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    Celine, sans accent aigu. A new dawn is upon us — and it's dark, in all senses of the word.

    In December, it was revealed that Phoebe Philo would be stepping down from Céline, and in January, creative director Hedi Slimane of Saint Laurent, would take over. Phoebephiles, as the creative director's fans were known, were distraught by the news. They were even further thrown when Slimane's first order of business was changing the house's logo. And with the French photographer and creative director's official mens- and womenswear debut in the books, we have a feeling they're in full panic mode.

    Photo: David Fisher/REX/Shutterstock.
    Photo: WWD/REX/Shutterstock.

    Slimane's spring 2019 collection could have been gleaned from the obvious — given the recent and rare interview he gave to Le Figaro last week, it was clear the designer would be starting a new chapter at the French fashion house. But, at a time when hope in the real world seems to be at an all-time low, Slimane’s arrival felt more like a crash landing than anything. Was completely foregoing the point of view of a woman whose legacy is defined by designs that were drawn for powerful women the sound, on-trend thing to do?

    As guests entered Place Vauban, they were greeted with coupes of Celine-branded champagne and a rare Karl Lagerfeld sighting (as well as a more obvious fashion show groupie Lady Gaga, who was among the two women to debut one of Slimane's first handbags for Celine, alongside Angelina Jolie). It was already more spectacle for a Celine show than Philo would have ever entertained. Within the first few looks, which featured leather jackets, skinny jeans, and sequins, it was evident the 80's-era, Saint Laurent stronghold that's captivated Slimane's attention for the past decade or so hasn't loosened at all. And that's a shame.

    Photo: WWD/REX/Shutterstock.
    Photo: David Fisher/REX/Shutterstock.

    The clothes themselves didn't allow any growth for the brand. But the designer did make good on his promise to write (sharply commence) Celine’s next chapter. It's just that ultra-short, asymmetrical, glittery cocktail dresses and Western-style ankle boots, compared to the meditative, almost conservativeness of Philo's revolutionary Celine, feels like a completely different book. Even bipartisan fans, those of both Slimane and Philo, can agree that this was not Celine — it was Zadig & Voltaire, Sandro; it may fly off racks, but it will not be revered in history.

    The pressure on designers to drive revenue, however — and this goes for visionaries, even — is too high to surmount. When Slimane departed Saint Laurent in 2016, sales had hit $1.39 billion, up more than 150% when he joined the house four years prior. The objective with Hedi, as LVMH chairman and chief executive Bernard Arnault stated in January, is to reach "at least $2.3 billion to $3.4 billion, and perhaps more, within five years." That will surpass what Philo did for Celine during her 10 years at its helm, as sales hit $828 million. So, why wouldn't Slimane stick to what he knows and crank up his greatest hits? Even if that means at the cost of a net zero connection to the house's legacy?

    If it were worth your time to pay attention to fashion at all right now, what with Eastern and Western nations in crisis, we'd continue to list what Slimane showed for his debut. But it's best to look at the evidence yourself and form your own opinion. Because, like half of the audience at Friday's show, you'll either applaud Slimane's vision or you won't — especially if not clapping is some form of silent protest against Slimane's use of six Black models for a 96-look runway show that's supposed to reflect the future of fashion and style. Or if what unfolded simply hit you where it hurts.

    Photo: WWD/REX/Shutterstock.
    Photo: David Fisher/REX/Shutterstock.

    The biggest problem with the new Celine, though, is this: At a time when the industry feels as divided as the world around it, and designers forget that doing the next indicated thing (increasing size runs, putting editors back in the front row, producing their clothes ethically and sustainably) will eventually lead them to the answers of life's bigger questions, the quench for newness is ever pertinent. And yes, Slimane's beginning at Celine was new for the house and those loyal fans who feel so emotionally connected to it — but arguably, it couldn't have been a head-scratcher for the man himself to pull off. Though we were gunning to be proved otherwise, Slimane's first collection for Celine was just too steeped in the past. The '90s are alive and well, but even if a qualified governing body can fail to vote on doing the right thing, it may, too, be time to put nostalgia to rest and move on.

    So, perhaps it takes a woman at the helm of a fashion house like Celine to understand that, at least right now, women need Celine more than ever. Its DNA and impact during the #MeToo and Time's Up movements, and the most recent Kavanaugh hearing, couldn't be clearer; it makes Slimane's debut a missed opportunity — a start on the wrong foot during what should be Celine's most historic period, if we could even imagine such.

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    Chunky sneaker, dad shoe, grandma style — call it what you will, the divisive, puffy silhouette has been in demand well before Demna's fall '17 sartorial love letter to Bernie Sanders. In a trend-driven cycle where hype begets hype, we embarked on a mission to cut through the madness of it all to get to the bottom of the real need for ugly footwear, which is fashion comfort. The first step is accepting that, aesthetics of layered bulbous rubber aside, your feet will never be mad at a more cushioned insole.

    Hard fact: the 490 five-star reviews of Skechers ' Energy sneakers on Jet prove that while the hype on hideous shoes could be considered a fashion farce by some, it's no charade when it comes to the most-loved sneaker styles in the world. Or at least the highest reviewed on the likes of Zappos, Amazon, and all the other go-to review-weighted retail behemoths we've come to rely on.

    Since we're here for the goods, wherever they may be served up, we're certainly not batting away any potential top-rated shoe, no matter the brand name or function. So, to please both the trendsetters with a hunger for a high fashion investment and those looking to get a leg up on comfort while it's #trending, we present you with real hype (those that have received high-praise from every average Jane on the internet) versus egregiously good fashion hype (like Demna's new $850 "track" sneaker). Which one would you buy into? Either way, there's no shame in the comfy shoe game.

    At Refinery29, we’re here to help you navigate this overwhelming world of stuff. All of our market picks are independently selected and curated by the editorial team. If you buy something we link to on our site, Refinery29 may earn commission.

    The hype: 2,371 reviews on Amazon with a rating of 4.6

    " My favorite shoes ever! This shoe saved my life when I had to accompany an 8th grade class to Disneyland in 2006. After wearing a brand new pair on that 5-day trip, I came home and bought two more and put them away for future use." - Charlotte L. Holt, Amazon reviewer



    Easy Spirit Romy Walking Shoe, $55.99, available at Amazon

    The hype: Acne's year-old iteration of the chunky sneaker was such an instant hit, it's now available in a multitude of colors and fabrications including a newly launched distressed version that veers into trashion. Keeping it clean over here.



    Acne Studios Manhattan Technical Sneaker , $500, available at Need Supply

    The hype: 871 reviews on Zappos with a rating of 4.7

    " Class act all around — GREAT shoe — stylish, comfortable, helps us klutzes dance a tiny bit better. These are possibly the most comfortable shoes I've ever worn. I bought them for Zumba, but find myself wearing them to work too." - Suzy H, Zappos reviewer



    Bloch Boost DRT Mesh Sneaker, $72, available at Zappos

    The hype: Yohji Yamamoto and adidas‘s collaborative Y-3 collection recently introduced the Ekika model. It's equal parts avant-garde and sporty with a touch of — is that a Zumba shoe?



    Y-3 Ekika Sneakers, $280, available at SSENSE

    The hype: 63 reviews on Nike with a rating of 4.3

    " Love, love, love these shoes! I bought them cause they looked so cute on another girl. I am not a tennis shoes girl. These still manage to look feminine and cute even with leggings. They're ridiculously comfortable. They can be dressed up or dressed down. I have 3 pairs of them." - CrystalB940189827, Nike reviewer



    Nike Air Huarache , $110, available at Nike

    The hype: The first Calvin Klein 205W39NYC label sneakers under Chief Creative Officer, Raf Simons has some serious Raf x adidas Response Trail Runner 2 vibes which—don't @ us—sort of had some Tinker Hatfield Nike Air Huarache neoprene ski shoe feels. There, we said it. Would still add to cart.



    Calvin Klein 205West39NYC Carla Sneakers, $560, available at Net-A-Porter

    The hype: 672 reviews on Jet with a rating of 4.5

    " What in the world is going on... I never write reviews. My feet are literally my life and what pays the bills. I have been wearing these shoes for over 15 years...these shoes have been my life saver. Happy feet makes a happy person..." - Reenie, Jet reviewer



    Skechers Energy Sneakers, $47.95, available at Jet

    The hype: It's no secret that Alessandro Michele has a penchant for nostalgia in the most more-is-more way. When the Gucci creative director dipped into the House's archives and surfaced up '80s and '90s logos to plaster onto a chunky sneaker silhouette, logomania ensued. Retro double Gs paired with classic green and red webbing is already enough to get any fashion plate's heart racing but on a sneaker, the potential for speed is palpable.



    Gucci Rhyton Leather Sneakers, $820, available at Barneys New York

    The hype: 44 reviews on Urban Outfitters with a rating of 4.6

    " I've had these for a few weeks now and I wear them all the time. Not only are they comfy, but they add like an inch and a half to my height (which is helpful as someone who's 4'11"!). They're stylish and comfortable, and they're also true to size. Love wearing them at school — they go with lazy outfits as well as cute ones! :) - Olivia B, Urban Outfitters reviewer



    Fila Disruptor II Sneaker, $70, available at Urban Outfitters

    The hype: U.K. counter-culture enthusiasts might remember OG chunky sneaker brand Swear London from the back pages of their beloved The Face magazine (RIP). The brand is back and bigger than ever but only in physical size for now. Be the first among your friends to lug around in these stompers.



