Honey & Kalahari Desert MelonLeave-In Conditioner, $4.49, available at Ulta Beauty

    Best For Coily Hair

    There are some products that don't live up to their own names, and then there's Miracle Milk: a xylose and coconut oil-based formula that gives the driest curls a brand-new lease on life with a few spritzes all over. Naturalistas love it so much that Mizani upgraded the size to a jumbo 13.5 ounce bottle.

    Mizani 25 Miracle Milk Leave-In Treatment, $30, available at Ulta Beauty

    Best For Dry Hair

    If you forget to re-twist your hair on a late night, a few spritzes of this magic elixir will hydrate your curls instantly. Pro tip: Spray it directly into your hands then finger-comb it through for the best results.

    Taliah Waajid Daily Leave-in Conditioner , $8.98, available at Amazon

    Best For Colored Hair

    Leave it to argan oil to nourish and replenish curls even on your worst day. Safe for colored, relaxed, and textured hair, this repair cream penetrates deep to soften strands — without a ton of fuss. Our editors swear by it.

    Cantu Leave-In Conditioning Repair Cream, $7.26, available at Walmart

    Best For Thick Hair

    "For thick hair, it's all about replenishing [lost] moisture," says hairstylist Adir Abergel. He loves applying this treatment once a week.

    Leonor Greyl Tonique Hydratant, $43, available at Leonor Greyl

    Best For Definition

    "I love using Iles Forumla Hair Serum as a leave-in conditioner," says Gregory Russell, whose clients include Lily Collins, Nicole Richie, and Hailee Steinfeld. "It softens the hair without being heavy, provides a light amount of definition, and makes your hair feel hydrated. For coarser textures, be a little more liberal with the product."

    Iles Formula Finishing Serum, $44, available at Neiman Marcus

    A-list celeb hairstylist Marcia Hamilton recommends this castor oil-packed leave-in conditioner/shine gel hybrid for smoothing and adding definition. "I really love this gel for shaping all baby hairs," she says. "It's alcohol-free and sulfate-free, so it doesn’t cause dryness. Plus, it leaves a really nice shine."

    SheaMoisture Strengthen & Grow Conditioning Shine Gel, $10.69, available at Target

    Best For Blondes

    "Three or four quick sprays into my hands is enough to make my dry, knotty hair far more manageable," says R29 senior beauty editor Lexy Lebsack. (Tip: Never mist leave-in sprays directly onto hair, which practically ensures an uneven application.) "Whether I air-dry overnight or blowdry, my hair is smoother, softer, and free of tangles. It's lightweight and never greasy, with a hit of protein for stronger hair. It's nothing like any detangler I've tried, because as soon as you apply it, it soaks in instead of coating strands or adding a heavy feeling."

    Unite Hair Care 7 Seconds Detangler, $29.5, available at Unite Hair Care

    Best For Frizz

    "My favorite leave-in is Shea Moisture's," says Danielle Priano, who works with Selena Gomez and several Victoria's Secret Angels. "I would only use this one if you're going to wear your hair curly to keep the frizz out. If you have thin, straight hair, it will make it look a bit greasy."

    SheaMoisture Strengthen & Restore Leave-In Conditioner, $12.86, available at Walmart

    This curl-friendly formula works wonders for vacation days you want to keep frizz at bay. While it works just as well on freshly-washed hair, if you need a second-day revival, just dampen curls with some water and you can reapply another pump of this — no added buildup included.

    Living Proof Restore Repair Leave-In, $30, available at Amazon

    Best For Fine, Fragile Hair

    "My clients who [have] weak, overly dry, and thinning hair benefit from this product greatly," says Lisa Scott, MC Lyte 's hairstylist. "It's somehow both weightless and intensely moisturizing." We don't get it, but we won't question it.

    Carol's Daughter Mirabelle Plum Leave-In Conditioner, $11, available at NaturallyCurly

    Best For Dull Hair

    "This spray is my life," celebrity stylist Kristin Ess said in a product description. "It creates completely weightless shine and detangles better than any other leave-in I've ever used. It seals in moisture and can bring dull hair back to life over time."

