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    Illustrated by: Abbie Winters

    Sex. Strangers. Intimacy. Awkwardness. Ecstasy. These are just a few of the sometimes-disparate ideas that come into play when we talk about one-night stands. Because the truth is, this is an experience that a lot of women share, but experience entirely differently. It's personal. Even when it's not.

    Some women swear it's the purest type of sexual encounter (most famously, Erica Jong). Others find themselves feeling deflated afterward, whether or not they had level-set expectations beforehand. And others still see it as just one half of the coin of sexual experience — where physical, carnal pleasure and emotional intimacy can't co-exist.

    And, while we all share the sexy, thrilling parts of these stories with our friends, we so rarely talk about the emotional ramifications (both good and bad) and the less entertaining details that add up to reality. All of which is completely worth discussing. So, we collected stories from people to get just that. Ahead, their takes their very different experiences — orgasms, disappointments, and all.

    (*Some names changed at the request of the women interviewed.)

    "He wouldn’t wake up, no matter how much I tried. I was starving but had no food in the house. I didn’t want to leave a stranger in my apartment to fetch food, so I waited until a pizza place opened and ordered delivery. He woke up at noon and proceeded to eat most of my pizza and complain about the show I was watching on TV. Finally got him to leave around 4 p.m."

    -themagicalpig on Reddit

    "Found the love of my freaking life. He calls it our 'lifetime stand.' But also it's the best sex I've ever had, so there's another plus."

    -lindseyweaver on Reddit

    "He brought over his laptop and when we realized he was too drunk to get it up, we spent the night watching Netflix.

    "I think we watched several episodes of Avatar: The Last Airbender and half of Avengers before he conked out.

    "10/10 would Netflix + chill again."

    -daitoshi on Reddit

    "I bled on a girl. I had my period so I couldn't do much, but things were getting hot and heavy. I was grinding up on her, and I bled all over her poor, bare thigh.

    "Luckily she was super nice about it and laughed it off. I wanted to make a run for it."

    -MlleWeirdo on Reddit

    "[He] piggy-backed me home after singing 'Call Me Maybe' to some very aggressive looking guys at the bar. We had fun sex and he walked around my house naked the next morning to the horror of my flatmates. He let me know when he was in town next, so it was more of a two-night stand but like eight months apart."

    -TripleTownNinjaBear on Reddit

    "I met a guy at an a cappella party in college. His pick-up line was, ‘I can hit a high C.’ We fucked outside a shed in the backyard. It was about 40 degrees out. He was really, really good, plus I had never had sex outside. Since it was so cold, we both had to partially keep our clothes on. My knees were so covered in dirt, a friend thought they were bruises."

    -goldeee on Reddit

    "Took a guy home one night. Woke up to a wet spot right where he was lying. He peed himself. On my brand. New. Mattress. I had literally received the day before."

    -theycallmeslayre on Reddit

    "Early the next morning, her huge Burmese python slithered into bed with us to cuddle. I noped right the fuck out. Yes, I like reptiles, but when you wake up with a 12-foot snake between you and a sleeping stranger, it's time to go home. "

    -justanotheraddiction on Reddit

    "I had sex with a guy dressed as a pumpkin at a Halloween party. Unbeknownst to me, while we made out, his orange face paint smeared all over my face and totally ruined my Glinda The Good Witch makeup and dress that I had spent weeks sewing. I don't know if he used orange shoe polish on his face or what, but that stuff would not come off, no matter how much soap I used."

    -CanadianDrawl on Reddit

    "So I go home with this random girl. Wake up at her place in the morning, bed empty. So I get dressed, and get ready to go home. When I get the into the kitchen, her mother is sitting at the table with a kid. Greets me with, 'Hey, Emma had to go to work. She told me you were still asleep. Want breakfast?' I kinda panicked and got out, just to find out I had no idea were I was. Mother comes after and asks if I need a lift somewhere. I gave up and had a really, really strange ride back to the tram."

    -skrnlsn on Reddit

    "I had just broken up with my boyfriend and went to the bar with some friends to cheer me up (despite it being a Wednesday and I had an exam at 8 a.m. the next morning — I don't think we intended to get shitfaced). Anyway, I end up going home with some guy, I vaguely remember mediocre sex — with a condom, thank god. But the next morning, I wake up in his bed; he's facedown on the pillow so I can't see him. I'm naked, my mouth tastes like windex or something. I frantically try to find all of my clothes, my purse, my car keys, and get out without waking him or any roommates he had.

    "I ended up running up Main Street to where I parked my car the night before only to realize two things: I forgot my keys at his apartment, and my fucking car got towed. Oh, and I only had half an hour to get to campus for my test. Ended up hungover jog-of-shaming to class just in time. I got a C. Luckily, I had a spare car key at my place and got my car back ($150, I might add). And that weekend, some guy I swear I never saw before slyly came up to me and handed me my keys and said 'I think these are yours, and I think you peed in our kitchen.'"

    -redbirdsandwords on Reddit

    "When I got to his room, there was a big chalkboard on the wall covered in names and I didn't think anything of it. When I was leaving, he asked me to sign it. Pay attention to your surroundings, folks."

    -IWishIWasMoreClever1 on Reddit

    "Met a hot guy in a club. Had drinks, danced, had fun. He asks if we can 'have a sleepover.' I say sure. We go home. We fuck. I fall asleep.

    "In the morning, I wake up and all of my food in the kitchen is gone. Literally, all of it. From the fridge, from pantries, from cabinets, etc.

    "I don't know what he put it in or where he went with it. I sleep like a log. It's a good thing I wasn't a poor college student or something. Even my condiments. It was weird. He even took dog food and milkbones."

    -Slummish on Reddit

    "So, we go to his bedroom and it is decorated entirely with cheap stuffed animals that you get at the fair. Bears, unicorns, horses, pigs...everything. He has so many that he built shelves all the way around the walls with the smallest animals on the bottom shelf and the biggest ones on the top. No lie, there were probably 1,000 of them. I had to go outside and smoke a cigarette. Thank god he didn't smoke, because I had to collect my thoughts.

    "The thing was, everything about this guy was normal. He had a nice house, we sort of knew the same people in his work field, and he wasn't married. He just seemed like a decent person who was totally unashamed of his stuffed animal collection. The more I thought about it, the more I admired it because I knew he had to catch shit from his friends, so I started to find it attractive. I hate to say it, but I started thinking about a relationship.

    "So, I come back inside and we ended up having pretty decent sex for being sort of drunk and having a one-night-stand. We finished up and I put my head on his shoulder and asked him what he thought about it.

    "'Go ahead and take a prize off the bottom shelf,' he says.

    "Worst. One night stand. Ever."

    -sloots_and_hoors on Reddit

    "Woke up wondering where I was, figured out it was a car... it's lightly snowing. Whose car? Where am I? Don't recognize person next to me. We're both naked. There are blankets. Realize we are between some large buildings. Wake up rather attractive stranger as the night starts to de-fuzz.

    "'Hey, wake up.'

    "'Unngghh.'

    "[We] make out a bit.

    "'Where are we?'

    "'I dunno...'

    "'Isn't this your car?'

    "'... I thought it was yours?'

    "[We] look blankly at each other

    "'Let's leave.'

    "Get out of what turned out to be an Astro van...with blankets in it...in an alley...in a small town.

    "St. Paddy's in Butte is a terrible thing."

    -Raezak_Am on Reddit

    "I had just gotten out of a super-intense relationship, the kind where you really don't have anything in common but they're amazing in bed, so all of your activities revolve around sex. Two weeks after breaking it off, the only thing I could think about was getting laid. So I convince my friends to go to a bar with me with my only intention getting smashed and picking someone up. Find someone, get to his house have great sex. Wake up the next morning he rolls over and says 'I love you so much.' At this moment I was like, 'Shit no, can't deal with this.' Start finding all my clothes and wallet. Then he starts talking about how he's going to pick up a puppy today and I come with him if he wants... The puppy was so fucking cute. Three years later and the dog is still freaking adorable, and I don't panic so much when he says he loves me."

    -kmuelle6 on Reddit

    "At the end of the night, my guy wanted to cuddle. I told him it was probably not a good idea since it was really late and I wanted to go home for work the next morning. So as I'm leaving, he leans in to kiss me and I interrupt him. I said 'Whoa, friends right?' and then fist bump him. Fist bump. Worst thing I've ever done."

    -Lotech on Reddit

    "The guy was a complete dick to me in the morning, as if it was entirely my fault he fucked a complete stranger. He called me later that afternoon freaking out because he had a 'sore' on his wiener that he was sure was a result of our liaison. He berated me about not revealing that I had an STD (I didn't) and calling me all sorts of horrible names and telling me I ruined his life. I told him I didn't have any diseases and I'm pretty sure even if I did, he wouldn't suddenly sprout sores that same afternoon, so, if anything, he had probably put me at risk, not the other way around. Logic was not effective. I finally got his hysterical ass off the phone but he apparently called his mother (what?) and got himself all worked up again because he called back an hour or two later to scream at me and call me a whore. He went to the emergency room to have his dick checked out. It was just an ingrown hair. I did get a courtesy call with this information but no apology. After what I assume he thought was a proper waiting period of a few weeks, he tried to call me again for sex. I said 'no.'"