    Swear Air Rev.Nitro, $450, available at Farfetch

    The hype: 15 reviews on Target with a rating of 4.2

    " I love these shoes! They are the perfect way to try out the dad-shoe trend without breaking the bank! They are super comfortable and I really love the laces." - Sol22, Target reviewer



    Wild Fable Maybelle Bulky Sneakers, $25, available at Target

    The hype: You didn't think you'd get through a most-wanted dad-sneaker slideshow without hitting a Triple S, did you? Whether or not you like the all-in-one running, basketball, and track shoe sole, you have to admit, the hype is way too real on these.



    Balenciaga Triple S Low-top Trainers, $895, available at MatchesFashion.com

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    In the most literal sense, the runways are meant to show us what will be in our shopping carts come next season. But even though they're looking towards the future (this month's events showed the upcoming spring/summer 2019 collections), fashion week showings can also get the gears turning on what our closet is missing, well, right now. Ever get in such a bad style rut that just the thought of shopping seems daunting? Well, the runways sometimes offer up trends you can already find in stores now, meaning your lack of inspiration is about to go out the window.

    At this point in fashion month, we've witnessed a ton of trends, many of which are new (and quite divisive), and we've even seen complete overhauls of brands we've come to love. Luckily, though, we don't have to wait six months to get our hands on everything that's been sent down the runway. In fact, there are five solid trends (at least!) that you can easily scoop up starting now.

    Turns out (almost) every show can be 'see-now, buy-now,' even when they don't mean to be. Click on to shop some of our favorite spring 2019 fashion month trends as they're unfolding.

    At Refinery29, we’re here to help you navigate this overwhelming world of stuff. All of our market picks are independently selected and curated by the editorial team. If you buy something we link to on our site, Refinery29 may earn commission.

    Biker Gang
    Good news or bad news depending on how you feel about them: Biker shorts are ver much continuing into next season. Might as well cave now.

    Each x Other

    Power Blazers
    Bring on the padded shoulders, because this is one trend we're ready to wear all fall and winter long.

    Isabel Marant

    Bucket Business
    Greasy hair days are made for bucket hats, whether they're patent, printed, or all logo'd out.

    Sportmax

    Shorts-Suiting
    You still have some time to get away with showing a little leg, and the short suit is the freshest take on professional dressing.

    Tibi

    "Where's The Party At?" Mini Dresses
    Thanks to Hedi at Celine and the general '80s revival this season, party-ready minidresses are ready for whatever your day-to-night agenda throws your way.

    Celine

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    Like it or not, we live in an era where our mugs are more than just something to hold hot liquid— they’re a fashion statement, a status symbol, and — wait for it — a lifestyle. Gone are the days when you could just roll into work with a leaky paper cup from the corner bodega. We want that mug to compliment our brands, our identities, and our regrettably large collection of basket bags. After all, what’s the point of drinking coffee, if you can’t Instagram your mug?

    Yes, mugs are practically a movement these days. And, what does that say about our culture? In the year 3045, when archeologists dig up the long forgotten ruins of your open-plan office and find your co-worker’s $94 Etsy mug, what will it say about the human race? It’s likely future anthropologists will (correctly) assume that we were WAY TOO LIT ABOUT MUGS.

    Then again, those judgy future scientists don’t know what it’s like to deal with your day-to-day office politics. And are you really just gonna sit there and drink from a Starbucks cup, when Heather in Accounting is sipping her Kyoto drip coffee from an uber-chic, hand-painted, mug-sterpiece? You’re gonna go out and find a fierce mug that matches your soul and your Prada espadrilles.

    But how to know what mug expresses your true, inner essence? To help out, here’s a round-up of seven types of mugs (and mug owners) that you’ve probably seen sipping around your workplace. Which one are you?

    Cimino Ceramics The Boob Mug, $58.00, available at Cimino Ceramics.Photographed by Pippa Drummond.

    The Woker-Than-Thou Boob Mug

    You are extremely woke. But you know this already. You have twitter-trolled at least four GOP Senators in the last two hours. Your coffee mug is your most prized possession, and it features a beautiful pair of naked breasts. You are a feminist, you are fearless, and you are smashing the patriarchy one sip of breast-delivered, ethically grown Venezuelan coffee at a time. Yas queen... Bring those ceramic areolas into your 9 a.m. budget meeting!

    Ceramics + Theory Short Mug, $48.00, available at Ceramics + Theory.Photographed by Pippa Drummond.

    The Jaded Betch Mug

    You are overrrrr it. You’ve been counting down the days until you can FINALLY quit this prison of a day job and launch, at long last, your placenta-themed jewelry shop on Etsy. As a result, you’ve chosen an extremely passive aggressive mug that broadcasts JUST how jaded you are. Why tell everyone to just f*ck off, when your mug can do it for you?

    Santimetre Studio Garbo Tea Cup & Saucer, $90.00, available at Santimetre Studio. "Vintage Stone Fruit" from Coming Soon NY.Photographed by Pippa Drummond.

    The Aggressively Artisanal Mug

    You are aggressively artisanal. If it’s not handcrafted, you are NOT interested. You worship at the altar of Gwyneth Paltrow and spend approximately $2,536 a month on Goop treasures. In your free time, you enjoy taking long walks through the farmers market and Instagramming photogenic baskets of organic, rain-dappled tomatoes. Your mug was fired in an ancient kiln by the finest craftsmen, and it currently contains loose-leaf turmeric tea that you made YOURSELF.

    Versace Prestige Gala Teacup, $215.00, available at Neiman Marcus.Photographed by Pippa Drummond.

    The Met Gala Mug

    You like things. You found Carrie Bradshaw’s shoe budget to be laughably restrained. You are willing to spend $200 dollars on the gaudiest coffee mug in the history of coffee mugs, simply because it’s Versace. Anna Wintour would approve, and don’t be surprised if you spot this hot new accessory on the red carpet at the Met Gala (last season crowns, this season….Mugs!).

    Sweet Water Decor Gold Coffee Mug, $18.00, available at Etsy.Photographed by Pippa Drummond.

    The Motivational Mantra Mug

    You are here to get shit done! You’re a team player! You love exclamation points! And you ADORE coffee mugs that tell everyone JUST HOW ENTHUSIASTIC YOU ARE! You probably shouldn’t have ANY more coffee, but YOU JUST CAN’T HELP YOURSELF! You are just SO PUMPED ABOUT WORK! #GoalDigger! #EyesOnThePrize! #TodayIsTheFirstDayOfTheRestOfYourLife!

    Fishs Eddy Obama Mug, $16.95, no longer available at Fishs Eddy.Photographed by Pippa Drummond.

    The “I’m-Still-Not-Over-The-Election” Obama Campaign Mug

    Your life ended on November 8, 2016. The horrific actions of our current administration give you literal nightmares on a daily basis, and the only things keeping you awake at work, are the gallons of coffee you drink out of your treasured Obama campaign mug — a vessel you cling to as desperately as your memories of a pre-Trump America. You’re the first to like Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez’s every tweet, and you’re ready to take on the midterms with Trump-loathing zeal!

    FamilyGiftIdeas Mom Mug, $14.95, available at Etsy.Photographed by Pippa Drummond.

    The “Mom Humor” Mug

    You are a mom who LOVES “mom jokes.” You genuinely adore humor about wine, coffee, chocolate and shopping. Diane Keaton is your spirit guide. You saw Book Club eight times in theaters, and will not rest until EVERY LAST PERSON IN YOUR OFFICE HAS SEEN IT AS WELL.

    Ember Ceramic Mug, $79.95, available at Ember.Photographed by Pippa Drummond.

    The Hi-Tech Mug

    You are obsessed with gadgets. Okay, you probably work at a startup. And, the only thing you love more than your miraculous self-heating mug, is lecturing everyone about why it represents the cutting edge of coffee-warming technology. There’s no doubt about it: You’re a total mug-splainer.

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    Nearly 180 million Americans plan on participating in Halloween festivities this year. And according to the National Retail Federation, they'll collectively spend about $9 million dollars on candy, costumes, and home decor so scary, one could probably charge guests to come over. Let that sink in for a minute.

    Going all out is awesome, but as much as we love dressing up as a murderous clown or exotic animal, we're frankly not prepared to invest that much time or money in all the extra components this year. Instead, we're focusing on our nail art.

    Here's the thing: None of us are begging our nail artist to cover all ten fingers in pumpkin-colored polish. Instead, we're scrolling through Instagram for nail art that's as cool as it is seasonal. Even better, think about how much longer a festive manicure will last than the body paint from Party City that you'll use once before tossing under the sink for all of eternity. Don't worry, if you're still in the mood for something spooky, we've got inspiration for that, too.

    Keep clicking for the not-lame Halloween nail art we're loving.

    While you might assume the classic combination of orange and black will look cheesy on the fingers, it's all about moderation. Swap out a blinding orange polish for one that's warm and metallic, then pair it with a inky navy blue for a flattering contrast that has the same spirit.

    Or keep the black and ditch the orange for a matte white. There's something about this mysterious, smudged art that gives us the chills.

    Is it just us or do these floating symbols look like they're straight out of The Blair Witch Project?

    Painting a spooky night sky on your nails shouldn't look like a kindergarten art project. For a grown-up spin on a haunting skyscape, pick up your favorite glitter top coat and layer it over a glossy black.

    Trade in the cat-eared headband for claw-like art. Bonus: Negative space is the "It" trend for fall.

    According to Pinterest, celestial makeup is trending right now. Forget the hours it would take to paint on galaxy freckles and bring this photo to your local nail salon instead.

    Orbit nails are also a trendy way to make an intergalactic style work.

    Inspired by the wood fire used to boil your cauldron.

    Okay, so maybe some people can make orange nail polish work — at least Kate Hudson can.