    Kristin Ess Weightless Shine Leave In Conditioner, $10, available at Target

    Tight coils that suffer from an extreme case of dull frizz will benefit most from this leave-in formula. With a few pumps, your curls are revived to their shiniest form. Bonus: Continued use helps strengthen your hair so that, in the future, you might not have to worry so much about a dehydrated style.

    Vernon François Leave-In Conditioner, $28, available at Sephora

    Best For Targeted Application

    “Leave-in conditioner is to curly hair what gas is to a car. And finding a good leave-in that gives your curls definition without weighing the hair down is a task," Shan Boodram, author, sexologist, and YouTuber tells us. "DevaCurl is my boo, but I only use it on the top pieces — I prefer the middle to have zero product, so I get frizzy volume goodness!”

    DevaCurl SuperCream , $28, available at DevaCurl

    Best For Fine Hair

    "It's super silky, but doesn't weigh your hair down," celeb stylist Jenny Cho says. "It's great for thinner hair that needs conditioning, but doesn't leave it feeling greasy."

    Sachajuan Leave In Conditioner, $31, available at Sephora

    For Color-Treated Hair

    Ask any colorist how to best maintain your dye job and they'll just tell you to wash it less. Each wash can fade your color, but that doesn't mean you can't condition your hair between washes. This conditioner can be applied to dry hair to smooth, detangle, and moisturize.

    Amika Silken Up Dry Conditioner, $24, available at Sephora

    Color-treated, damaged, and dehydrated hair can all reap the benefits of this lightweight leave-in. It's formulated with macadamia oil and vitamin B5 to soften tangled strands and give them shine. It also has UV protectants to keep your color from fading in the sunlight.

    O&M Know Knott Conditioning Detangler, $30, available at Sephora

    Best For Heat-Damaged Strands

    Consider this leave-in treatment a multivitamin for your hair. It's packed with bond-building amino acids that leaves any texture softer, smoother, and shiner after one use.

    It's a 10 Miracle Leave-in Product, $18.52, available at Ulta Beauty

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    Special counsel Robert Mueller is investigating Ivanka and Donald Trump Jr.'s role in attempting to build a Trump Tower skyscraper in Moscow, according to a Yahoo! News report.

    The news was confirmed on Thursday when Michael Cohen, President Trump's former attorney, pleaded guilty to lying about the proposed deal to Congress. Multiple sources confirmed to Yahoo that Ivanka, a senior White House advisor, and Don Jr., the president's oldest son, worked on the project. A "separate source familiar with the investigation" said Mueller had asked questions about their work.

    In Mueller's charging documents against Cohen, Cohen reportedly lied that he had "briefed family members" of Trump's who worked at the Trump Organization about the building project. Both Ivanka and Don. Jr. were then executives at the organization; Ivanka has given up her role since joining the White House.

    The duo reportedly ended their efforts in 2013, and their efforts were separate from Cohen's. "They were not looking at any other deals after that," the source said. They were, however, aware of Cohen's efforts. "Michael was looking at that deal. Don and Ivanka knew about it and Don testified to the Senate Judiciary Committee that he was peripherally aware of it," the source said. "That’s why we’re so perplexed Cohen would lie about briefing them, because no one’s ever disputed that they knew he was looking at it."

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    Welcome toMoney Diaries , where we're tackling what might be the last taboo facing modern working women: money. We're asking millennials how they spend their hard-earned money during a seven-day period — and we're tracking every last dollar.

    Today: a freelance writer working in media who makes $130,000 per year and spends some of her money this week on Perrier.

    Occupation: Freelance Writer
    Industry: Media
    Age: 38
    Location: Idaho Falls, ID
    Salary: $130,000
    Paycheck Amount: I don't really have a typical paycheck. I invoice at the end of each month, and then the clients pay based on their net 15 or 30 status. My income doesn't vary a whole lot, though. It usually fluctuates between about $8,500 and $12,000 a month.