    -sweaty_yeti on Reddit

    "I went back to this girl’s place, hammered. I remember it kind of looking like a church. Turns out, it was. This girl interned at my local campus church, where she lived in a kind of hidden second floor apartment. Basically, I had to ramble through a walk of shame the next morning (Sunday morning) past a bunch of people attending morning Mass."

    -IAMCANADIAN_sorry on Reddit

    "I wake up to her dad standing over me as I lie next to her, the morning after. He asks, extremely friendly-like, if I had a nice evening. I stammer that I did, thanks for asking, while wondering how long I have to live.

    "He asks if I'd like a bacon sandwich. Terrified, I say I would.

    "He gives a big wink to his daughter, and makes me a bacon sandwich. It is very nice. I leave afterwards, slightly confused. The shotgun never appears."

    -Tromance on Reddit

    "She told me to get up because she had to babysit her granddaughter. First I thought she was joking. She was not.

    -rrolllie on Reddit

    "I wake up to him saying 'Shit! My dad wasn't supposed to come home so early!' (I had just thought he lived with roommates.) He tells me to jump in his closet (I'm fully nude and my clothes are in the living room). I start to argue, but he insists, so I get in there and hear them having small talk for almost an hour. I realize I really have to pee, and they just drag on and I'm dancing around. And then the guy I slept with left for work! I can hear the dad making breakfast and just settling in. I panic, how am I gonna get my clothes.... Fuck my clothes, I'll use his clothes, so I take the stuff in the closet all I found were shirts. I fucking ran for my life, full speed through the house with sex hair and a long shirt to my car. The dad yelled, 'What the damn hell who are you?!'"

    -jennyalena on Reddit

    "So about two years ago I was newly single and out with a few friends at a bar. I ended up hitting it off with a friend of a friend who was just in town on vacation. Now, my last relationship had left me feeling really sexually frustrated. I wasn't interested in any commitment so this seemed like a perfect arrangement. I could release my pent up sexual energy on him and not have to worry about attachments because he would be gone before too long.

    After a long night of flirting, we go back to his hotel and have another couple drinks in his hotel room. Everything is going pretty well and we have sex. Job done.

    At this point in the story, you should know that I have a very minor seizure disorder and that I can feel one coming on several minutes before it happens.

    I go out for a smoke, make it up two flights of stairs before I give up trying to make it back to the room, lay down on a landing, and have a seizure.

    After the seizure is done, I drag myself back to the bed and instantly pass out.When I wake up, I notice that it feels damp and sticky between my legs. My first thought is that I must have had my period all over the hotel sheets. Oh, if only. I lift up the sheet to see that I had, in actuality, shit myself.

    The seizure must have loosened my bowels.I'm just laying there and silently panicking. The guy I had slept with is still fast asleep next to me. I want to hurry the sheets downstairs to housekeeping but I can't do that without waking him.

    I scooped all the sheets up in a bundle and rushed them downstairs to be cleaned. I gave them a $100 tip and apologized profusely. I got away with it. The guy never found out. That was my worst ever one night stand."

    — no_objections_here on Reddit.

    "I went to a university on a small campus on the east coast of Canada. It was a very small and tight knit community, and had a great party scene.

    So one night I was at the campus bar, and I ended up hooking up with this hot guy from one of my philosophy classes. I was extremely drunk at this point, and so was he. So we hooked up, and then immediately passed out.

    In the middle of the night he woke up me and said 'I'm going to throw up, where should I throw up?' I was still drunk, and half asleep, so I pointed at a pillow on the floor and said 'there.' So he threw up on my pillow, and then he asked me what he should do with it. I told him to throw it out the window and went back to sleep. Unfortunately the pillow fell on top of a smaller building behind the campus residences. So everyone on campus saw the "puke pillow" and word spread pretty quickly about what happened. So embarrassing."

    stone_opera on Reddit.

    Illustrated by: Abbie Winters

    "I had sex with a girl at her bed and breakfast place while there was an ongoing party.

    Her parents were there. I think because I had recently broken up with my girlfriend, I didn't want anyone to know. My friends were knocking on the door and trying to bust in.

    Without even looking how far down it was I jumped out of the second story window, slid down the metal awning and landed right next to who I think was her dad, or at least her dad's friends. I looked over at them, smiled, and then started running. Ran around the building to the front door and came up behind my friends who were still banging on the door. Fooled them all. Felt like Jason Bourne." — cantankerouspuss on Reddit.

    Illustrated by: Abbie Winters.

    "I was visiting a friend who was studying abroad in Barcelona. I was young, dumb, and ready to get some foreign strange. We were at a small gathering and ended up eating way too many special brownies, naturally followed by a trip to a bar with some of my girlfriend's new acquaintances.

    I naturally zeroed in on the tall, strong, Germanic boy in the bunch. I think/hope he was with someone we knew. From there, things got fuzzy. I recall making out in the bar — classy. Somehow, I decided that it would be OK to go back to this man's apartment with him. I don't remember much, except that it was a loft bed and I kept knocking my head against the ceiling during our gymnastic love session.

    After falling asleep — either from the brownies, the love-making, or the mild concussions — I awoke to harsh daylight and had to climb down a ladder, naked. As I exited the apartment, I noticed he and his roommate both had computer desks in the same room with World of WarCraft up and ready to go on their desktops. He was a gentleman and walked me to the train station. I got a lot of looks, as it was a Monday morning.

    The next night he picked me up at my friends dormitory and took me for a walk around the Arc de Triomphe. We made out one more time on a park bench. While we have never spoken again, we remain Facebook friends to this day."

    Illustrated by: Abbie Winters

    Anonymous

    "We met at a friends birthday outing. I'd heard from the grapevines this guy has been asking around about me so I knew something might go down that night since we were both going to be in the same place.

    The night was long but things progressed pretty fast after loads of drinks. A few bars and one club later the sun came out and I was ready to go home, at that point it was obvious he was coming with me for one reason.

    [And] h oly shit was the sex so awkward it really made me question lots of things about life. I mean not only everything he was doing was wrong even though I tried to help him, but he also stayed for way too long after and had weird personal life chats until I had to kick him out. Why, God, why?"

    Illustrated by: Abbie Winters

    Anonymous

    "When I first moved to NY, at age 20, I researched, googled and explored the lesbian scene as much as I could.

    It's non-existent where I come from, so this was a complete revelation. I found one of the very few, if not the only cool gay bar in the city called The Cubbyhole, located at the heart of the West Village.

    At first, I was really afraid of going in by myself but eventually, got the courage to go in and order a drink. It's a really small space but it was packed with beautiful women (and cute boys too!).

    After an hour wondering around and failed attempts of any interaction, a gorgeous, beautiful, boho-chic girl in her mid 30s came and sat next to me. We started talking, drinking, flirting, kissing, drinking some more, making out and eventually (a couple of hours later) made it out of the bar and into a taxi to her place. I don't remember all of it, but I have flashes of sex in the floor, in the bed, in the kitchen, in the sofa, in the bathroom... we woke up in the living room the next day, had breakfast together and spent most of the day around the city until we eventually parted ways.

    We never really spoke again but I've seen her twice at the Zara in Soho. I unconsciously still look around in case I see her."

    Illustrated by: Abbie Winters

    Anonymous

    "I was 19, and it was my best friend's dads 50th birthday party. They're a cool family and we're from the same town, so she ended up inviting a bunch of our friends.

    "It was summer and an open bar in Manhattan, so none of us were going to turn that down. Anyway, we all got pretty rowdy and I ended up making out with her hot older cousin on the dance floor. We went back to his place to continue the steamy evening. It was actually great.

    "After I had left in the morning, my friend (whose dad's party it was) invited me over to lay by her pool. When I arrived, I realized half of her family was there — including her cousin's mom! They're a tight-knit Greek family, so everyone basically knew I slept with him and kept asking me all kinds of questions. It was pretty humiliating."

    Illustrated by: Abbie Winters

    Anonymous

    "I tore my ACL a few years ago and was dreading getting surgery. As an active, sexual person, I went out on a mission the weekend before my surgery: Have the hottest sex possible.

    "Now, I still was pretty immobile, and the options at the bar I went to that night weren't all that great. I guess you can say I 'settled' but it worked out for the best because I really couldn't get on top, so I just made him do all the work, and I never saw him again."

    Illustrated by: Abbie Winters

    Anonymous

    "I've had so many crazy weekends in Montauk, but having sex with a hot guy on his share house's porch when everyone went to sleep takes the cake.

    "I hadn't intended on going that far with him, but as soon as he sexily untied my wrap dress from the front, I readily took it off. When we went back inside, there STILL wasn't room for us to sleep, so he brought me to my house in a cab. I never heard from him again but that porch sex was damn hot."

    Illustrated by: Abbie Winters

    Anonymous

    "In college, my sorority had a mixer with a fraternity I'd never met before. I know, I know, cliché. But while I was at that party, learning the finer points of Beirut (ping pong balls are for wusses), I started to eye the cute guy playing against me. Competition brings out my flirty side, so I started talking shit. Then, I promptly lost. By a lot. I walked away with my head held in shame.

    "Fast-forward a few hours later, and I find myself sitting on the couch on my sorority porch (we were classy like that) huddled together with said guy. I ended up leaving the party with him, mildly tipsy and annoying his neighbors with my vocal aerobics. I woke up in the wee hours and snuck out, paranoid his roommate was going to come back. After crashing and sleeping off my hangover, my roommate and I wandered to the dining hall. On the way back, I noticed a guy in a hoodie kept turning around to stare at me. I mentioned something to my roommate about a total creeper giving me the eye. To which she responded, 'Um, you hooked up with him last night.' Whoops.