    Even if we skip the costume store this year, that doesn't mean we won't try to DIY every gown at this year's Heavenly Bodies Met Gala. These Sunday school nails by Tom Bachik will be our first step in recreating Rihanna's Pope ensemble.

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    Welcome to Unfiltered, where we give our honest, no-B.S. reviews of the most buzzed-about beauty products, brands, and services on the market right now.

    It says a lot if I turn on Instagram push notifications for someone. It says even more if that someone is actually a brand, but Fenty Beauty has left me no choice. Rihanna has everyone on the edge of their seats this week, releasing shades of the popular Stunna Lip Paint like they're surprise album drop s (which, by the way, the Navy would also appreciate).

    The long-wear liquid lipstick had originally only been available in red, but three nude shades joined the lineup this week: Unbutton, Uncuffed, and Unveil. And, true to form, it seems that Rihanna has saved the best for last with Uninvited, a jet-black shade that she promises looks good on all skin tones.

    We managed to get our hands on the lipstick before its release, and put it to the test on seven R29 staffers. Is it as universally flattering as Ri-Ri promises? Check out our honest opinions and photos, ahead.

    Fenty Beauty Stunna Lip Paint in Uninvited ($24) is available now on fentybeauty.com.

    Nana Agyemang, Associate Content Strategy Editor

    "This lipstick was the last I needed to try to prove that all shades can work with dark skin if you find the right one. I always thought I would look a little gothic with black lipstick and that only fair-skinned women could rock this lip but, to my surprise, I pulled this off. After applying two to three coats of the lip stain, I finally got it how I wanted it. It was a little messy to put on and a bit drying, but overall it gave me the confidence in myself to wear black lipstick. Next time, I'll try this with Chapstick underneath to help ease the dryness."

    Thatiana Diaz, Beauty Writer

    "I had to take a deep breath before trying this on because, honestly, black lipstick scares me. The darkest I've ever gone is a plum purple shade, but never black. Applying this lip was a work of art. I used Q-tips, a Beauty Blender, and concealer to get it just right. Although it wasn't the easiest to paint on, I loved how it looked. It's the perfect addition to my fall collection for those bolder days."

    Samantha Sasso, Beauty Writer

    "I was under the impression that black lipstick meant you were automatically moody (which I am) and, to some capacity, a fixture in the gothic subculture (which I am not). Then, I put this on and felt.... sexy? As for the formula, it felt like watery black ink that went on as easily as a black lipstick could, but I didn't love how it faded from my inner lip first."

    Jessica Cruel, Deputy Beauty Director

    "I love a dark lip — brown and berry shades are my go-to — but black is a *mood*. I’m a big fan of the original red Stunna Lip Paint, so I’m well-versed in using the watery formula, but I usually have a lip liner to anchor the color. RiRi, I’m gonna need you to hit me with a black lip pencil ASAP, because otherwise I can’t get the precise lines I like. I almost resorted to using black eyeliner."

    Megan Decker, Beauty Assistant

    "Because my upper lip is teetering on non-existent (it completely disappears when I smile with my teeth), I don't wear dark lipstick. My secret to wearing color — be it bright red or jet-black — is to really sheer it out. Fenty's black liquid lipstick was a lot less intimidating when I used this technique, dabbing a teensy bit in the center of my lips and rubbing it around so it melted to more of a hazy charcoal."

    Michelle Li, Associate Stylist

    "I'm not typically a lipstick person, but this felt surprisingly fitting. I liked how it contrasted with my pink hair and I was a fan of the matte black formula. The applicator was easy to use (especially for someone who isn't the best at applying lipstick). The black did smear off slightly, but overall ,I would wear it again — maybe with a really feminine top to rebelliously offset it."

    Aimee Simeon, Beauty Writer

    "This was my first time ever trying on black lipstick and I was torn. I loved the texture of formula; it did go on a little runny, but then dried into a comfy matte finish that I really enjoyed. Because of its insanely liquidly texture, I had to take my sweet time applying it, because coloring outside of the lines with this one could go very, very wrong. I wasn’t crazy about how the color looked on me once it dried, but I’m also never used to seeing myself with these lips on the regular. That said, will I hang onto it for Halloween? Heck yes."

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    With the release of Bad Reputation, Joan Jett has taken a moment to look back on her own life. She’s already an icon, but this documentary spanning the beginning of her career in the ‘70s all-girl band The Runaways to her induction into the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame in 2015 makes something else clear: she’s a fighter. She’s gone to the mat for the rights of women in music, for her own right to make and live by her rules, and for control over her career.

    “Really that’s all The Runaways were doing: trying to express ourselves the way we knew how, putting it into our songs,” Jett told Refinery29, putting the raison d'être of her groundbreaking girl band into words. “Not much different than what the Rolling Stones were doing. We didn’t want barriers put up on what we were allowed to sing about, say, or play.”

    Refinery29 spoke to Jett ahead of Bad Reputation ’s release, and the “I Love Rock ‘n’ Roll” singer told us about the strangeness of watching your life be turned into a documentary, about enduring criticism from second-wave feminists, and why she’s always faced her fears when people told her she couldn’t do something — and did it anyway.

    Refinery29: With this documentary, you got the chance to look back and reflect on the choices you’ve made and the battles you’ve chosen to fight. How do you feel about what you see?

    Joan Jett: “I feel pretty fulfilled, looking at the film. I went right along on the emotional journey that my life has been: the elation of The Runaways, the depression when the band broke up, meeting [my longtime manager] Kenny [Laguna]. It took me on this journey again. I feel good about it. I don’t have big regrets, yeah sure here and there in the details I could find stuff I wish I did, but on the main things, I’ve been really blessed and guided by a universal force that took me in the right direction for me.”

    What battles do you feel like you’re still fighting?

    “I think the gender issue, the roles of what women are allowed to do and not allowed to do, is going to be with us for a long time. That’s always a place to put some energy. Teaching younger people at an early age how to treat people is very important. I think it makes a big difference in how we grow up. Addressing gender issues and what we say to each other, it starts early. Everybody with little kids or kids around knows exactly what I’m talking about. It’s up to all of us to tend to our own gardens and deal with that stuff if we want things changed. If we want guys to treat women differently, we need to focus on how [young] boys and girls treat each other.”

    When you were starting out, both with The Runaways and as a solo act, did you think of yourself as a feminist?

    “No. The terminology was so new at the time; it wasn’t part of the lexicon. On a day to day level, people didn’t talk about being a feminist or not. It was, at that time, more of a political word. But, I definitely felt criticism from aspects of that movement who were uncomfortable with the fact that young girls and teenagers want to have sex and talk about sex. You don’t just dismiss that aspect of being a woman. I understand, given time to reflect on it, why people may have been a little punchy about it. But it’s frustrating when you’re taking crap from women when you’re trying to follow your dreams. Your parents always told you that you could be whatever you wanted to be, and now you’ve got these women telling you that you can’t for some political reason you don’t yet understand. I was didn’t get it.”

    I know what you’re talking about with second-wave feminists. That idea of separating equality from being a sexual being was very real in the ‘80s and ‘90s. Has feminism evolved since then? Is it something you identify with more now?

    “The problem with labels is they have boundaries, you know? What a feminist is to one person is not the same thing [to another]. I’m for people being what they want to be; if that’s a woman being a rock ‘n’ roller or a nuclear physicist, which may not be fields women typically go into. You can’t let other people dictate your life to you. I know I’m a woman, I knew I was a girl, but I’m going to do what I’m going to do. I didn’t get caught up in the gender role of it. That’s what I was fighting against the whole time, the fact that people were saying girls can’t play rock ‘n’ roll. It didn’t make logical sense to me. I was in band class playing clarinet and sitting next to girls playing cello and violin, while we played Beethoven and Bach. You’re not saying girls can’t master the instrument, you’re saying they’re not allowed to be the Rolling Stones. Rock ‘n’ roll by its nature is sexual. So, if a girl is going to play guitar or drums, it’s going to be sexual! There’s no way of separating those things. I found out very quickly how uncomfortable people are with people discussing their sexuality, and certainly teenagers discussing it. Really that’s all The Runaways were doing: trying to express ourselves the way we knew how, putting it into our songs. Not much different than what the Rolling Stones were doing. We didn’t want barriers put up on what we were allowed to sing about, say, or play.”

    It totally makes sense. With the Rolling Stones and so many bands of the era, women were allowed to be the subject of the song but not allowed to perform the songs because it was too dangerous. It creates a whole culture where women are the muse and not the artist.

    “That’s what you’ve got to fight against, because who put down those rules? Where is it written that that’s how it is? That’s the thing: people count on you being fearful, as a woman or whoever you are and whatever you want to do. They count on that fear to keep them from forging ahead and figuring that out. It’s definitely fear-inducing, and it’s not a fear you want to face. But it is doable.”

    You’ve had a front row seat to this for decades now. How do you think things have evolved for women in the music industry? What’s the biggest challenge facing women today?

    “I think it’s still very much the same as it was many years ago. The appearance is that women have come a lot further, and maybe on some levels they have, but until women really get into positions of power, where they’re making the money decisions of where this and that dollar goes, and are in the upper echelons of things across the board, which is going to take time, I don’t think things will change that much. Because they have not until now. We’re still fighting the same issues that I was discussing years ago. There’s a thing on a loop about what girls can achieve. When they come up, you’ve got to challenge those assumptions at every turn, and it can be exhausting. On some level, it can be easier not to fight and to go along. That’s what women have to decide: do you want to go along, and maybe your life will be a little bit more comfortable if you don’t make waves? But years down the line, they’re going to go, ‘What happened? I’m not happy at all.’ Years down the line, they’ll look back and realize, maybe, that sometimes you have to press for your dreams. You have to fight for your own self, no one is going to give it to you. It’s a lot of lip service until you start actually doing it. Then it seems people like to throw barriers up, as opposed to being helpful.”