    Monthly Expenses
    Rent: $1,095 (I rent a 2,400-square-foot home that I live in with my son.)
    Utilities: $120
    Federal Student Loan Consolidation: $219
    Gym Membership: $149 (But I'm seriously reconsidering this now that I'm back to full-time freelance.)
    Hulu: $11.99
    Spotify Family: $14.99
    Netflix: $9.99
    Internet: $113
    Car Insurance: $167 for two cars (for me and my son) plus renter's insurance
    Life Insurance: $40
    Health Insurance: $347 (Bought on the state exchange, just for me, since my son is on his dad's insurance.)
    My Son's 529 Plan: $400
    IRA: $458
    Travel Fund: $350 (I keep it in a taxable investment account.)
    Short-Term Emergency Savings: $200 (I use a tiered strategy where after it reaches a certain level, the excess goes into a taxable investment account for long-term emergency savings.)
    Allowance For My Son: $150
    House Cleaner: $240
    Lawn Care: $200

    Day One

    2:30 p.m. — My friend comes over with tools to help shore up our house's sagging deck. I don't want to pay to re-do the deck because I live in a rental, but I do want to be able to use it. My friend figures out how to reattach a support and takes care of it. I Venmo him the money to cover the tools and the short amount of time he spent making it happen. $50

    6 p.m. — A load of firewood I ordered is delivered. Last winter, I discovered that using the fireplace throughout the winter could save me a substantial amount of money each month. So this year to prepare I ordered a full cord of wood. The guys deliver the wood, and I ask them to stack it. They charge $15 on top of the cost of wood and delivery ($250), and I'm pleased enough with their speediness that I add a little extra as a tip ($35). $300

    Daily Total: $350

    Day Two

    12:30 p.m. — It's been a busy morning with two client calls and some work. However, my good friend is leaving tomorrow for a few weeks, so I make time for lunch — my treat. We head to a new downtown Indian restaurant and order dishes to share. He gets a beer, but I need to stay on top of my game so I don't drink. I'm chair of a county political party, and I need to hustle to get ready for tonight's event headlining our gubernatorial candidate and featuring other local candidates. $32.56

    2:15 p.m. — I need a few things for tonight's event, so I head to Walmart. I don't usually shop there, but I need to find supplies fast, and the locally-owned craft store is on the other side of town. I buy some cute buckets with chalkboards for candidate donations, and a liquid chalk pen to write on them. I also grab some general office supplies, including paper for the campaign HQ printer and some sticker name tags, just in case candidates want to identify themselves. I decide to consider the purchase an "in kind" donation to the party. $53.20

    Daily Total: $85.76

    Day Three

    2:30 p.m. — I wear lash extensions, and today is my day for a fill. We do a partial fill because I just had a full fill last week, but I'm going out of town soon, and my aesthetician also has a trip coming up. We worked it out so that I could do a partial fill this week and then come back for my regular appointment just before my conference so the lashes will last through her trip as well as mine. The cost is $25 plus tip. $32

    2:55 p.m. — My son calls to tell me that the car has stopped working. He managed to make it to a friend's house, but can't get any further. He's had trouble with it since we took it in for tire rod end replacements, and we had planned to take it to a mechanic after school. He asks me to bring radiator fluid since it's dry. I stop at the store on my way to his friend's house to grab what we need. $15.83

    3:35 p.m. — There's something wrong with the radiator (or hose, or head gasket, or thermostat), so we fill the radiator and head towards the mechanic, my son driving his car. It gives out three-quarters of the way to the shop in the middle of the road. A stranger helps us push it to a gas station and I call a tow, which doesn't arrive for 40 minutes. I buy us junk food at the gas station so we can bond over hardship. I get myself a frozen coffee drink, and he chooses an iced tea. We split a brownie and a bag of gummy bears while waiting. $7.63