    "Two hours later, he called me on our dorm-room phone (shut up, I'm old) and we went on a date to the on-campus smoothie place. Ten years later, I married him."

    Illustrated by: Abbie Winters

    Anonymous

    "To be honest, I don't remember much about how we met or where we were. All I remember is waking up from a dream about my ex-boyfriend to find myself in a strange place with a cute, albeit relatively unknown, guy.

    "It took me a minute to realize where I was, but I was so emotional from this revelatory dream that I shook him awake and said, 'I have to go, I think I love someone' — totally without thinking.

    "He was pissed, obviously. I gathered my things and realized I couldn't find my jacket from the night before. He was no help. 'That was a shitty thing to say,' he replied when I asked.

    "So I left and hailed a cab, without a jacket, and called my ex-boyfriend several hours later."

    Illustrated by: Abbie Winters

    Tracy Bloom, author of No-One Ever Has Sex On A Tuesday

    "Our eyes met across a dusty dance floor. I'd last seen him over 15 years ago. He had been my first love and our relationship consisted mainly of awkward teenage fumblings in awkward locations. We skirted each other like matador and bull until alcohol and slow music led us to stumble against each other in a clumsy reunion.

    "So, we went back to his place — where I discovered he'd grown into a rebel rejecting a conventional bed for a sleeping bag on nylon carpet. We lay there and reminisced about those awkward teenage fumblings until we partook of some very awkward 30-something fumblings.

    "He said he'd phone. I knew he never would. Nights spent stalking the phone as a 15-year-old had at least taught me he wasn't the type to phone. But, it didn't matter. I didn't care. This one-night stand had given me closure. My first love was no longer the boy who made my heart race like no other man had, ever since. He was just a man who slept way too close to the floor, surrounded by nylon. Heart vacated, it was now available for new occupier."

    Illustrated by: Abbie Winters

    Nicole*

    "I met a guy on OkCupid. We went on one date, didn't have sex, but continued to text when we were both drunk.

    "One night, I was especially wasted and right around the corner from his apartment in Brooklyn. So, obviously, I gave him a call, and he told me to meet him at a bar nearby. We had a few drinks, and then decided to go back to his apartment to smoke a joint on his roof.

    "So there we are at 2 a.m. on the roof of this HUGE loft-style apartment building in Brooklyn, totally stoned, and he goes in for the kiss. Things progressed pretty rapidly from there, and before I knew it, we were both naked from the waist down, and he was pulling a condom out of his pants. We had sex in the middle of the roof, in the middle of the night, in clear view of anyone and everyone who was in the apartment buildings around us.

    "I spent the night (in his bed — not on the roof), and in the morning we split a huge stack of pancakes. I haven't seen him again. Not coincidentally, I also haven't fucked on a roof since."

    Illustrated by: Abbie Winters

    Gabrielle

    "I put an ad on Craigslist Missed Connections for a girl I met for one second at a riot grrrl show in someone's loft. We'd been looking at each other all night and then she introduced herself to me before getting swept up by a crowd of moshing people who smelled like they didn't believe in deodorant. I thought it was really cool that she didn't mind being tossed around like that. She was wearing a red bandana low on her forehead and lots of black eyeliner. She looked like an andro Natalie Portman and she'd been staring at me as though she already knew we were going to sleep together. But, she left without saying anything more and so I found myself posting about it on CL the next morning. Not because of any sort of Cinderella fantasy; I thought she was hot and seemed really cool — way cooler than me, at least, which is always appealing. I figured she was the kind of girl who had been dating girls since she was 12, who would be assertive in her interest, who could read a map, and who could maybe fix my sink.

    "She answered the ad about an hour after I posted it. She said she thought it was romantic. We were both under 21, so we met at a cafe and had tea. She talked the whole time, which was fine because I was too nervous, and then she followed me back to my apartment. When she saw the explosion of beauty products strewn across my dresser, she exclaimed, "You're such a girl!" She sounded disappointed. To be fair, at the time, I had a nearly-shaved head and mainly wore ripped jeans and tank tops. I was still my fairy-princess femme self on the inside, but was enjoying the experience of being visible to other queer women, through pretty standard visual signifiers. So, the fact that she didn't realize I would turn out to be 'such a girl' wasn't exactly her fault. Plus, I had said so little during our date — while I knew the basic outline of her life story, all she knew was that I was a good listener.

    "We then proceeded to have what turned out to be super-awkward sex. It seemed that we each expected the other person to take charge. It also came to light that, despite her initial swagger, this was actually her first time. I found this to be extremely disappointing — but also feeling guilty about it. But it felt too late to turn back. When I woke up alone the next morning, she had left a note in careful script on a crumpled receipt that read, 'It was beautiful. You are beautiful.

    '"I felt very confused. What had been beautiful about our anxious fumbling? If anything, it seemed to me that maybe she had gone into it expecting to have a beautiful experience from the moment she declared my CL ad romantic, and was determined to name it that regardless of what happened. We had both projected different things onto each other, and somehow our night together hadn't ruined her vision of me. I guess she was more committed to the fantasy of me than I was to the fantasy of her. She called me a few times and I didn't pick up, because I was young and didn't know how to politely turn someone down. It's been over five years, but I still see her every now and then at queer parties. We usually nod at each other, but that's it. We've both grown our hair out and are dating butches."

    Illustrated by: Abbie Winters

    SunHee*

    "I was moving out of New York in a week. I had never had a one-night stand. I was out with a few guy friends that I barely knew. The club was full of overeager young financial types, but I was lucky to be around a few 'nice' guys. My friend introduced me to a colleague of his. Apparently, we knew some of the same people from back home. Having mutual friends made us way too comfortable... we took way too many shots and danced way too close in public.

    "I decided that this was my chance, that I could have that one-night stand with a nice guy, so I asked him if he lived alone and if he wanted to go to his place. His eyes opened wide. He grabbed my hands and we were in a cab in what felt like 30 seconds. He lived in a barely furnished apartment on the UES. We started fooling around and it was okay, but a little bit awkward. Something felt off that I couldn't quite pinpoint.

    "And then, he asked me, 'Want to do it against the wall?!' I looked at him in disbelief. In a wave of panic, I realized that I was probably his first one-night stand as well, and that he probably had pretty limited sexual experience. When I wasn't going down on him before sex, he was genuinely surprised and said, 'You're not going to go down on me?!' That threw me off. I really couldn't see how anyone could just expect another person to give them head. He wanted to try all these things he'd heard about somewhere.... He spit out different poses and tried to position my legs all crazy. And, I remember thinking that if I was actually in a relationship with this guy, it would have been okay for him to ask me to try new things with him. But, I didn't trust him and I felt like his weird science experiment, which is what turned me off. Looking back, he was kind of my own experiment as well, so maybe we're even?

    "Going in, I didn't think much about it. It was just something I wanted to experience, and I knew NYC was the place where it needed to happen. Afterward, I felt pretty stupid. I literally told people this was the stupidest thing I had ever done. Plus, having sex with someone I didn't actually like was boring. I haven't had a one-stand stand since."

    Illustrated by: Abbie Winters

    Brittany

    "I lost my virginity at a young age to the older boy across the street in the back seat of a car. It was in the park, in the middle of the day, in a planned meet-up during a run. He wanted it. I had a crush. And so I gave it to him. And it never happened again.

    "The experience somewhat cheapened sex, which felt nonchalant to me after that. In some ways, that day set the precedent for my many sexual flings that have since ensued.

    "The moment I go home with someone, I judge whether or not I truly think I can see something further developing with them. Do I really like this guy? Can I see myself telling him my deepest secrets? Putting my heart, body, mind, and soul in their hands? I genuinely believe that after a good first date or night out with someone, I know what my intention is for them.

    "If my body wants it, but my heart and head say otherwise, then I know...I'm in for a one night stand. I manage my expectations for that person on the spot. It's okay if I never see him again, or if he doesn't call. I only sleep with someone on the first night if I don't particularly care whether or not I see them again. I know he won't be my forever prince, and therefore, will make him my knight for a night.

    "Like last month, when an adorable guy showed me an apartment. We spoke for 30 minutes after the showing — it was flirty, fun. We met a week later for drinks in a charming, dimly lit corner bar. We talked about life, our families, and aspirations. There was a strong commonality and connection. We went back to his place. In the moment that we were moving from the couch to the bed, I judged the situation —whether or not I would go all the way with him. As charming as he was, my gut told me: He is not the one. And not because there was anything wrong with him. He was just missing something intangible that would reserve a place for him in my future. So, we had a one-night stand. The weirdest thing about it, though, was that throughout the entire sexual experience, his face kept changing. Every time I looked at him, he looked like someone different. Like he was wearing a camouflage image-changing suit, to hide his true identity. It was trippy and distracting. I figure it's because I didn't really know him. I wasn't used to his face. And movement.

    "Since then, I've decided one nights stand are an impersonal affair encased in an intimate moment. They are an easy way to satisfy my desire for interpersonal connection. A way to protect myself from being vulnerable and susceptible to someone else's influence and power. A way to keep my emotions separate from my experience.

    "I'm in my mid 20s with 50-plus sexual partners — from one night stands to long term relationships to week-long whirlwind flings. I've taken v-cards and stolen hearts. Mine has only been broken once. And since then, I see that how you give yourself to someone is just as important as who you give it to. Sex has two different roles — hedonist pleasure or intimate love. Don't expect longterm intimate love from a one-night stand if you want to avoid disappointment. And hold back if you want to hold on."