    When women run into roadblocks and find they’re being told what to do in music, what kind of advice do you give out to the younger generation of women who are seeking your wisdom and experience?

    “I think this theme runs through our whole interview, to a degree: stand up for yourself. Confidence also begins young. To help girls find that sense of confidence and learn how to find it when you get thrown off balance — which you always will. It’s not like I have it together all the time. You always have to rebalance, and that’s important for people to know. Everybody has those ups and downs, me too. Every day it’s a struggle to keep yourself motivated and positive, but it’s important. As corny as it sounds, you’ve got to go for your dreams — whatever they are. I find that people, maybe it’s human nature, but that’s depressing...if you’re sitting with people and tell them what your dream is, instead of telling you it sounds cool and you should do that, they tend to go, ‘Are you crazy? You can’t do that.’ People tend to shoot down dreams as opposed to supporting them. You’ve got to resist that. Find someone to support you; it may be your friends and family. It’s important to have someone, even if they don’t quite see what you see, to support you and offer a shoulder to cry on if you need to and a pat on the back when you don’t need it.”

    This interview has been edited for clarity and length.

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    The FBI will likely be interviewing people Ford claimed were at the 1982 party and people who knew Ford and Kavanaugh at that time. "I think it will be better for the country that this FBI investigation occur," Senator Amy Klobuchar told NPR. "I'm not sure what the answers will be. It's possible some of the witnesses won't even agree to talk with FBI. But to think we wouldn't even try would be the saddest thing for the country." Already limited by the short turnaround time, the FBI might face resistance when collecting interviews. Because it is a background investigation and not a criminal investigation, the FBI cannot subpoena witnesses in order to get them to talk, reports CNN. Mark Judge, a longtime friend of Kavanaugh’s who Ford claims was in the room when Kavanaugh assaulted her, has agreed to cooperate with the investigation though he categorically denies the claims. In a statement released by the White House on Friday, Kavanaugh said he will also cooperate with the expanded FBI investigation.

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    Welcome toMoney Diaries , where we're tackling what might be the last taboo facing modern working women: money. We're asking millennials how they spend their hard-earned money during a seven-day period — and we're tracking every last dollar.

    We're going on book tour for our new book, Money Diaries: Everything You've Ever Wanted to Know About Your Finances... and Everyone Else's. First stop: San Francisco on Tuesday, October 2! Grab your tickets here!

    Today: a data analyst working in data science who makes $48,000 per year and spends some of her money this week on beer.

    We checked in with the OP, whose boyfriend, D., was part of a Hurricane Florence emergency response crew, and she said, "He was stationed in the Carolinas for two weeks following the hurricane, but otherwise we were not greatly affected." If you'd like to help those affected by Hurricane Florence, here's a list of resources.

    Occupation: Data Analyst
    Industry: Data Science
    Age: 26
    Location: Fort Lauderdale, FL
    Salary: $48,000
    Paycheck Amount (Biweekly): $1,451

    Monthly Expenses
    Rent: $650 (I live in a three-bedroom house with a roommate. The house was paid off by my parents years ago. My roommate and I pay $1,300 towards the property taxes and insurance collected at the end of the year, and the monthly HOA.)
    Student Loans: $0 (75% of my undergrad was covered by a scholarship, and the rest I paid for by bartending throughout college.)
    Other Loans: $100-$200 (I owe $300 on a loan I took out for a laser hair removal, with no interest until August 2019.)
    Car Payment: $0 (My car was paid off in 2016.)
    401(k): $80 per paycheck, and my company matches 100% of this
    Phone: $150
    Internet: $40 for my half
    Electricity: $60-$80 for my half
    Water: $40 for my half
    Gym: $10 (I'm currently training for a half marathon and don't have much time to go to the gym, so I've frozen my membership for a few months. I spend $10 instead of $32 and don't have to pay an initiation fee when I'm ready to go back, probably in three to four months.)
    Savings: $500

    Day One

    7:30 a.m. — I wake up and reality hits me — I'm incredibly hungover. My boyfriend, D., asks if I want to go to the gym, but there's no way I can do anything with this headache, so I pass and go back to sleep for a bit.

    9 a.m. — Okay, now the sun is shining, and I feel a little better. D. comes back, grabs a beer, and takes a shower while I throw on a swimsuit. We head down to his condo's pool and lounge out listening to the waves on the beach behind us. We rehash our night and talk about our upcoming trip to his hometown next month, but after some time in the sun we're both hungry, so we change and head to brunch.

    10:45 a.m. — We're both craving Eggs Benedict, so we head to Boatyard. I order a Bloody Mary to help bring me back to life, and D. orders both beer and coffee. We order the bimini bread to start and then both hit up the Eggs Benedict bar. The chefs let us try all the different sauces and sample a bunch of stuff. Everything is delicious, and we both feel much better afterward. D. pays our bill and tip, but I ask our waitress if the chefs at the breakfast bar get tipped out, and she said no, so I also slip them a tip on our way out. $10

    12 p.m. — We stop at a runner's depot on our way home, where I buy a running belt ($45). I ran my first half marathon this year and now I'm training for my second! I've been putting a little more effort into my training and gear this time, and I'm excited to see my time get better. I pass on a pair of compression socks that seem overpriced, since I think I can get them cheaper on Amazon. $45

    1 p.m. — We're almost home when I see a sign outside our local brewery advertising a rescue dog event. I scream, "Puppies!" and D. immediately pulls into the lot. It's an event for dogs who are rescued from being illegally dumped in the Everglades, and they have a ton of dogs in the brewery. I donate $10, which gets D. and me both wristbands for beer discounts. We play with a bunch of puppies and share a beer at the bar (I pay, $6 with tip). This brewery is where we had our first date over a year ago, so we're both a little sentimental and talk about how badly we both want a dog. $16

    2 p.m. — Back at D.'s apartment, we turn on the Dolphins vs. Titans game and flip back and forth throughout the rest of the afternoon, as the game has several weather delays. It ends up being the longest game in NFL history, but D. jokes that at least my team was winning for almost six hours straight. Fins up!

    9 p.m. — It's late, and I've been here all weekend, so I pack up my things and head home. When I get there I unpack, shower, get my things ready for tomorrow, and do my skincare routine – Cerave wash, Paula's Choice BHA, L'Occitane Aqua gel moisturizer, and 3% retinol cream. Lights out by 10:30.

    Daily Total: $71

    Day Two

    6:30 a.m. — Monday morning! I get up, wash my face, and let my outdoor kitty back in and feed her. I grab my breakfast, lunch, and some snacks and head out by 7:15. I have an hour-long commute to work, which is a bummer.

    8:30 a.m. — Sit down at my desk and start going through emails while eating my breakfast sandwich – Dave's Killer Bread with Sriracha ginger hummus, turkey, and cheese. I also eat a banana and drink some coffee with almond milk. (My office provides coffee.) I sift through emails until my midday meetings.

    1 p.m. — I take lunch a little later, since I like to step away from my desk to eat. I meal prep once a week, so I reheat my brown rice with roasted zucchini, mushrooms, and carrots with grilled chicken and spice it up with some Tabasco I keep in my purse. I scroll through social media and look up the hurricane forecast. There's a lot of activity in the Atlantic right now, with over five active systems. Having grown up in South Florida, you learn to stay vigilant during peak season.

    4:30 p.m. — Finally done for the day, I start my hour-long commute back home. On my drive, D. calls and tells me he's been put on the emergency hurricane response crew and is heading to the Carolinas to help with the Hurricane Florence effort. He'll be gone for three weeks and he leaves tomorrow morning. I'm taken aback by this and am nervous for his safety, but excited for him because I know he lives for this. I change my plans around and tell him I'll come over before he leaves.

    5:30 p.m. — I get home, greet the kitty, let her back outside, and change into my running clothes. I start out on my run but not even a mile in I decide to reprioritize, since it hits me that D. will be away for three weeks, and that could be longer if the hurricane is bad. I turn back and head home, shower, pack a bag, throw on a cute cozy outfit, and put some more food in my cat's bowl. My roommate will let her in on her way out tomorrow. I head over to D.'s at around 7.

    9:30 p.m. — D. and I are both pretty antsy. I have some toast with eggs and hot sauce (breakfast any time of the day is my jam) and we share a couple beers while he packs. We cuddle for a while and head to bed around midnight.

    Daily Total: $0

    Day Three

    5 a.m. — D. wakes up, grabs his bags, kisses me on the forehead, and heads out to work. I sleep in a bit later.

    7 a.m. — I wake up, get dressed, and put on some makeup. I cook two scrambled eggs and grab fruit from D.'s fridge on my way out, along with the lunch and snacks I packed yesterday. He left me his keys, so I make a note to come back and clean out his fridge when I have time. D.'s condo is much closer to my work, so my commute is only about 20 minutes today.

    8:30 a.m. — Sit down at my desk and answer emails until my midday meetings. I break for lunch around 1 p.m. and have the same thing as yesterday – brown rice, veggies and chicken with hot sauce. I check in with D. and tell him how proud I am of him.

    5:30 p.m. — I'm finally home, where I greet the cat and let her back outside. I eat some fruit and peanut butter-filled pretzels, and then change into my running clothes and go for a five-mile run. My running plan is pretty straightforward, and currently has me averaging five runs a week, and an average of three miles per run. Since I only ran one mile yesterday, I run five today to catch up. It takes me 55 minutes and I'm drenched in sweat by the end. I think running this early in the day sets me back — it's too hot and humid in South Florida still.