    4:50 p.m. — Time to pay the tow bill. I'm not thrilled that it cost $75 to tow the car a mile, but I didn't want to risk the car breaking down again and again as we tried to get it to the mechanic. We leave my son's car, get into mine, and head home. $75

    6:30 p.m. — My son is safely at home, eating leftovers and FaceTiming with his father, sharing tales of the harrowing afternoon. I, however, drive 30 minutes to the state fair to volunteer at the party's booth. I get settled in with my boothmate and then announce that I'm going to grab dinner. I get a bottle of water for $2, pay $8 for a turkey sandwich made with thick slices of homemade bread, and leave $2 in the tip jar. $12

    Daily Total: $142.46

    Day Four

    12 p.m. — It's manicure day! I get a 45-minute mini-spa gel manicure. I really felt like I needed the self-care after yesterday. $37.50

    1:50 p.m. — I'm starving — I haven't eaten all day because I had a packed morning before heading to the salon. I stop at my favorite downtown sandwich stop on my way to campaign HQ, where I need to take care of a few political things. I get a bottle of water for $1 and the lunch special (BLT with avocado on wheat, and a bag of salt and vinegar chips) for $10.95. I leave a $2 tip. $13.95

    7:30 p.m. — A friend and his wife surprise me and show up to check out our political HQ as I'm closing up. They invite me to visit a cool little print shop a couple blocks away. We head over. The print shop features a 130-year-old hand press. The owner shows us how it works, and I decide to buy some handmade and hand-colored cards. They're expensive, but I love them because they'll go great with special occasion gifts for close friends and family. $75

    9 p.m. — After leaving the print shop, my friends say they want to try the new Indian restaurant. I've already eaten there this week, but agree to go with them because I figure I can try something new on the menu, and we haven't had a good talk for a while. It's my turn to pick up the tab, so I pay for dinner, but they leave the tip. $63.82

    Daily Total: $190.27

    Day Five

    1:30 p.m. — It's the first Friday of the month, so I meet with my county political party executive committee. I'm running late due to client work and giving an interview to a publication. We meet at a downtown bagel place, but because I'm late, I wait until after the meeting to grab lunch. I get turkey and provolone on a bagel and spring for a bottle of Perrier. The meal costs $10.75, and I leave a $2 tip. $12.75

    4:30 p.m. — I have another shift at the fair booth, and this time my son and his friends are hitching a ride so they can go to the fair. On the way home to pick them up, I stop to fill up the car with gas. No one wants to be stranded on the side of the freeway with three teenage boys. $40

    5 p.m. — Just before my son's friends arrive, I hand him a $20 bill. It's meant for food at the fair. He has to pay for his own rides and merch, but I'll make sure he's fed. Later, he uses part of the money to bring me a funnel cake at the booth. $20

    7:30 p.m. — After a while at the booth, I'm bored and hungry. I take my turn to go get food. I spend $4 on a frozen strawberry lemonade and $6 on a corn dog. I leave $2 in the tip jar. As I walk back, I realize I've been slacking this week. I've been so busy with campaign stuff, work, and car-related crises that I haven't been to the gym — and I've done a lot more eating away from home than I usually do. $12

    Daily Total: $84.75

    Day Six

    2 p.m. — After a political lunch event (that the party paid for), my son and I head to the grocery store. We've got our meal plan for next week and the needed ingredients, and we're both determined to avoid a week like what we've just had. We buy mostly produce, since the fish, pasta, and other entrée-related items we need are already at home. He's running low on the lightly-flavored water he drinks instead of soda, so we stock up. $84.73

    3:15 p.m. — I check my email and see that my credit card has been charged for tomorrow's dairy delivery. Our milk, cheese, and eggs are on their way! $26.75

    4:45 p.m. — My son and I decide to go to the local symphony's concert in the park. It's a free concert, but we decide to top off our week of bad eating with a stop to get fast food. We go through the drive-through and then eat our food at the park. $11.36