    Illustrated by: Abbie Winters

    Mena

    "I was apprehensive about sex as a teenager. I didn't feel ready, and I definitely harbored fairy-tale fantasies about my first time being with someone who felt like a soul mate. In college, I carried that with me, so I hooked up and went almost all the way, but never quite there. And by my early 20s, the weight of my inexperience held me back in relationships — out of fear of being discovered for this thing I was missing, this knowledge that I didn't have.

    "Eventually, I slept with a guy about five dates in, and stopped seeing him a few dates after that. So, when I started seeing my next boyfriend, my experience was pretty limited. When that relationship, which had consisted of a lot of missionary sex and limited orgasms, ended six months later, I still didn't feel like I was where I was supposed to be, as an adult in charge of her own sexuality. I didn't really know how to ask for what I wanted, or really, how to figure out what I wanted, when I wasn't on my own.

    "Essentially, I had lost my virginity at 26, so this moment of singledom felt like my opportunity to do something a little reckless. I joined OkCupid. I laid low for a while, emailing guys and going on some dates, but never feeling comfortable enough to go home with any of those men. And then I heard from a professor who was a few years older than me, and emailed him back just once before asking if he wanted to meet for a drink. He did. We went out on a Sunday night and hit it off. I didn't feel a real connection — or in all honesty, real chemistry — but I did feel pretty comfortable with him, having easy conversation and laughing a lot. Three drinks later, we left, made out in the street, and headed in the general direction of both our (conveniently neighboring) places. When he offhandedly was like, 'I don't supposed you want to come up, just for a drink,' I surprised him with a yes. We went up to his place, started making out, and things easily escalated. And for the first time, maybe because I didn't feel any real pressure or expectations, I was able to be more vocal about what I did and didn't like. I put his hands where I wanted them. I stopped worrying about whether the jiggle around my middle was going to be unattractive if I got on top. And ultimately, I still didn't orgasm that night, but I did change some of my own ideas and inhibitions around sex and intimacy.

    "But still, the next morning, I woke up before 6 a.m. and felt really uncomfortable. I didn't want to be there. So, I lied about an early meeting, left, and never called him again. And he didn't call me, either. The only problem: Despite the fact that I didn't want to see this guy again, the fact that he clearly felt the same, and was on the same page as me, felt like tacit rejection. Which was hard. That's why I never did it again, but in a weird way, it's one of the most important things I've ever done for myself."

    Illustrated by: Abbie Winters

    Katherine

    "It was her first time. As in body shakes, hesitant hands, and overall timidity. But, let me back up and give a little back story.

    "Rebecca and I were set up by mutual friends and we decided to meet up at old town bar on 18th street. I've found with lesbians (at least the ones I hang around) that the 'typical' one-night stand where two drunk strangers meet at a bar and go home together at 3 a.m. rarely happens. I guess reasonably sober conversation is needed first? I knew right off the bat that we had a connection. We had many mutual interests — art history, weird families, and a distrust of social norms, to start. So, I decided to do what a recently single girl does after three Heinekens — invite her back to my place. She rode on the back of my bike and we made it to my apartment around 2:30 a.m. I knew she was inexperienced, so I opted to take things slow. Instead of ripping off her clothes the moment we got in the door, I made her a drink and showed her around the apartment until we got to the bedroom. After some light making out, I noticed she was shaking and a bit unsure with her hands. I said to her, 'I don't want to pressure you, we can absolutely just go to bed if you want.' Her response was a simple 'No, I want to.' So, I kept going. It. Was. Terrible.

    "The strange thing, though, was that I liked this girl. She was funny, intelligent, attractive, reasonably sane. All the things I'm usually a sucker for. But, from the very moment she reached to undo my bra, I knew it was doomed to fail."The next day, she texted me and said 'Last night was wonderful. We should hang out some time this week.' I never texted her back. I know what you're thinking; I am a complete douche. And no, it was not one of my finer moments but I have also never been good with disappointment. I just had no idea how to tell her that we were not ever going to see each other again because she was horrible in bed. My friends all said, 'But you could teach her right?' Let me tell you: Ain't nobody got time for that.

    "We were all virgins at one point (I was significantly younger than 24, but still) and I think we all remember what those first touches felt like. But what happens when something you think is a one night stand, is someone else losing their v-card? (To clarify, I only found out much after the fact that she was in fact a virgin.) Is it your responsibility to let them down gently? Because chances are they are not going to be orgasm-inducing in bed. But then again, isn't that counter to the purpose of one-night stands? I have never had an orgasm from a one-night stand, yet I still continually have them. Why? I'd like to think its because I can. I'm young, single, reasonably attractive, and live in NYC, which means I could essentially have someone new every night of the week if I wanted to. Why would I? It's exciting. It's distracting. It is a good story to tell over brunch. Do they ever amount to much? In my experience, no. But do I regret any of them? Absolutely not. Not even with the virgin."

    Illustrated by: Abbie Winters

    Miriam*

    "In my varied and rather random sexual history, I have had only one legitimate one-night stand. And, I’m pretty sure as far as those types of encounters go, I nailed it (pun intended). I met Jeremy* at a downtown bar I frequent on weekends when plans are lacking. This particular evening I was drinking with a friend and my sister, who were both visiting from out of town. We started talking to Jeremy and his friend about the basketball game and proceeded to verbally spar for the remainder of the evening. I wasn’t so much attracted to Jeremy physically — he was cute enough, but not really my type. He was about my height, which as shallow as it may seem, is usually a deal breaker.

    "But, it was his personality that assured that my going home with him would be a good time, at the very least. I’m very cerebral and he had the ability to talk intelligently about an impressive range of topics. There was a certain ease to conversing with him. And, at around 1:30 a.m., he asked if I was going to go home with him (albeit, a little more crudely than that).

    "This may have offended some girls, but I found his honesty and brazenness to be fun. There was no mistaking what this was and I was surprisingly more okay with that than I thought I would be. When we got back to his place, we shared a joint, which coupled with the amount of drinks we had had meant that I remember very little of the main event. Oops. But, when I woke in the morning, Jeremy was just as jovial as he had been the night before. We laid in bed for two hours and talked about our lives before I got dressed to leave. There was no exchange of numbers, although that wasn't the last time I saw him. We live in a small city and we have bumped into each other and sort of smiled but never spoken. And I am okay with that, too."

    Illustrated by: Abbie Winters

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    The Savage x Fenty New York Fashion Week Show

    It's only been a few short weeks since Rihanna's NYFW Savage X Fenty show blew away the star-studded audience at the Brooklyn Navy Yard. Alas, that's no excuse for us to put off recreating the spectacle this Halloween. Go all out as a Slick Woods pre-birth look-a-like, or opt for a more stated (for lack of a better word) zebra print pajama set. No matter your level of savage, this group costume will go down in Halloween history.

    The Kardashian-Jenner #MyCalvins Campaign

    This year, be America's "first family" in their epic Calvin Klein spring 2018 campaign. Because who hasn't wondered what it's like to be a Kardashian/Jenner for a day?

    The Haim Sisters

    Haim isn't just any music group — it's the all-girl trio we've been waiting for since the end of Destiny's Child in 2006. From awe-worthy performances to some pretty insane outfits, this set of sisters is a force to be reckoned with. Grab two of your coolest gals and spend October 31 as Este, Danielle, and Alana. Best part? You'll be wearing these looks far past Halloween.

    The Cast of Oceans 8

    Name a more iconic female cast...we'll wait. From Rihanna's red gown at the "Met Gala" to Sandra Bullock's badass leather pants, Oceans 8 wasn't just a movie for women, by women — it also had some pretty solid style moments. Prepare to steal all the attention for the evening.

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    There's no denying that love flourishes in the summer — and we all have a friend, co-worker, or soon-to-be sister-in-law with a fresh, sparkly engagement ring to prove it. But when it comes to planning the ceremony, there's something about a brisk autumn breeze and orange October sun that appeals. And while a lot of wedding beauty looks are timeless, fall brides have an opportunity to experiment with rich, warm looks that reflect the season.

    Daniel Martin (the man behind Meghan Markle's au naturale royal wedding makeup look) tells us that the biggest bridal beauty trends will put focus on dewy, sun-kissed skin, a sheer wash of rich color over the eyes, and a barely-there nude lip that won't smudge off on the rim of your champagne flute.

    “This fall, bridal makeup is going to be all about skin and eyes," Martin explains. "Not a full smoky eye situation, but you're going to see some warm rusty reds and burgundy shadow shades — which have popped up in a lot of collections this season — because those tones look incredible whether you have blue, green, or brown eyes."

    Ahead, we've rounded up all of Martin's wedding makeup ideas. These three stunning trends will inspire any bride who thinks that strolling down a cobblestone street and breathing in the smell of just-fallen leaves with the one you love is heck of a lot more romantic than a barefoot beach wedding.

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    Fresh, Dewy Skin

    Martin tells us that he was conscious of keeping Meghan Markle's bridal makeup look very fresh, almost untouched. Simplicity was important to complement everything else going on — the Givenchy gown, embroidered veil, diamond tiara, and most importantly, all that lip-biting love. "When I was doing Meghan’s makeup, that moment was so much about her, H, and the dress," Martin explains. "It was important not to get caught up in makeup trends and to let her natural beauty shine through. So, for her foundation, I just used my fingers to blend it out and create the most natural finish that looked lived in."