    7:30 p.m. — After my run, I shower, stretch, unpack, and do my skincare routine. I cook some protein pasta with leftover chicken from my meal prep and sauté mushrooms in red sauce. Then I hang out with my roommate for a bit. I'm in bed by 10:30.

    Daily Total: $0

    Day Four

    6:30 a.m. — Hump day! That run last night has me wiped, so I snooze a bit and almost lose track of time. Guess I'm going pretty casual today with dark jeans and a loose sweater from a Hall & Oates show. I pack up my breakfast, lunch, and snacks, let in and feed the kitty, and head out by 7:20.

    8:30 a.m. — I sit down at my desk and eat my breakfast – turkey and cheese sandwich with hummus – and greet my boss, who has been on vacation for the last few weeks. It's so nice to have her back. I spend the rest of my morning checking in with clients and updating documentation. I snack on a banana and a tangerine.

    1 p.m. — I break for lunch and have the same thing as I've had all week – rice, veggies, and chicken. I catch up with D., who is waiting for the storm to hit. I'm really praying for the people in North Carolina. It makes me very sad to think of how much people can lose in storms like this.

    4:30 p.m. — I head home, where I greet and let out the cat and eat a quick sandwich. Despite my sore legs, I head out for a three-mile run. Then I take a cold shower, eat leftover protein pasta and chicken, and chat with my roommate for a little.

    8:30 p.m. — I foam roll my legs, watch Ozark, do my nighttime skincare routine, and go to bed by 11.

    Daily Total: $0

    Day Five

    6:30 a.m. — I am beat, but I'm also really excited to have a rest day. I get dressed and put some makeup on, let the cat back in and feed her, and head out by 7:15. I only bring breakfast and some snacks today since I'll be leaving the office early for an appointment and there is a food truck scheduled to be outside today.

    8:30 a.m. — I barely have time to eat my breakfast sandwich and grab coffee before my team meeting starts, where we discuss data issues.

    11 a.m. — We decide as a team that we'll reward a member of another team who has helped us tremendously recently. This guy has helped our team fix a lot of bugs in our system, so we put in a request to send him a $50 gift card through our employee recognition program. My coworker and I type up a quick thank you note to include with the card. The gift is expensed through the company. ($50 expensed)

    1:30 p.m. — Turns out I don't have time to stop at the food truck today – I'm late to my appointment. I need to have blood drawn because I have a small procedure scheduled next week. I head out of my office to my appointment and then straight home afterwards to finish out my day there. When I get home, I reheat some pasta and snack on an avocado and a banana. My blood work has no copay, but I'm sure I'll get a bill in the mail in a few weeks that'll be ~$50. My insurance isn't the greatest, and I have a high deductible I never meet.

    6 p.m. — Finally done with work after making up the time I missed during my appointment. I'm exhausted from my long day, so I spend some time cuddling with my cat. I shower, do some laundry, and order a Publix sub via the online app. I go to pick it up and also grab concealer I ran out of. $18

    10:30 p.m. — I finish my skincare routine and head to bed early. I'm so excited that tomorrow is Friday!

    Daily Total: $18

    Day Six

    6:30 a.m. — TGIF! And it's payday! I get dressed in my casual Friday best, let the cat back inside to feed her, and then prepare my own food – snacks and half of the Publix sub from last night. I'm out the door by 7:15 a.m.

    8:30 a.m. — Free bagels at the office today, so I head to the break room and snag a cinnamon raisin. I think about how everyone went nuts over the Cynthia Nixon bagel order — I haven't tried it, but it doesn't sound so bad! Salty and sweet, what's not to love? I don't go as bold today, and just stick with walnut and cinnamon honey spread on my toasted bagel.

    1 p.m. — I break for lunch and eat the rest of my Pub sub from last night.

    4:30 p.m. — You guessed it, time to head home. When I get home I finish my laundry and chat on the phone with my best friend. I decide to wait until nighttime to go for a run, since I don't have to be up early tomorrow.

    8 a.m. — I head out for my three-mile run. The humidity is low since it rained already and the sun went down, so it feels really nice out. I have my best run yet this week and feel really pumped about it! I take a cold shower at home and text D. for a bit, and then make leftover chicken with carrots and broccoli for dinner. I put on a face mask and watch a few episodes of Ozark before going to bed at around 1 a.m.

    Daily Total: $0

    Day Seven

    9 a.m. — It feels so great to sleep in! It's a beautiful day out, so I quickly get a swimsuit on and make a quick egg and avocado toast breakfast before heading to the beach.

    11 a.m. — I park in D.'s condo and walk across the street to the beach, where I lay out and swim for a bit. My friends are at a bar watching the college football games, but I'm not really interested in that today. After some time in the sun, I head upstairs to D.'s apartment, where I clean out his fridge. I decide that I want to surprise him when he gets back, so I make a note to pick up more beer, make his favorite dish, and get a little welcome home banner to make sure he has a nice house to come back to after these three weeks are up. On my way out, I grab some peppers and potatoes that have yet to go bad to take home with me.

    3 p.m. — I need some groceries, so I drop by Publix to pick up for the week. I buy zucchini, mushrooms, carrots, avocados, raspberries, blackberries, bananas, chicken, ground turkey, sliced turkey, eggs, deli cheese, canned beans, diced tomatoes, bread, and a couple spices I ran out of recently: chili powder, garlic powder, and bay leaves. $86

    3:30 p.m. — I fill up my gas tank on my way home. This should last me a week. $45

    5 p.m. — Time to meal prep. I start by sautéing the mushrooms, peppers, and onions and then adding ground turkey, diced tomatoes, and a bunch of spices: chili powder, cumin, garlic, brown sugar, and cinnamon. I let the chili simmer on the stove while I marinate chicken, chop the veggies, and start cooking rice. I roast the veggies and bake the chicken and then put everything into containers: three lunches of rice, veggies, and chicken and two of turkey chili. Lastly I mix up some old fashioned oats, maple syrup, chia seeds, and hemp seeds with vanilla concentrate and cinnamon, and bake it low and slow for some homemade granola. Boom, breakfast and lunches are done.

    8:30 p.m. — I run another three miles, basking in how nice it feels after dark. After I take a cold shower, catch up with D. who's leaving Charlotte for the North Carolina coast tomorrow morning, and catch up on some reading.

    Daily Total: $131

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    Welcome toMoney Diaries , where we're tackling what might be the last taboo facing modern working women: money. We're asking millennials how they spend their hard-earned money during a seven-day period — and we're tracking every last dollar.

    We're going on book tour for our new book, Money Diaries: Everything You've Ever Wanted to Know About Your Finances... and Everyone Else's. First stop: San Francisco on Tuesday, October 2! Grab your tickets here!

    Today: a senior sales executive working in fashion who makes $150,000 per year and spends some of her money this week on Gucci sneakers.

    Occupation: Senior Sales Executive
    Industry: Fashion
    Age: 35
    Location: New York, NY
    Salary: $150,000
    Paycheck Amount (Weekly): $1,565

    Monthly Expenses
    Rent: $1,900 for a studio apartment
    Student Loan Payment: $0 (I had an academic scholarship to college and my parents paid the rest.)
    Health Insurance: $160
    Transit: $121
    Netflix: $9.99
    Spotify Premium: $9.99
    Cable/Internet: $110
    iCloud Storage: $2.99
    Therapy: ~$400
    Renters Insurance: $24.99
    Electric: $45-$100 (depending on the season)
    401(k): 12% of my income ($346 per week, which is the max contribution)

    Annual Expenses
    Amazon Prime: $99

    Day One

    8 a.m. — I open my eyes and look at the clock. I was out pretty late last night and had a few too many cocktails, so I stagger to the bathroom to wash my face. I'm not convinced I'm entirely sober yet. This was easier to recover from in my twenties. I wish it wasn't so early, so I get back in bed. I love weekend mornings to myself. I've lived by myself, in the same apartment, for the last 10 years. My building is a doorman co-op, and I rent from the owner of the unit. When the financial crisis hit shortly after I moved in, I was able to renegotiate my monthly rent and it, somehow, has never gone up. I haven't even signed a new lease since 2010. I rent from a really nice family who clearly doesn't need the income, and I'm a reliable, low-maintenance tenant who pays on time. I think both sides feel like we hit the New York jackpot.

    9:15 a.m. — I get a text from a friend from college, R., saying "Hi! We still on for brunch today?!" I thought brunch was tomorrow, but I reply with an enthusiastic yes, even though I'm exhausted. I relax for a few more minutes, and then get up to tidy up my apartment and shower.

    11:15 a.m. — R. arrives at my apartment with her crying hangry baby. At least he's cute! After a bottle (for baby) and some catching up with R., we laugh about my date mix-up, but I'm really glad to see her. Baby has calmed down, but I'm now getting hangry myself, so we walk to brunch. We're going to Coffee Shop in Union Square because it's closing next month. It was one of our favorite spots when we first moved to New York together in the post- Sex and the City bliss of 2005, when we shared a tiny one-bedroom apartment in Murray Hill and did everything together.

    12 p.m. — I order a quinoa bowl with a poached egg on top and a side of bacon. I get a mimosa, and R. gets wine. Baby sleeps through the entire brunch, and we have a great time chatting and catching up on life. We order another round of drinks, because why have just one?

    2:30 p.m. — When we're ready to leave, R. picks up the check as a belated birthday present to me. We say our goodbyes, and I walk home to take a mimosa-induced nap.