    6:45 p.m. — After the concert, we realize we forgot to get dessert for tomorrow's dinner with my parents, so it's back to the store on the way home. My son selects brownies and then asks if we can get a couple of California rolls. No surprise — the fast food has left a growing and active teenager empty within two hours. I buy him grocery-store sushi, which he inhales in the car before we even get home. $15.54

    10:30 p.m. — After we get home, my son announces that his friends are waiting for him online, so he heads downstairs to play his MMORPG. I receive a text from a friend inviting me out for a drink. I've got nothing else going on, so I meet her and her husband at a local wine bar. I have two glasses of wine and leave a tip after we shut the place down. (Yes, this is a drinking establishment that closes by 10 p.m. on a Saturday night.) I briefly consider heading to the pub, but it's been a long week so I just go home and go to bed. $23

    Daily Total: $161.38

    Day Seven

    10:15 a.m. — I get up and realize that I need a few items for my home office, including a new mouse and some sticky notes. I've also promised my son that I'll get him a digital to analog converter as part of his gift for his upcoming birthday, so I go ahead and order those items online. $30.97

    Daily Total: $30.97

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    Heading home for the holidays is a wonderful tradition, if only for the fact that you can ease your style to maximum comfort. It’s “suburban street style,” if you will — and we’re very much down with a uniform based around leggings, boxy sweatshirts, and supportive dad kicks. Luckily, these are also the same elements that make for comfortable travel, which means your transit clothes can double down as hometown pieces, too.

    Ahead, we pulled together four outfit ideas that are lazy-chic and friends-and-family-ready using Cuddl Duds base layers (available at QVC), made of ultra soft and stretch technology fibers, as inspiration. Whether you’re taking the red-eye across the country or road-tripping a few states away, these easy ensembles are primed for winter travel and guaranteed to keep you warm and toasty throughout your entire journey.

    If you’re the kind who still isn't sure about wearing stretch pants in public, you can still get cozy on top. This buttery-soft lightweight long-sleeve shirt will keep you warm on an airplane or train, plus its spandex fit means it'll stay tucked into a pair of baggy jeans. Grab a cardigan and scarf as additional transportation layers, and swap out your boots for comfy slip-on mules. A look like this allows you to head straight to family dinner once you arrive at your destination.

    Cuddl Duds Softwear With Stretch Long-Sleeve Crew-Neck Top, $33, available at QVC

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    Zara Z1975 PLEATED BAGGY JEANS, $49.9, available at Zara

    Trademark Crocodile Pajama Sandal, $298, available at Need Supply

    Gap Cashmere Scarf, $98, available at Gap

    Heading home means you get to revert back to (and fully embrace) looks that are reminiscent of your childhood. For us, that means wearing leggings as pants — but this time, a technically advanced pair with softwear stretch is ideal for our grown-up legs. Other unfussy (but fun) pieces to include in your weekender tote are a graphic-print sweatshirt, metallic high-top sneakers, and a trusty jean jacket.

    Cuddl Duds Fleecewear Stretch Leggings, $22, available at QVC

    Ganni Lott Isoli Sweatshirt, Cherry Bomb, $125, available at Ganni

    Zara AUTHENTIC DENIM RIPPED JACKET, $49.9, available at Zara

    Converse Chuck 70s High Top Heavy Metal Sneakers, $66.5, available at Shopbop

    Baggu Cloud Bag, $50, available at Baggu

    Whether you prefer movie night on the couch or at the theater with hometown pals, an outfit that warrants a “you look so comfortable” is in order. The versatile stretchy-soft black turtleneck is your ultimate hero, and this one so happens to pair well with literally any kind of bottom (though we recommend joggers, of course). If you decide to venture outdoors, a printed bomber jacket, snow-friendly boots, and a compact fanny pack add trendy flair.