    Photo: JONATHAN BRADY/AFP/Getty Images.

    Martin is a brand ambassador for Dior, and he swears by the label's new Backstage Face and Body Foundation for all brides because it's buildable, waterproof, sweat-resistant, and creates a natural radiance on the skin — both in person and on camera.



    Dior Backstage Face & Body Foundation, $40, available at Sephora

    Here, you can see the focus of the beauty look is Laura Harrier's full-bodied curls, the dress, and delicate droplet earrings. The makeup — lit-from-within skin, nude glossy lip s, and a subtle cat-eye — add to the look without pulling all the attention.

    If you're looking for a base that works to even skin tone and give a little glow, a tinted moisturizer may be a better fit than a full-fledged foundation. This one has coverage that is barely detectable, but doesn't disappear on a sunny day or after a few mascara tears spill down your cheek.



    Laura Mercier Tinted Moisturizer Broad Spectrum SPF 20 - Oil Free, $45, available at Sephora

    Rusty Red Eyeshadow

    This fall, Martin predicts that the shadow de jour is going to be warm with a red base, which creates a stunning, smoky sunset look on the eyes. "A rusty red is pretty on every eye color, and it's a shade that has popped up in so many new makeup collections this season," Martin explains. "It doesn't have to be heavy, just a light wash of color on the lid can really make the eyes pop."

    At the Emmys, Mandy Moore wore the exact shadow look that Martin is alluding to. For the burnt orange smoky eye, makeup artist Jenn Streicher told Allure that she used the new Proenza Schouler for Lancôme Chroma Eyeshadow Palette in 01 Warm Chroma. She dipped into two of the darker rusty brown shades for the lid and swept on lighter nude shades for dimension below the eye.



    Proenza Schouler Proenza Schouler for Lancôme Chroma Eyeshadow Palette, $50, available at lancôme paris

    For a look that's both elevated and romantic, keep the rest of the face bare (and glowy), then work a burnished copper shadow into the crease of the eyelid.

    Here's another new palette that plays into the bridal trend. This one by Huda Beauty comes with both matte and glitter pans. With options like these, you can keep the look warm and neutral with deep caramels and rich reds, or amp up the sparkle.



    Huda Beauty Obsessions Eyeshadow Palette in Topaz, $27, available at Sephora

    Burgundy Glitter Eyeshadow

    "Burgundy, an eggplant purple with a tinge of red-ish undertones, is another shade that's going to be big for fall bridal this season," Martin tells us. "The red mixed with purple creates this warm fig or a raisin-like hue that gives soft dimension without looking too dark, and it reads stunning on every skin tone."

    "Honest Beauty just came out with an eyeshadow palette with this glitter burgundy pan that I love," Martin tells us (he's also a brand ambassador for Honest). "I like to use it as eyeliner, and it creates this really beautiful complement against any eye color."



    Honest Beauty Eyeshadow Palette, $19.98, available at Honest Beauty

    On Jourdan Dunn, celebrity makeup artist Erin Parsons worked a deep burgundy shadow all over her eyelid, building the color darker through the crease. The fine-grained shimmer in the shadow gives the look more of a glossy finish, instead of a one-dimensional matte.

    Fans can't get enough of this NARS Dual Intensity Eyeshadow in the shade Desdemona. The burgundy shade keeps selling out because it's buildable and can be applied either wet or dry for a look that's both unexpected and romantic.



    NARS Dual-Intensity Eyeshadow in Desdemona, $29, available at Lord & Taylor

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    Kate Middleton is officially off of maternity leave and already back into her favorite Zara jeans. On Tuesday, the mother-of-three visited the Sayers Croft Forest School and Wildlife Garden in London wearing one of her favorite pairs of pants from the fast-fashion retailer.

    The Duchess of Cambridge first wore the bottoms in 2016 on an outing in India with Prince William. They reappeared in 2017, proving that a $50 pair of jeans can really go the distance. Middleton has dressed the pants up with a printed blouse and worn them with a safari-style jacket for a more casual vibe. Most recently, she styled them with an olive jacket and sweater, finishing the look off with a pair of knee-high boots.

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    Whether you're begging for the season to end or grasping onto the last few weeks of heat for dear life, there's just no denying that, pretty soon, summer will be on its way out. But, like summer, fall is equally full of lovable clichés: cooler weather, the yearly swap from iced-to-hot coffee, and exchanging those colorful sandals for some chunky, often black, boots. While there's no sin in holding onto pastels and neon hues throughout autumn, lime green and soft yellow aren't quite as good at transitioning when it comes to fall footwear.

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    If your hair has ever touched peroxide, or been wrapped around a curling iron one too many times, you could probably use a protein bond-building hair treatment. Like a hair mask on steroids, these heavy-duty formulas do more than just make your hair shiny; they actually help to repair each strand from the inside out, healing the hair rather than just hydrating it.

    For a long time, these potent treatments could only be found in the hands of salon professionals. But a few years back, Olaplex changed the game by launching at Sephora, meaning you could finally get the salon-quality treatment without a hairdresser's license. More treatments of this type have since followed, and now, there are more than ever available on the market — even at drugstore prices.

    Full disclosure: Most of what you'll find over-the-counter still won't be quite as effective as what you get in the salon. Still, there's proof in the pudding that bond-building formulas work to not only create a glossy, healthy-looking seal over the hair, but also repair the damage you subject it to daily with hot tools or monthly with root touch-ups. Finally, your overprocessed hair doesn't have to feel overprocessed any longer. Ahead, the best reparative treatments that won't cost more than a partial set of highlights...

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    Maintaining the faux-blonde life means sacrificing a lot, like accepting your fate of fried ends and root breakage. This leave-in treatment hopes to spare you from at least some of that damage, thanks to protein-building amino acids and B vitamins. After shampooing and conditioning, smooth the lightweight tonic through hair from root to tip and continue with the rest of your styling routine.



    Color Wow Kale Cocktail, $24, available at Color Wow

    Take the wait time out of your deep treatments by turning to this under-$7 shampoo and conditioning pair, which utilizes a cross-linking polymer called cystine, as well as vegetable proteins, to reverse color damage without having to spend an extra 20 minutes in the shower.



    OGX OGX Restoring + Bonding Plex Shampoo, $6.99, available at Target

    Matrix's new treatment trio comes complete with a shampoo and conditioner for regular use and a weekly treatment for heavy-duty repair. While the two daily steps keep your scalp from product build-up and rough texture, The Re-Bond 2 works similarly to Olaplex No. 3. Comb it through damp hair, leave on for 10 minutes, then directly add the Re-Bond 3 conditioner on top before rinsing. In just one test-drive, your hair will feel newly bouncy and silky smooth.



    Matrix Total Results The Re-Bond Pre-Conditioner, $18, available at Ulta Beauty

    Like your favorite pre-shampoo masks, this pH-balancing formula goes on before you wash your hair. After 10 minutes, rinse, then condition. By the time your hair is dried, those weak protein bonds will be as good as new. Try putting this in before going to the gym — the heat from your scalp will make the treatment work harder, making you an expert multitasker.



    Redken pH Bonder Post-Service Perfector, $16, available at Ulta Beauty

    Any colorist will tell you that masking isn't an option — it's almost mandatory for healthy hair. At least, that's the case if you don't want to see serious breakage by your third pastel retouch. But unlike a lot of masks out there, this one will actually help prevent further damage by soaking the hair in nourishing amino acids to prep each strand for your next double process. Bonus: Not only does it protect from the kind of damage you'll find in the salon, but it'll also help keep your ends safe from your 400º curling iron.



    Wella Fusionplex Mask, $22, available at Ulta Beauty

    For anyone who frequently covers their natural roots in bleach, you know one thing to be true: The breakage is real. Not only is it upsetting, but it often evokes fear in our hearts that maybe, just maybe, we shouldn't go back for our next touch-up appointment. Luckily, Madison Reed just launched a weekly treatment (six treatments in total) to repair existing damage to color-treated hair before its next appointment. On top of being a bond-repairing formula, these treatments also work just as hard — if not harder — than your weekly Sunday masks by using ingredients like keratin and argan oil to nourish and hydrate.



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    On Tuesday, Walmart announced that it would be acquiring Eloquii. As the retailer continues to pursue the next generation of customers who favor shopping online versus heading to the nearest mall, it's plus-size start-ups like Eloquii, as well as ModCloth and Bonobos, both of which Walmart already owns, that appeal the most. The deal is set to be finalized later this year for an undisclosed amount.

    So, what does this mean for the four-year-old plus-size fashion e-tailer? A lot of good things, actually. For starters, "not much" is changing, according to a blog post written by the brand. "Walmart loves that the way we approach design, quality, fit, and fashion are brand non-negotiables [sic] and will always be at the heart of what we do," Eloquii wrote to its customers. "We’re the same Eloquii team producing the new fashion you know and love — just with a new parent." The new ownership will allow Eloquii to expand its business, increase its operational leverage, and improve its quality — which also means more pop-ups and potential brick-and-mortar locations.