    5:30 p.m. — I wake up from my nap and groggily start getting ready to meet my friends, C. and K., for cocktails at our favorite bar in the West Village. K. is moving to London this week, so this will be our final happy hour together, at least for now.

    6:30 p.m. — Getting ready requires minimal effort — just some retouching of the afternoon's makeup and throwing on a clean shirt. The weather is perfect. It's the rare New York evening that's warm but not humid. I walk through the West Village and soak it in.

    6:45 p.m. — Arrive at the bar to find that a bottle of half-priced happy hour Chenin Blanc has already been ordered by K. We peruse the food menu as a formality, but we already know what we're ordering. We get a pressed meat and cheese sandwich each, and enjoy our wine. We're having a really nice, low-key evening, chatting and drinking and snacking. We order a second bottle of wine and a watermelon feta salad to share.

    10 p.m. — We finish our wine and get the bill. C. is friends with the bar owner, so we're only charged for the two bottles of wine. The tab comes to $26 each, and we each tip an additional $25 for the generosity. $51

    10:30 p.m. — We leave the bar, take one last New York selfie together, and say "see you soon" to our London-bound friend. I've lived in New York for 13 years, and I've had a lot of friends come and go over the years. In a city so transient, it sadly comes with the territory. I walk home, shower, and get into bed.

    Daily Total: $51

    Day Two

    8 a.m. — I wake up feeling refreshed from a good night's sleep and soak in my free Sunday morning. I make turkey bacon and scrambled eggs with crushed red pepper flakes, and slice some avocado. Then I eat my breakfast and drink green tea while watching trashy reality TV on E!.

    10 a.m. — Fresh Direct delivery arrives. I've been using this service for years for my grocery shopping. I get a dozen eggs, organic skinless chicken thighs, two avocados, blueberries, strawberries, endives, salmon, turkey burgers, steamed shrimp, broccoli, and a cucumber. I try to eat pretty healthy and keep my drinking to a minimum during the week so that I can relax a little and enjoy myself on the weekends. Life is all about balance!

    10:45 a.m. — I'm going to the good Zara on Fifth Avenue to do fall shopping. I leave the apartment with the hope of arriving as close to opening as possible to avoid long fitting room lines.

    11:05 a.m. — After waiting 10 minutes that felt like an hour on a sweltering subway platform, I'm finally on my way uptown. (I use a monthly MetroCard, paid for with pre-tax dollars.)

    11:35 a.m. — I end up with two dresses and a tunic. I had a third dress, but it was missing a button and it was the last one in my size. Oh well. $169

    12:15 p.m. — I wander up a few blocks, dart around the Trump Tower madness, and walk into the Gucci flagship. I've been wanting a pair of designer sneakers for a while, and I know exactly what I'm looking for. I try on their classic white sneaker with a bumblebee embroidery. They're great, and after internal back and forth (and asking about the return policy), I decide to purchase them. $675

    1 p.m. — I check my phone to find 37 text messages. My friends C., R., and W. have been messaging about going to a late brunch, and the plan is the new Emmy Squared in the East Village. I decide to take a cab home after the morning's subway misery. Mistake! 30 bumper-to-bumper minutes and $23 later, I'm home and annoyed. I drop my shopping bags in the apartment and head out to meet my friends. I'm feeling lazy and the restaurant is not close to any subway, so I grab a cab ($9). Taking cabs in the age of Uber feels like supporting local business! $32

    2 p.m. — The four of us share some appetizers, and I have a cocktail, a glass of prosecco, and a spicy chicken sandwich that is so spicy I can only eat half. Underwhelming and expensive. $43

    3:15 p.m. — We stroll around some more, enjoying the late summer heat wave. W. is craving pie, so we walk into a pie shop on the Lower East Side and I get a chocolate chip oatmeal cookie ($1.50). We walk a few blocks to a bar and grab another drink. $1.50

    5 p.m. — We're ready to call it a day, so R. pays the check. We all see each other so frequently that we all take turns paying and figure it evens out eventually. We all head our separate ways home. The subways are a mess, so I grab an overpriced Uber home. Surge pricing is alive and well! $18

    5:30 p.m. — I'm home and still thinking about the button-less dress from Zara, so I check the website and add it to my cart. I throw in another dress and check out. I'm making an effort to revamp my wardrobe for the season, and I'm all about high/low shopping. I can splurge occasionally on designer items, as long as I stick to stores like Zara for my staples. $189

    7:30 p.m. — I'm still feeling full from lunch, so I boil water and make an instant miso soup for dinner. The Sunday scaries are setting in, and it's time to meal prep for tomorrow. I like to prep my lunches individually every night rather than making everything at once for the week. I hard boil four eggs (I bring two to work each day for breakfast) and make a salad with endives, cherry heirloom tomatoes, hearts of palm, avocado, steamed shrimp, and a lemon wedge for dressing.

    11 p.m. — After watching more bad TV, I take two melatonin gummies, and head to bed.

    Daily Total: $1,127.50

    Day Three

    7:15 a.m. — My iPhone alarm goes off (the worst sound known to mankind), and I hit snooze for an hour while watching NY1 news, as I do every morning.

    8:15 a.m. — Finally drag myself out of bed. It doesn't matter how much sleep I get — weekday mornings are just a struggle. My morning routine is timed down to the minute. Showering at night really helps. I brush my teeth, wash my face, moisturize, straighten my hair, put on makeup, grab my food out of the fridge, and am out the door.

    8:35 a.m. — I head out in one of my new Zara dresses and walk three blocks to the subway. On my way, I see Sarah Jessica Parker dropping her kids off at school. Another reason to love New York: celebrities are everywhere, but no one bothers them or makes a scene. Who said New Yorkers have no chill?! I take the train one express stop, and walk another few blocks to my office.

    9 a.m. — I actually make it to the office on time this morning, for once. Management doesn't watch the clock too strictly, butI try to get in before 9:15 to avoid any raised eyebrows.

    9:15 a.m. — I peel my hard-boiled eggs, cut up strawberries that I brought from home, and make iced green tea in the kitchen. A few months ago, I gave up my $4 a day La Colombe cold brew habit, and started bringing teabags from home to make iced tea at the office instead. When I really thought about it, that habit was costing me close to $1,000 a year!! I go back to my desk to delegate work to my assistant and eat my breakfast while responding to emails.

    9:45 a.m. — My boss wants to have a sit down with the whole team and re-distribute some account responsibilities. I'm shedding some accounts I don't love working with, which is great, but I'm also getting a lot more piled on me. Again. Quick backstory on my job — I was promoted into my current role after accepting an offer at another company and getting an unexpected huge counter offer from my current employer. We're talking more than double my salary, with an accompanying workload to go with. Most people in this role at other companies have 10+ years of experience on me (this is my 10th year in the business), so I spent the first six months after the promotion making the huge adjustment, while trying to shake the whole imposter syndrome thing. I'm now about 15 months into the new role, and things have drastically improved. I work super hard, and I'm finally able to enjoy my success.

    12:30 p.m. — Take my endive and shrimp salad out of the fridge and eat at my desk before going into a meeting with my boss. I don't like to eat at my desk, but work has been so busy the last few months, I end up working through lunch most days.

    4:30 p.m. — My afternoon has been super busy, but also very productive. I've checked everything off my to-do list that was a dozen items deep when I got to work on Friday. Two days to complete everything is not bad. I snack on some almonds at my desk. I usually leave around 5:30, but I have to stay late tonight to help unpack samples returning from a trade show. I use this time while it's quiet in the office to get ahead on a few things and clean up my desk. I find $10 under my keyboard. That was an unexpected surprise!

    7 p.m. — The samples are back, unpacked, and I'm heading home. I'm exhausted and starving, so I beeline for Chipotle when I get off the subway. The thought of cooking tonight is just too much. I splurge and get guac too...why not. $12.09

    9 p.m. — I'm half-watching the Emmys, but it's super boring, so I get up to prep tomorrow's lunch — same salad, plus Kalamata olives this time.

    10:30 p.m. — Shower, melatonin gummies, sleep mask, bedtime.

    Daily Total: $12.09

    Day Four

    8:30 a.m. — Still in bed, and it's really time to get up. I'm already going to be late as it is, and today is the day New York is getting the remnants of Hurricane Florence, so it will be a slog to commute in the rain. I throw on a dress and booties, do my makeup, and hightail it out the door by 8:50.

    9:12 a.m. — Made it to my desk well within the grace period! The rain hasn't started yet, but it's steamy and humid, and my brilliant idea to wear a long-sleeved dress had me kicking myself as I stood there waiting for the subway dripping sweat. Thankfully my office is very air-conditioned.

    9:20 a.m. — I peel my hardboiled eggs, cut up strawberries, and make iced green tea. Eat breakfast at my desk while checking emails. Boring boring.

    12:30 p.m. — The morning flew by once again, and it's time to make lunch. I take my endive salad out of the fridge, add the leftover shrimp from yesterday, and eat at my desk.

    3:30 p.m. — I gather my things and leave the office. I'm taking a personal day tomorrow to use up PTO before the year ends, and I leave a little early this afternoon, with my boss's blessing. The rain has arrived in full force. I am thrilled that my rain boots are sitting under my desk, so I leave my black leather booties at my desk, wrap my handbag in a plastic Duane Reade bag, and walk to the subway. It's raining so hard that it's actually raining inside the station. My tax dollars at work!