    Cuddl Duds Softwear with Stretch Turtleneck Long Sleeve Top, $32, available at QVC

    Vigoss Leopard Print Faux Fur Bomber Jacket, $89, available at Nordstrom

    Topshop Super Brushed Skinny Fit Joggers, $40, available at Topshop

    rag & bone Compass Boots, $695, available at Shopbop

    J.Crew Harper fanny pack in Italian leather, $98, available at J. Crew

    Winter’s coziest color is definitely gray, and we encourage you to explore the groutfit (aka the all-gray outfit) at any point during your winter break. A pair of super-soft, stretch-fit heathered leggings is the perfect contrast and accompaniment to this oversized knit sweater. Add a secondary pastel color, like ballet pink, to liven up the mood, and finish off the look with true dad-style sneakers.

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    Mango V-neckline Sweater, $59.99, available at Mango

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    The first three don't exactly come with instruction manuals, but luckily, that last one can be understood with a little help from a dermatologist — like Beverly Hills-based doc Ava Shamban, MD. Dr. Shamban tells us that the simple step of exfoliating the skin can do a lot for your routine. "Exfoliation addresses both irregular texture from erratic cell turnover, eliminates debris and dead skin cells, and creates a smoother skin surface for better penetration of actives, more effective hydration, and an easier makeup application," she says. Nothing not to like there.

    But when we get into the when and how of exfoliation, a few more questions arise. Though regular exfoliation may seem more urgent during sticky summers, when you can practically feel your sweat-clogged pores, Dr. Shamban tells us it's vital to sweep away dead skin cells no matter what the weather. "Skin cell turnover may become sluggish in the winter," she says. "With a boost from exfoliation, cells are kept vibrant."

    Then there's the matter of frequency: Some skin types benefit from a strong dose of alpha- or beta-hydroxy acids every other day, while others are better suited for a light, gentle physical exfoliant just once or twice a week. So where do you fall on the exfoliation spectrum? The experts break it down, ahead.

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    For those with dry skin, Dr. Shamban suggests exfoliating one to three times a week, immediately followed by a nighttime hydrating mask or serum to help minimize moisture loss.

    When skin is already parched, it can feel counterintuitive to start scrubbing away with an abrasive or acidic exfoliator. That's why Dr. Shamban suggests reaching for a physical exfoliant created with an emollient base. "Oils are rich in essential acids, which moisturize skin and help to repair the outer barrier," she says. "They're superheroes for preventing moisture loss." This oil-based cleansing balm — made with organic and natural ingredients in Sweden's West Coast — is spiked with ultra-fine flakes of sea salt to gently exfoliate without leaving skin dry or tight.

    L:A Bruket 050 Face Scrub Petitgrain, $34, available at L:A Bruket

    New York-based dermatologist Melissa Levin, MD, says she often sees patients with oily skin that use harsh and irritating ingredients in order to minimize shine. "This can strip the skin of its essential natural oils, resulting in increased oil production, clogged and enlarged pores, and hyperpigmentation, which leads to uneven skin tone," she says. The takeaway? Shoot for a more moderate exfoliating schedule — two to three times a week — using acids rather than scrubs. It's especially important to moisturize the skin after cleansing in the winter, Dr. Levin says, because colder climates come with less humidity.

    For the oily and blemish-prone, Dr. Levin suggests looking for formulas with glycolic or salicylic acid. "Salicylic acid is an oil-soluble ingredient that can break up dead skin cells and easily get to the root of many pore-clogging skin care concerns, such as the buildup of makeup, dirt, and environmental debris," she says. "It works by gently softening skin and dissolving impurities along the way." This serum packs a powerful cocktail of active ingredients, including salicylic acid, niacinamide, retinol, aloe, and witch hazel.

    Cosmedix Clarity Skin-Clarifying Serum, $42, available at Cosmedix

    For those with combination skin — which is most people, according to Dr. Levin — the derm suggests exfoliating with the same frequency as those with oily skin: on alternating days, spaced out two to three times a week.

    To help encourage the turnover of dead skin cells, Levin suggests trying a cleanser, serum, or peel pad spiked with alpha-hydroxy acids (such as glycolic, lactic, or malic acid). This travel-friendly option is designed to release 10% glycolic acid while you sleep. But if your combination skin is on the more sensitive side, Dr. Levin recommends a gentle exfoliating cleanser made with fine micro-particles, like the environmentally-friendly jojoba beads in Fré Purify Me Hydrating Facial Cleanser.