    Founded under The Limited in 2011, Eloquii was discontinued and relaunched four years ago as an independent company and has provided fashion for women between sizes 14 and 28 ever since. According to Walmart's findings, Eloquii has seen 3x continued revenue growth since 2015 in the plus-size fashion market, which is valued at $21 billion. Though similar, Eloquii and ModCloth have no plans yet of collaborating. "We are laser focused on developing a portfolio of direct to consumer brands with a unique assortment you can't find anywhere else," senior vice-president of digital consumer brands at Walmart US e-commerce Andy Dunn said in a statement.

    As Walmart increases its e-commerce presence, it continues to separate itself from other major online destinations like Amazon and Google Shopping. Most importantly, its acquisition of Eloquii, which sees the digitally-native fashion brand join other direct-to-consumer, tech-driven fashion labels like Jet.com and Allswell, will help get accessible fashion into the hands of women everywhere.

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    Ever since Amazon bought Whole Foods Market back in June 2017, Prime members have reaped a healthy portion of benefits that non-members simply don't have access to. For example, Prime members have the luxury of free (free!) two-hour grocery delivery and 10% off sale items in store, which is nothing short of a shopper's blessing considering that none of us have ever walked out of a Whole Foods with a receipt totaling less than $100.

    Still, Whole Foods isn't stopping there. Yesterday, the retailer sweetened the deal by launching a month-long beauty sale. That means body, hair, and skin-care products will be 30% off until November 1. To shop the Back to Body sale, all you have to do is have a Prime account and visit your local Whole Foods Market. Too lazy to go in store? The sale extends to Amazon Prime Now for Whole Foods, too.

    Not sure exactly what to get or when you can get it? Keep clicking for our favorite sale products and all the details on exactly when they'll be marked down this month.

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    October 3-9: Bath & Body Care

    It's easy to forget that our entire body needs a skin-care routine. Since you're probably not going to lather yourself in an anti-aging serum (those elixirs are damn expensive!), you should invest in an antioxidant-loaded body wash, like this one, instead.



    Andalou Naturals Andalou Naturals CannaCell Shower Gel, Joyful, $6.99, available at Amazon

    Even though it's October, the temperature is still hot enough for your coconut oil to melt, so consider investing in a bar soap infused with the sweet stuff instead.



    Alaffia Soap Bar Good Soap Coconut Green Tea, $2.99, available at Amazon

    October 10-16: Hair Care

    An entire summer filled with highlight touch-ups and bowls of peroxide calls for a thickening shampoo. This one is basically a biotin pill in a pretty (and cheap!) bottle.



    Avalon Organics Avalon Organics Biotin B-Complex Thickening Shampoo, $8.94, available at Amazon

    Summer vacation is over, but that doesn't mean you have to leave behind the beachy texture that came with it. This shampoo not only makes waves (literally... in your hair), but it also smells like a piña colada.



    Pacifica Pacifica Beauty Salty Waves Texturizing Shampoo, $9.99, available at Amazon

    October 17-23: Essential Oils, Carrier Oils, & Aromatherapy Diffusers

    Flu season is approaching, which means it's time to prepare for a stuffy nose and perpetual congestion. Instead of rubbing Vick's VapoRub all over your chest (a.k.a. the least sexy scent in the world), keep a tiny bottle of this essential oil by your bed. Just add to a diffuser before you go to sleep, and you'll instantly feel relaxed and clear of all mucus.



    Whole Foods Market Whole Foods Market, 100% Essential Oil Eucalyptus, $4.99, available at Amazon

    Speaking of diffusers, it's time to invest in one. If you don't like rolling essential oils on your skin (which, turns out, can be quite problematic), consider adding some into your atmosphere. Pour a couple of drops of your favorite essential oil into the diffuser base and within minutes your room will smell like an expensive spa.



    Whole Foods Market Whole Foods Market, Diffuser Caroline, $49.95, available at Amazon

    October 24-30: Skin Care

    Ask your dermatologist the one skin-care ingredient you should add to your daily ritual and they'll likely say, "Vitamin C!" (Yes, even before retinol.) But why? Not only does the juicy component brighten skin, but it also improves collagen production and diminishes dark circles.



    Mad Hippie Mad Hippie Vitamin C Serum, $33.99, available at Amazon

    If cleansing milk were a character in Little Woman, it'd definitely be Beth (shy, unassuming, and maybe even a little overlooked). Dr. Hauschka's foaming formula is so much more than you think. Not only does it cleanse the skin of oil and makeup, but it also utilizes bentonite clay to really clear out your pores in just one wash.



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    We know what you're thinking: Fashion Month is still going on? The fatigue might have set in now that New York has long wrapped and the fashion pack is holed up in their fourth city, but the beauty inspiration? It hasn't slowed down for a second.

    We sent a street style photographer to the City of Light to capture all the best beauty looks — and she came back with a list of every single hair trend you'll want to wear this fall. Forget the bedhead-y, 'French girl hair' you're used to reading about; these showgoers are rewriting the rules with rainbow dye jobs, blunt bangs, and rad hair accessories.

    Keep clicking for a look at the five biggest hair trends from Paris S/S 2019 Fashion Week — then book an appointment with your stylist before everyone gets back.

    Bangs

    Whether baby and blunt or wispy and wavy, fringe was one of the most popular looks of the season. They were spotted on locals and visiting fashion editors alike, and styled in a variety of ways. The standout set you'll notice ahead is blunt, worn above the brows, and styled silky smooth. One thing's for sure: This isn't the French-girl bang you might expect.

    Rainbow Color

    Forget the latest "It" bag, it was ROYGBIV that distinguished the coolest women attending Fashion Week in Paris — and there was no one way to try the look du jour. Vibrant wigs and Technicolor crops mingled with rooty shades of pumpkin spice and soft washes of pastel color to form a rainbow of inspiring options outside shows. Hell, there's even bright pink brows ahead...

    Hair Accessories

    Like colorful hair, there was no right hair accessory to choose before stepping onto Rue de Honoré this season. The actual accessories covered the spectrum, but they all had one big thing in common: function. Silk kerchiefs held low ponytails in place, pins secured stray hairs, and stretch headbands gave dry shampoo the day off. Noticeably missing, however, were scrunchies — the latest stateside trend — which lost out to patterned scarves both short and long.

    Brushed Back Hair

    Equal parts slicked back and lived-in, the wet look got the Parisian treatment this season. Many showgoers brushed back their strands using a shine-enhancing product, but unlike its red carpet counterpart, this iteration was a bit more imperfect and a lot less, well, wet. A little shine goes a long way and if a few strands fall out of place? All the better to enhance your je ne se quoi.

    Loose Updos

    We've been living in the era of the boss bun stateside, but overseas things look a whole lot softer. That means if you want to fit in in Paris, it's best to forget the precise, structured updos from award season and embrace imperfect buns and chignons that look unique, fall beautifully, and look like they took all of three minutes to create. (Which, of course, we know isn't true.)

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    Nowadays, iPhone cameras are as good as any, but when it comes to photo-sharing, most rely on third party editing apps to give their photos that extra Instagram oomph. But there are a lot of options out there, and if the selection seems overwhelming, you're not alone.

    So where to begin? Ahead, we rounded up the best photo-editing apps you can use to up your selfie game, take your nature photos up a notch, and overall transform your camera roll into a professional influencer's 'gram grid. Filters, colors, and effects, oh my!

    Snapseed

    This app has an easy-to-use interface with fewer frills than its competitors, which makes for a less intimidating experience for those who aren't super familiar with photo editing. It's easy to undo and redo all edits, which means you can mess around without worrying about ruining a photo for all of eternity. Great for both landscapes and portraits of people. It's as simple as scrolling through until you land on a filter you love!

    Best For: The Editing Newbie
    Price: Free

    VSCO

    In addition to all the standard fixings, this app allows users to create recipes and presets based on their personal editing aesthetic. Plus, there's a social component that connects photographers and a curated Discover feed of great photo inspo right there in the app. If you're looking for something more heavy-duty, there's also VSCO X, a paid membership with even more resources and tools. Using this app and its minimalist interface will make you feel like a legit creator.

    Best For: The Editorial Photographer
    Price: Free with optional in-app purchases, or $19.99/year for a VSCO X membership

    Afterlight 2

    This one wins for coolest effects, and will straight up turn your photos into art with its selective hue, saturation, and lightness adjustments. It comes at one price including all add-ons, rather than charging for add-ons on an otherwise free app. With its Overlay feature, you can give your photo a prism effect, superimpose images together, or go for a vintage look with dust leaks. If you're after a dreamlike aesthetic, this app is for you.

    Best For: The Digital Artist
    Price: $2.99

    Polarr

    Polarr is great for a variety of skill levels: If you're a novice, you can rely on its auto-enhance tools to do the editing work for you, but if you're a pro, you can use one of the app's countless local and global adjustment options to tweak your photo exactly to your liking, with impressive detail and control.

    Best For: The Group Photo Photographer
    Price: Free, with in-app purchases

    A Color Story

    If you're looking to make your photos pop, this app will be your new best friend. It comes with a great assortment of free filters that will make even the dullest photo stand out, though you'll have to shell out a few bucks for any of the add-on filter collections. Each filter comes with a recommended use: i.e. lifestyle and beauty images, portraits, or fashion photos. Also, A Color Story's Instagram page is just, well, beautiful.

    Best For: The Color Aficionado
    Price: Free with in-app purchases, which you will likely want, because the filters it comes with aren't as cool as the ones you have to buy.

    Darkroom

    This app is best known for its curve and color tools, plus its batch editing, which lets users apply global edits to a group of photos at the same time. Create dramatic B&W photos or bring a photo to life by enhancing its color and tone, and you'll get pretty close to the quality you'd get from developing a photo in a darkroom – except you can do it on the couch.