    3:45 p.m. — I get home, not much worse for the wear, and decide now is a great time to do laundry. My building has laundry in the basement, and I know it will be quiet down there mid-afternoon on a weekday. I trek downstairs and refill my laundry card with $5, which is about the cost of two loads of laundry cost. I still have a balance from last time, but I always like to top up a little extra so that I never have to deal with a low balance and no cash on hand. Future me always appreciates the gesture. $5

    6:30 p.m. — C. invites me to happy hour nearby, but the thought of having to put a bra back on sounds awful. I order thin-crust pizza from a local spot and enjoy it in the comfort of my own home. $19

    10:30 p.m. — Spend a lazy evening on the couch, shower, and call it a night early.

    Daily Total: $24

    Day Five

    7:46 a.m. — I have no alarm set today, but I'm up early regardless. I lay in bed for a bit and soak up the morning.

    9 a.m. — Get up and make breakfast. Scrambled eggs, turkey bacon, avocado, a bowl of blueberries, and green tea. I take a chicken breast out of the freezer to cook later to use for the rest of the week's lunches.

    9:45 a.m. — Still feeling kind of gross from last night's pizza splurge, so I decide to take advantage of a free day and book an early afternoon Physique 57 class. I have a pre-paid class package. It's expensive, but it's the one thing that's really consistently worked for me — plus, I enjoy the classes. I haven't been working out much with all my recent work craziness, so I'm making an effort to get back into a routine.

    12:40 p.m. — Leave the apartment to walk to Soho for class. By the time I arrive about 20 minutes later, I'm sweating and look like I've already worked out. It's much warmer out today than I realized.

    2:15 p.m. — Class is over. Thank god. I feel like someone has poured hot acid all over my legs, but I'm really glad I went.

    2:30 p.m. — I stop at Citarella on the way home to pick up lunch. I make a salad of spinach, roast turkey, mushrooms, beets, egg whites, and cucumber at the salad bar. I also grab a jar of capers because Fresh Direct didn't have them in stock this week. $10.39

    3 p.m. — I'm home and exhausted. I add avocado, Kalamata olives, and tomatoes to my salad, and dress with lemon juice and a little olive oil. I sit on the couch and eat while listening to a podcast.

    5:30 p.m. — After a quiet afternoon, I take a quick body shower and head out to therapy. I've been seeing a therapist every other week for about a year, and she's really helped me make priorities in my life and sort through a lot of the mental clutter that goes along with living in New York. She's expensive and doesn't take insurance, but it's worth it to me. We have a good session, and I Venmo her when I leave the office ($200).

    7 p.m. — I get back home and start making dinner: baked salmon filet with lemon juice, olive oil, the aforementioned capers, salt, and pepper. I cut up broccoli and steam it on the stove.

    9 p.m. — Meal prep for tomorrow. I bake the defrosted chicken breast in the oven and make my salad. When the chicken is done cooking, I put it on a plate and cut it in half, but the plate falls on the floor and shatters. I'm very fortunate that I didn't take a shard of porcelain to the foot. I'm a little freaked out, but I mop up the mess, clean the kitchen, and hop in the shower.

    10:30 p.m. — Ready for bed, exhausted. I take melatonin, pop on my sleep mask, and pass right out.

    Daily Total: $10.39

    Day Six

    7:15 a.m. — First alarm. Nah.

    8:15 a.m. — Drag myself out of bed and get ready.

    8:45 a.m. — Leave for work, a little later than usual, but the weather is finally feeling like fall outside, so my decision to wear a long-sleeve dress paid off today.

    9:06 a.m. — Arrive at the office, eat my eggs and blueberries, and make iced green tea.

    3:30 p.m. — I haven't been at my desk all day. So many meetings and problems to deal with! The rest of the afternoon is no different. They're really making me earn my paycheck today.

    5:45 p.m. — Finally leaving work. I'm ready to go home and chill.

    6:30 p.m. — I log into my banking app. I get paid every Thursday, so this is when I take stock of what's going on and pay my bills. I have an automatic transfer set to move the weekly portion of my rent ($441) to my savings account. I have a balance of $2,367 on my credit card, and I submit an online payment of $800. My parents always instilled in me that they would not bail me out if I ever found myself in a position of debt. I have always been good about not carrying a substantial balance. When I made less money, I just spent less. I've shopped a lot this month and love my new purchases, so I can live with the $1,567 that I'll carry over to next week. I should be able to pay it off by the end of the month. I pay $800-$1,000 on my card every week when I'm carrying a balance, and I haven't been charged interest or a late fee in over five years. When I'm not carrying a balance, I save every extra dollar. I've netted about $15,000 toward my rainy day fund since the beginning of last year.

    7 p.m. — I survey my food situation and realize that I have protein but no vegetables left. Sigh. I order chicken and steamed veggies with rice from a local spot, and vow to be better about cooking next week. $18

    8 p.m. — I prep my last lunch of the week, and no dishes were harmed in the making of this salad.

    10:45 p.m. — I shower, take melatonin, and then it's time for bed.

    Daily Total: $18

    Day Seven

    8:30 a.m. — I drag myself out of bed for the last workday routine of the week. I made it!

    8:50 a.m. — Leave the house later than I'd like to, but my boss is out today so the office should be pretty quiet.

    12:15 p.m. — Work is super quiet today. It's kind of nice. I have my salad from home, but I want something else to go with it. I go downstairs and take cash out of the ATM for the week. I walk to Pret and pick up a small tomato basil soup. $4.89

    5:10 p.m. — After a loooong, sloooow afternoon at work, I quickly change into workout clothes and walk over to SoulCycle.

    6:15 p.m. — I leave class looking like a sweaty red mess, but feeling very satisfied. I like ending the week with a workout. I have WhatsApp messages from my friend who booked a villa in Tulum over New Year's, and he wants me to confirm that I'm in for the trip. C. has already committed, and I enthusiastically commit. I'm very excited to be ringing in 2019 somewhere warm and beautiful. Guess I need to really commit to the workout routine! I don't have a class package at SoulCycle, so I pay for the class a la carte ($37) and rent shoes ($3). I bring my own refillable water bottle. $40

    6:30 p.m. — I'm home and hop in the shower. I'm meeting up with C. later to go to a birthday party in Chelsea. For dinner, I make a turkey burger, spinach that I found in the freezer, and sliced avocado.

    7 p.m. — I order next week's groceries from Fresh Direct. I get organic chicken breasts, cage-free eggs, salmon, broccoli, frozen spinach, strawberries, avocados, endives, spinach pancakes, tuna salad, steamed shrimp, tea bags, and aluminum foil. $75.09

    8 p.m. — I listen to the Hotel Costes playlist on Spotify, and do my hair and makeup at a leisurely pace.

    9 p.m. — I take the tags off one of my new Zara dresses that came in the mail today (a maxi three-quarter sleeve shirt printed dress), and leave the apartment to meet C. and her friend to walk to the party. The weather is beautiful, and I don't need a jacket. I bring a roadie spiked seltzer for the walk because they've been drinking at dinner and I need to catch up.

    9:30 p.m. — We get to the party, and I don't know anyone, so I head to the bar to get two glasses of prosecco for C. and me. Our friend who organized the Tulum trip shows up, and we catch up and talk about how excited we are for New Year's. $31

    10 p.m. — I go to the bar and get another prosecco. $15

    10:45 p.m. — C. and I chat with the birthday girl, and next thing I know, my glass is empty again. We both agree to "just one more," and C. buys us another round.

    11:10 p.m. — Thankfully tonight, "one more" didn't turn into three more. C. calls an Uber to go meet the guy she's seeing. I decide it's probably a good time for me to head home, so we part ways and I walk back to my apartment.

    11:15 p.m. — I stop into a bodega for a blue Gatorade and a coconut water ($5.50). I will be needing these tomorrow morning. $5.50

    11:30 p.m. — I'm home and tipsy, trying to look as sober as possible as I say hello to the night doorman. I always try to remind myself that they've seen much much worse. I am already bracing for tomorrow's hangover, so I pour myself a glass of half water, half blue Gatorade, and a ton of ice, and sip it until it's time to go to bed. Tomorrow morning is not going to be pleasant, but at least it's the weekend.

    Daily Total: $171.48

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    Managing your finances can be a pretty personal project, but when I was writing Refinery29 Money Diaries, I was really inspired by the idea of women connecting online and IRL to cheer each other on as we all try to achieve the same goal: getting more comfortable with managing our money.

    With that in mind, I've developed this savings challenge that you can follow along with here, in the book, and in our Facebook group. The challenges I'm going to be sharing over the next six weeks aren't always exactly same as the ones featured in the book, but having a copy will make this project a richer experience. (Don't have a copy yet? You can pick one up here! Don't want to buy the book — grab a copy from your local library!)

    A few quick notes on our six-week money saving challenge:

    How it works: Over the next six weeks, I'm going to challenge you to cross one financial task off your list every day and save a corresponding dollar amount. We'll start on Day 1 with writing down your financial info and saving $1. Once a week there will be a "Bonus Challenge," where you'll save even more money. You'll also get rest days where you don't have to save any money and can use that time to relax or get caught up on past challenges. At no point in the challenge will you need to save more than $32 in a single day. In the end, you can save as much as $628 if you do every single challenge.

    When: Every Sunday evening, I'll post the schedule for the week ahead. While we're starting this challenge on a Monday, and each new week will kick off on Mondays, you can start this challenge on any day of the week.

    Are you having an expensive month and can't manage to save $32 in one day, let alone $600 in six weeks? Don't stress. Try saving every other day, or every few days, or even once a week. The idea is to get more mindful with your money, not beat yourself up if you can't hit these goals.