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    For those with balanced, generally unproblematic skin, regular exfoliation can help maintain an even keel. Dr. Levin suggests exfoliating two to three times a week to help continue healthy turnover of dead skin cells.

    There's no need to throw already-balanced skin out of whack with excessive exfoliating, so Dr. Levin recommends a product with alpha-hydroxy acid to maintain skin health. This treatment toner combines the exfoliating power of 6% glycolic acid with 2% brightening niacinamide, calming chamomile extract, and hydrating hyaluronic acid, for a little bit of everything.

    Instytutum Resurfacing Glow Toner, $49, available at Instytutum

    Dr. Shamban suggests a one to three times a week exfoliation regimen for those addressing stubborn acne. "If you live in a polluted city, you may need to exfoliate more frequently," she adds. "The key here is to keep the skin, pores, and follicles clean without drying the skin, so the body isn't triggered to produce more sebum — something that causes more clogging and ultimately more acne." If you have sensitive skin that's also acneic, the derm suggests using an exfoliator geared to sensitive skin.

    Physical abrasives, like volcanic crystals or fruit-seed powders, and salicylic acid are Dr. Shamban's choice exfoliators for those with acne-prone skin. This scrub is nothing like the drugstore apricot scrubs of yore: Instead of being made with sharp seed slivers, it taps ultra-fine apricot-seed powder to exfoliate without further inflaming skin, plus salicylic acid to help treat breakouts.

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    Thanks to an abundance of aggressive formulas on the market, exfoliants may pack a fear factor for those with sensitive skin. But Dr. Shamban maintains there is a place for exfoliation for this skin group — done once a week and with the right products. "The goal is cellular turnover and renewal, not inflammation and aggravation of the dermis, so gentle exfoliation with soothing and calming support is required," she says. "We want to engage a skin reaction, but not irritate the skin."

    Dr. Shamban suggests looking to enzymes (like papaya, pineapple, or bromelian) to help regenerate, repair, and protect the skin in the gentlest way possible. "Papaya enzymes delivered in a creamy, rich foam can soften, exfoliate, and gently release debris to promote healthy and natural skin turnover," she says. This powder-to-foam exfoliator doesn't come cheap, but it does a beautiful job of super-gentle exfoliation, thanks to papaya enzymes, bamboo powder, and an included konjac sponge, which helps sweep away dead cells without taking the skin's beneficial bacteria with it.

    Orveda Clay Mud Cleansing Powder, $105, available at Orveda

    Because heat from friction is one of the most common triggers for those with rosacea, most traditional exfoliators are out of play, Dr. Shamban notes. For everyday cleansing, the derm suggests avoiding rubbing or scrubbing; instead, use your hands to wash with tepid water and soap-free cleanser, then gently blot dry.

    Find heat-free exfoliation with a non-abrasive mask. This one is as smooth and gentle as a hydrating formula, but includes willow bark, which Dr. Shamban says is "a very good natural remedy that helps with symptoms of rosacea." It also contains hyaluronic acid to plump skin and soothing chamomile, another ingredient Dr. Shamban likes for rosacea patients — and plus, the rose-gold sheen is just begging to be Instagrammed.

    Sonya Dakar Rose Gold Radiance Mask, $68, available at Sonya Dakar

    Exfoliating helps break up the pigmented cells that cause dark spots, so if that's your concern, try adding an exfoliating step to your skin-care routine starting twice weekly, then increasing as tolerated, Dr. Levin says.

    "Glycolic acid is derived from sugarcane and is typically safe to use during pregnancy," Dr. Levin says. "It's not only anti-inflammatory and an antioxidant, but also decreases skin-cell adhesion, too." She suggests starting with a lower-concentration glycolic product, like this cleanser, before working your way up to something stronger, like her favorite, NeoStrata Foaming Glycolic Wash, which contains a whopping 18% glycolic acid.

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