    Best For: The Moody Photographer
    Price: Free with in-app purchases

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    A lot of skin care is straightforward: Cleansers cleanse, moisturizers moisturize, and so on and so forth. But facial serums have been known to send those unfamiliar with skin-care specifics to Google, where they'll find this horrible (and, for these purposes, inaccurate) definition for the word: "an amber-colored, protein-rich liquid that separates out when blood coagulates," named after the Latin word for "whey," which is the liquid that remains after milk has been curdled and strained during the cheese-making process. Blood, milk water, curdling, coagulation — who needs any of that in their beauty routine, except maybe for casomorphin-addicted vampires?

    But we've come a long way since... whey, and Elizabeth Báthory died in 1614 (coincidentally, around the same time the word "serum" was first coined). Serum is now used to describe an entire category of skin-care products; sometimes water-based, sometimes more of an oil, always something that dermatologist Joshua Zeichner, MD, describes as "a delivery system for highly concentrated active ingredients." And you — yes, you — need one, or three. Sure, a moisturizer will do its job to hydrate and protect... but your serum is what does the thing you need.

    If all you've ever known is the rote three-step system you were once prescribed at a department-store cosmetics counter with your mom peering over your shoulder, maybe serum is not something you have considered adding to your routine. But listen, and listen good: A routine void of serums is a huge missed opportunity for skin improvement. "Moisturizers address skin hydration, but serums can do a variety of different jobs depending on what ingredients they're formulated with," says Dr. Zeichner. "Some help lighten dark spots, some improve the appearance of wrinkles, some offer antioxidant benefits — a serum complements your other skin-care products and can be layered underneath them."

    At the end of the day, if you want to see real results, do this: Wash your face. Dry your face (gently, very gently). And while your skin is still a little damp, just before you moisturize, smooth on a few drops of your serum, like the ones Dr. Zeichner suggests ahead. Yes, it's your serum now, and you'll never want to be without it again. Hell, you might even want to bathe in it — you know, Báthory-style.

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    "Vitamin C is perhaps the most effective antioxidant we have available in skin care," Dr. Zeichner says. "It can help prevent free radical damage that leads to early skin wrinkling and pigmentation." This cult-favorite serum combines the potent ingredient with vitamin E, ferulic acid, and fruit enzymes, making it a one-and-done for brightening, smoothing, and antioxidant protection.



    Drunk Elephant C-Firma™ Day Serum, $80, available at Sephora

    "This light serum is a great option to use on its own for hydration or to layer underneath your moisturizer for extra benefits," Dr. Zeichner says. "It can be applied under makeup to hydrate the skin without feeling heavy."



    Neutrogena Hydro Boost Hydrating Hyaluronic Acid Serum, $15.29, available at Target

    Dr. Zeichner says that this serum is suitable for a wide range of skin types — oily, dry, and everything in between — thanks to its combination of both oil-based and water-based ingredients. "Its star ingredient is turmeric, which has been shown to have anti-inflammatory and brightening benefits, making it useful for treating everything from acne to wrinkles," he says.



    Clarins Double Serum Complete Age Control Concentrate, $89, available at Sephora

    "This serum contains a bacterial extract called bifidus, which has been shown to help strengthen, hydrate, and brighten the skin," Dr. Zeichner says. "These properties make it a great option to help strengthen aging skin."



    Lancôme Advanced Génifique Youth Activating Serum, $78, available at Ulta Beauty

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    Wait a minute. It turns out there are some things that are off limits for Kim Kardashian West to post on her Instagram account for her 118 million followers — especially when her husband Kanye West is involved. The mother-of-three revealed this news to Ashley Graham on the plus-size model's debut episode of her new podcast, Pretty Big Deal.

    Kardashian West told Graham she turned down an opportunity to do a sponsored Instagram post after talking it over with her husband. Had she done it, she would have been paid $1 million. "It is great money, but the brand was typically knockoff Yeezy, so I said let me ask Kanye how he feels about it," she said. Grateful for the act of solidarity, West gave the reality star a check for $1 million as a Mother's Day gift — the amount she would have made if she did the post — and granted her ownership percentage of his Yeezy clothing brand.

    "He happened to be recording out of town and I get an envelope delivered to the door. I open the envelope and it is a million dollar check and a note saying, ‘Thank you for always supporting me and not posting,'" Kardashian West says, detailing the gift. "In the rest of the envelope, it was a full, thick contract to be an owner of Yeezy to my have my percentage," she added.

    Kardashian West also admitted that she hesitated whether or not to actually cash her husband's check, but finally gave in to the temptation. "My mom was like, ‘Are you going to cash this?’ And I was like, ‘You better believe I am going to cash this!’ I have no shame. I did feel bad, but two days later, I was like, cashed!"

    Now, as for what brand is "typically knockoff Yeezy," it is interesting that Kardashian West's sisters partnered with fast-fashion retailers PrettyLittleThing and Fashion Nova, but Kim hasn't. A quick glance at PrettyLittleThing's website shows an image that's eerily similar to the Yeezy aesthetic. The same can be said of Fashion Nova, so you're guess is as good as ours. But we know they've both got money to spend.

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    Though the weather forecast predicts chilly temperatures this fall, our makeup routines are typically on the warmer side. Our #FOTD usually consists of golden shadow, Champagne-colored highlighter, and lots of vampy lipstick. But as we’ve started perusing the shelves at some of our favorite stores for new fall makeup, we've realized that cool-toned colors are having a moment — and we're not mad at it.

    Many brands have pivoted away from the warm and fuzzy colors synonymous with autumn — rich browns, dimensional golds, vibrant reds — and launched brand new goods that give us icy vibes instead. Silver highlighter has emerged (we’re looking at you, Rihanna), along with a selection of eyeshadow palettes and shimmer toppers that remind us of frosty makeup from our childhood, but all grown up.

    We've rounded up some of our favorite cool finds from the beauty aisle, because everything that glitters does not have to be gold.

    If you've already hit pan on Fenty Beauty's buzzy Trophy Wife highlighter, consider testing out its silver twin sister this season. It has a bouncy, gel-to-powder texture that you can lightly dust on or layer for a dramatic look. It creates a diamond-like glow on a variety of skin tones, and you can see what it looks like on Refinery29 editors before you take the plunge.



    FENTY BEAUTY BY RIHANNA Diamond Bomb All-Over Diamond Veil, $38, available at Sephora

    You don't have to fork up a ton of cash on a cool-toned palette — especially if it's out of your comfort zone. This one from Sephora Collection will only set you back 10 bucks and has eight matte and shimmer shades that are super pigmented, plus a golden hue to balance your look is you feel too chilly.



    Sephora Collection Enchanted Sky Eyshadow Palette, $10, available at Sephora

    This topper looks pink in the tube, but when blended onto your eyelids it morphs into a shimmery green hue with flecks of iridescent glitter. Pat it over metallic eyeshadow to intensify the pigment, or use it solo to create a soft glow. If you're feeling really bold, dab some of this on top of your favorite matte lipstick color to give it a multidimensional effect.



    Violet Voss Eye Glitter Topper, $15, available at Sephora

    If you want to dabble into green eyeshadow, but don't want to end up looking like Poison Ivy, you'll love this earthy palette. It comes with six cool shades (including an army green shimmer), that are totally wearable day or night.



    Bobbi Brown Luxe Camo Face and Eye Shadow Palette, $75, available at Sephora

    Whether your idea of a smoky eye is a jet black crease with a silver lid or a brown outer corner with hints of gold, you can achieve it with this palette. It comes with 14 neutral matte and shimmer shades that have a vivid color payoff on a variety of complexions.



    Anastasia Beverly Hills Sultry Eye Shadow Palette, $45, available at Anastasia Beverly Hills

    This shimmer duo is ideal if you want to ease into the cool-toned makeup trend. One side is a molten copper color with flecks of silver glitter, and the other is like a tall glass of metallic Champagne in shadow form. Place the colors on a damp brush to make your inner corners pop, or lightly dust them over your cheekbones to intensify your highlight.



    Stila Bare With Flair Eyeshadow Duo, $20, available at Ulta Beauty

    All the shimmers you need to create a flashy holiday party look live in this palette. Each pan has an opaque color payoff that'll standout on pale to deep complexions.



    Flesh Beauty Limited Edition Flesh Envy Eyeshadow Palette, $38, available at Ulta Beauty

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    Check the calendar, people — it's officially October. And while this time of year is typically consumed by Halloween costumes this and pumpkin-spiced that, the month is about a lot more. October is dedicated to Breast Cancer awareness, and while many brands will be donating to the cause for the next four weeks, one, in particular, is going a step further. On Tuesday, H&M launched a bra collection coined "Close To My Heart," designed for "those fighting against breast cancer around the world."

    The collection, made up of three bra styles (sports bras, bralettes, and soft-cup bras), was inspired by an H&M employee and breast cancer survivor who was "unable to find affordable, fashionable, and functional undergarments in her time in need," according to an H&M spokesperson. Each bra was "specially made for women with prostheses" and designed to provide "overall better coverage." This H&M employee's struggle, along with the struggle of all women suffering from this disease, pushed the retailer to do its part in helping solve their problem.

    On top of the "Close To My Heart" capsule, H&M and its long-time partner, the American Cancer Society, are working towards a goal of raising $125,000 for breast cancer research throughout the month of October. 100% (yes, 100%!) of proceeds from the collection will be donated to ACS, and every in-store customer will have the option to round up their total to the nearest dollar to be matched by the brand up to $25,000.

    So, this month, support your fellow ladies by stopping by (and shopping at) H&M. No matter what you buy — from $3.99 scrunchies to these must-have boots — your purchase might just make a big difference.

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    "Indelible in the hippocampus is the laughter," Dr. Christine Blasey Ford testified when asked her most vivid memory of being sexually assaulted by Judge Brett Kavanaugh, referring to the brain area where traumatic memories are stored. "The uproarious laughter between the two and they're having fun at my expense."

    It's not a leap to say that this is why President Donald Trump chose to openly mock Dr. Ford in front of thousands of people at a Mississippi rally Tuesday night. Most of the crowd behind him, which included some women holding "Women for Trump" signs and presumably people who identify themselves as good Christian folks, laughed like hyenas as the president, who has been accused of sexual assault and misconduct by 19 women, made fun of a survivor of sexual violence.

    “Thirty-six years ago this happened. I had one beer, right? I had one beer,” Trump said, his voice dripping with disdain as he imitated Dr. Ford testifying that Kavanaugh sexually assaulted and attempted to rape her.

    "How did you get home? I don’t remember. How’d you get there? I don’t remember. Where is the place? I don’t remember. How many years ago was it? I don’t know. I don’t know. I don’t know. I don’t know," he said, making fun of how Dr. Ford wasn't able to recall certain details of her assault, as it often happens with survivors. "What neighborhood was it in? I don’t know. Where’s the house? I don’t know. Upstairs, downstairs, where was it? I don’t know. But I had one beer. That’s the only thing I remember."

    Trump's remarks were cruel attempt at dehumanizing a survivor and private citizen who has faced a barrage of death threats and persecution following her decision to speak publicly against her alleged assailant. His comments also put into question the fairness of the FBI background investigation into the claims against Kavanaugh, as Trump is the one who directed its parameters.

    Dr. Ford is not the only woman who has publicly accused Trump's nominee of sexual misconduct. Deborah Ramirez claims Kavanaugh "exposed himself at a drunken dormitory party, thrust his penis in her face, and caused her to touch it without her consent as she pushed him away" in college. Julie Swetnick says Kavanaugh was present when she was gang raped.

    The president then went on to argue that Kavanaugh, who's denied the allegations, and men in general are the real victims of the societal movement against sexual harassment and violence that's been taking place in the last year.

    "Think of your son. Think of your husband," Trump continued, disregarding the widespread evidence that false rape allegations are not common. “I’ve had many false accusations. I’ve had so many. When I say it didn’t happen, nobody believes me.”

    It's not the first time that Trump has made fun of survivors — he's mocked his own accusers — or the #MeToo movement.  But his performance at the rally was a new low for the alleged sexual predator.

    Democrats and key Republicans like Sens. Jeff Flake and Susan Collins, who Trump needs if he wants Kavanaugh confirmed, condemned the remarks. Collins, who remains undecided on Kavanaugh's confirmation, said: "The president's comments were just plain wrong."

    Michael Avenatti, who represents Swetnick, also pushed against Trump's comments.

    "Trump sought applause and laughter at the expense of a sexual assault victim," Avenatti told Refinery29. "It is a disgusting example of behavior for anyone, let alone the POTUS."

    If you have experienced sexual violence and are in need of crisis support, please call the RAINN Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-HOPE (4673).

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    It's no secret that Amazon owns our shopping habits. So much so, it's become our go-to for everything from a 10 pack of Pocky sticks to designer dresses, sending us into a Target-like rabbit hole that results in a cart full of items we didn't plan on purchasing. If you can think of it, it's likely Amazon has it.

    But coming across more unique and worthy finds, like a novelty plant holder or a new pair of heels, isn't as easy a task. Unless you're a pro at scrolling through hundreds of thousands of products, it's easy to quit three pages in. So, we're doing the grunt work and digging through the deepest reaches of Amazon for the best goodies around. Tech, beauty, fashion, wellness, home; there's not one category we're excluding from our search.

    From the most buzz-worthy eyeliners on the market to affordable furniture that only looks expensive, our editors are rounding up the best Amazon has to offer. Even better, we're bringing you a brand spanking new list of items, every week. Check back here each Monday for the latest round of Amazon available products you'll want to add to cart, sans the toilet paper.

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    With a planter this cute, there's no reason not to take the plunge and finally adopt a happy little plant into your life.



    Bloomingville Metal Hanging Flower Pot with Copper Electroplated Fini, $33.6, available at Amazon

    Channel your inner quirky Wes Anderson character and utilize this antique looking bowl as a display for all of your hand-picked tangerines.



    Iittala Kastehelmi Dewdrop Lemon Footed Bowl, $42.99, available at Amazon

    With animal prints back on trend, try using a statement making leopard print rug as the centerpiece for your living room.



    Erin Gates by Momeni Acadia Collection Cheetah Faux Hide Area, $158.71, available at Amazon

    If you need an incentive to finally leave your phone as far from your bed during the night as possible, invest in a traditional analogue alarm clock that isn't an eyesore.



    PiLife 3" Mini Vintage Analog Alarm Clock, $11.58, available at Amazon

    These rustic looking throws will pair perfectly with your modern farmhouse decor.



    Dii Rustic Cotton Blanket Throw with Fringe, $18.98, available at Amazon

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    In lieu of traditional chandelier earrings, go for a fun pair of heart drop earrings that add a little extra personality.



    MengPa Hoop Earrings, $7.98, available at Amazon

    This (hooded!) plus-size trench coat runs from sizes 16W to 24W.



    Zeagoo Plus Size Double Breasted Wool Elegant Long Lined Light, $57.99, available at Amazon

    Wear these from work to weekend and back again.



    Theory Wide Leg Pull on Snap Pant, $345, available at Amazon

    For those formal events when you want to bring out your inner goddess.



    Keepsake The Label Long Sleeve V Neck Gown with Front Twist and Slit, $195, available at Amazon

    Wear your life motto out loud with our very own R29-designed sweatshirt.



    Refinery29 The Illuminator Sweatshirt, $35.99, available at Amazon

    Wellness
    Just a friendly reminder that you should be purchasing new running shoes for ever 300 to 500 miles.



    Asics Roadhawk FF 2 Running Sneakers, $64.98, available at Amazon

    This foot roller touts ice pack type therapy with its stainless steel surface that stays cool.



    GoFit Polar Foot Roller for Plantar Fasciitis, $21.96, available at Amazon

    Inside the duffle you'll also find a handy shoe tunnel to keep your dirty gear separated and well ventilated.



    Adidas Studio Duffel Bag, $31.72, available at Amazon

    A weighted blanket is an easy purchase to try and decrease stress and anxiety at any age.



    ZonLi Weighted Blanket, $87.9, available at Amazon

    Set up a meditation corner in your own home starting with this comfortable bolster cushion.



    Peace Yoga Zafu Meditation Pillow, $24.99, available at Amazon

    Tech
    Solight Design's lightweight solar-powered lantern folds flat so you can easily store it in your daypack.



    Solight Design Outdoor Solar-Powered Light, Inflatable LED Lantern, $24.99, available at Amazon

    Say goodbye to dead zones and your choppy WiFi at home. Google's WiFi system replaces your traditional router for seamless coverage.



    Google WiFi System, $99.72, available at Amazon

    The future is here. This super affordable microwave also comes with Alexa capabilities. "Alexa, start popping my popcorn."



    Amazon Basics AmazonBasics Microwave, $59.99, available at Amazon

    Experience a more peaceful morning routine by waking up to a light therapy alarm clock that emits natural sunrise-like lighting.



    Philips Wake-up Light Alarm Clock, $97.99, available at Amazon

    By now you should know just how much bacteria your phone and electronic devices carry. Slip one of these portable PhoneSoap cleansers into your purse to ensure your cleaning those puppies as often as possible.



    Phonesoap PhoneSoap Shine, $24.95, available at Amazon

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    Kate Middleton isn't the only royal who loves a high-low mix. On Wednesday, Meghan Markle visited Sussex with her husband, Prince Harry. It's the first time the newlyweds have visited the country of their namesake duke-dome. The couple carried out a series of royal engagements, but we were captivated by Markle's outfit — per usual.

    The Duke and Duchess of Sussex saw a copy of the American Declaration of Independence, then went to visit the University of Chichester's Engineering and Digital Technology Park. On this trip, the two also will travel to East Sussex to the country's Brighton Pavilion to learn about its history, as well as met with sexual assault survivors and local kids. A royal agenda this packed needs a look that can go the distance, and Markle's outfit does just that.

    For the trip, Markle wore a fitted Hugo Boss leather pencil skirt in hunter green and paired it with a silk dark green silk shirt from & Other Stories. The website describes the blouse as a "straight-fit silk shirt" that "features a relaxed shape with a slightly longer back, giving it a modern and versatile appeal." The former Suits star completed her look with an Emporio Armani cashmere coat and her trusted Stuart Weitzman heels. Surprisingly, Markle's top is still available on & Other Stories' site (especially given the fact that it's under $100). But trust the "Meghan Markle effect" will soon go into motion, so move fast if you actually want a chance to own something royal-approved.

    & Other Stories Silk Fit Shirt, $99, available at & Other Stories.

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