    Where: I'll update this page weekly with a new schedule, but you can also follow along in our Facebook group, where Anabel Pasarow and Kate Guarino, two Refinery29 employees, will be doing the challenge as well.

    Let's get started, shall we?

    Week 1: Getting Started

    Day 1: Write down your financial info
    Before you can even get started, you need to know where you stand. Take time today to write down all your financial information in one place. That includes your checking and savings account balance, your 401(k) balance, and any outstanding debt. To get the full list of what you should include see page 12-13 in the book. Save $1

    Day 2: Do one annoying financial task
    It wasn't until I started writing this book that I finally took care of some pretty annoying financial tasks — like rolling over a really old 401(k). (Hello, productive procrastinating!) Today, tackle one of the outstanding financial tasks on your to-do list. File an FSA claim. Ask the bank to refund any fees. Need some more suggestions? Check out page 32-33 in the book (and find out why you might want to take a whole money mental health day!). Save $2

    Day 3: Check your credit score
    Checking your credit score used to be an involved process, but it doesn't take much to track it down these days. You can sometimes find it on your credit card statement, or you can use an app like Turbo. These apps will also let you know if your score goes up or down, which can be helpful if you're about to get a mortgage, refinance your loans, or rent an apartment. For more about how your credit score works (and an easy way to bump it up), check out pages 28-29 in the book. Save $3

    Day 4: Take the highlighter test
    This might be my number-one favorite piece of advice in the book. Developed by the financial advisor Manisha Thakor, it's step one in a three-part challenge to help curb unnecessary spending (you can read about steps 2 and 3 on pages 22-24 in the book). The idea is that you go through your spending for a month (including everything from your rent to your cable bill) and highlight anything that doesn't bring you joy. Check back on Thursday when we'll be sharing the highlighter test from a reader. Save $4

    Day 5: Use your credit card points
    I've never been strategic about using my credit card points and maybe the best and worst thing that's ever happened to me is the new Amazon feature that lets me pay with my Amex points. Today, take some time to figure out how many credit card points you have and make a point to use them if they are going to expire soon. Don't have a credit card? Check out page 30-31 of the book to see why you should consider getting one. Save $5

    Day 6: BONUS CHALLENGE: Write a Money Mantra
    Financial advisor and founder of Stash Wealth Priya Malani first shared the idea of money mantras with me way back in 2015. I was initially a little skeptical — it sounded a bit too New Age-y for me. But I learned that it can be really helpful to have a mission statement when it comes to your money — a sentence or so that grounds your goals. I share a little more about my personal mantra in the book (see pages 15-16), and we've talked about them in the Facebook group before. (Plus, there was a whole room at 29Rooms dedicated to them!) Today, write down your own. Then save an extra $5 because this is a bonus challenge!

    Day 7: Rest Day
    You killed it tackling six money challenges! You've also saved $20. It's a good start! Enjoy a day off and get ready for Week 2!

    Week 2: Raise Week

    This week we’re going to focus on getting you paid.

    Day 8: Calculate your compensation package
    You know your base salary or hourly wage. But when was the last time you considered how much your other job benefits are worth? Today, take some time to calculate your whole compensation package, from your 401(k) match to the number of vacation days you have to any annual or semi-annual bonuses you might receive. You might even want to include all the money you’re saving on snacks if you work for one of those awesome companies that keep fully-stocked kitchens and serve gourmet (or even half-way decent) coffee. To get the full list of what you should include when adding up your compensation package, see page 100-101 in the book. Save $6

    Day 9: Make a plan to ask for a raise
    We’re coming up on the end of the year, so it’s definitely not too early to start talking to your boss about their plans and your goals for 2019 and beyond. Need more help asking for a raise? Check out pages 86-92 in the book for expert advice from Sallie Krawcheck and Fran Hauser (and also a few anecdotes from me). And this Tuesday, we’ll be publishing a piece from Fran, where she shares the negotiating success stories from women who have followed her good advice! Save $7

    Day 10: Talk to a recruiter
    One of my favorite pieces of advice in the book comes from Fran, who suggests the best way to know what salary to ask for in a job negotiation is to talk to a recruiter. I recently had dinner with a woman who said two different recruiters suggested she ask for two vastly different salaries (we’re talking $50,000 difference!). When it comes to knowing what you should be paid, the more data you can collect the better. So don’t just stop with one recruiter, ask a few. (Not sure how to find one? This Muse article has some great advice.) Save $8

    Day 11: Go out to a networking coffee
    It’s easy to fall into a habit of going to work every day and not thinking about your long-term career goals. But there’s no better time to look for a new job than when you have a job. And even if you have no desire to make a switch today, it’s always good to nurture your relationships. Take a page from one of our awesome book diarists (A Week in Philadelphia on $88,000) and go out to coffee with someone in your network today. Save $9

    Day 12: Update your résumé
    There are few things that are less fun than revising your résumé, but it’s so much easier if you update as you go along. Spend a little time tidying it up today — even if it’s just 10-15 minutes. We’ve got a lot of great résumé resources for you right here. Save $10

    Day 13: BONUS CHALLENGE: Plan a vacation
    Did you know that if you don’t take your paid vacation days, it actually means you’re working more for less money? So take some time off! (Want to know how much those vacation days are actually worth? See page 83 in the book.) With the end of year fast approaching, spend some time today planning a vacation. Don’t have an emergency fund? Then make that a staycation, okay? Then save an extra $10 because this is a bonus challenge!

    Day 14: Rest Day
    You made it through the second week of the challenge! Nice job! Take today to rest and relax, or catch up on anything you didn’t finish yet from week 1 or 2.

    Week 3: Debt Week

    It’s time to get back in the black.

    Day 15: Write down your debt details
    Do you know how much debt you have? You might have a vague sense of your credit card and student loan balance, but today let’s figure out the exact amount. And if you have student loan debt, write down the date the final payment is due. Even if that’s 15 years (or more) from now, you’ve got an end date and that’s powerful information. Save $11

    Day 16: Set up a plan to manage your debt
    There are two debt repayment methods that financial advisors typically recommend: snowball and avalanche. With the snowball approach, you first pay your monthly minimums, then throw any extra cash at the smallest amount of debt until you conquer it. The avalanche method focuses on interest rates, so you pay off the loan with the highest APY first, because that’s the debt that’s costing you the most money. Pay your monthly minimums first, and then focus on the debt with the highest interest rate. Want to learn more about the fastest way to pay off your debt and how to consolidate your loans? See Chapter 5 in the book. Save $12

    Day 17: Do a Zero-Dollar Day
    You’ll need to do a little prep ahead of doing a zero-dollar day to make sure you’ve got enough food, a full tank of gas or a prepaid Metro card, and your rent or bills aren’t due. Then simply don’t spend any money for one day. Looking for other easy ways to save some cash? See pages 132-133 in the book! Save $13

    Day 18: Cancel 1 subscription
    Most of us are paying for a subscription or service we don’t really need because sometimes it’s just easier to not cancel them. But do you really need Netflix and HBOGO and Hulu and cable? Or what about that gym membership you never use? Today, cancel one subscription you’re not using. Save $14

    Day 19: Social your debt payment
    Okay, I know this is a little out there, and even if you don’t want to share your debt payment with the world, you should still $15 today. But if we really want to change the negative stereotypes around debt (and we do!), we have to be more open talking about our money challenges. So today, social your debt. Take a snap of your most recent student loan or credit card statement (don’t include account numbers, I don’t want you getting hacked!) and share it on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram. Use the hashtag #MoneyDiariesDebtChallenge Save $15

    Day 20: BONUS CHALLENGE: Use found money to pay down more debt
    One of my favorite financial tips from Priya Malani, financial advisor extraordinaire, is to use any extra money to pay off more of your debt. So say you sell something on Poshmark, get an unexpected bonus at work, or your grandma sends you some birthday cash — use some of it to make an extra payment on your student loans or credit card debt. Every extra bit can help you get back into the black more quickly! Need some ideas for a side hustle you could take on to earn some extra cash? See pages 166-167 in the book. Then save an extra $15 because this is a bonus challenge!

    Day 21: Rest Day
    Nice job, you’ve made it through week 3, and we’ve only got three more weeks to go! Take today off, or get caught up on any challenges you might have missed!

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    Natural hair is all about trial and error, which means testing a new twisting cream every week is par for the course. Luckily, there are plenty of great, affordable products to choose from at stores like Target, Walmart, and Sally Beauty. Because we really can't afford to spend $40 on a hair mask every time we get the urge to try something new. And some of our favorite brands have launched products just in time to refresh your regimen for fall. So before you re-up on your essentials for wash day this weekend, check out our favorites and add them to your shopping list.

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    So how exactly does one couple and their 2-year-old son decide to live on a boat? For 30-year-old Alice Lockspeiser and her boyfriend, the location made sense. "We wanted to live more self-sustainably," Lockspeiser says. "After my boyfriend moved out of his home he made in the forest we were looking for alternative living solutions and decided on a boat."

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    There's a cliché that all little boys start taking ballet lessons because they have sisters, and then quit because they get bullied by their peers. But Harper Watters, 26, has never fit this mold. "My story is less about bullying or getting tormented for being a dancer," he says. "It's more about not fitting in, and learning to accept that and deal with that."

    Watters is an only child and was adopted by two college professors who encouraged and understood the importance of the arts. Growing up in New England, where hockey and sports were the main after-school activities for kids, Watters says ballet class was the only place where he felt he belonged. "The studio turned into my safe place where I needed to continue to be," he says. "I had a natural talent for dance, but my progression through dance, and my career really was [because] I just needed to be with people that I liked and wanted to be around."

    Now Watters is a soloist with Houston Ballet, although chances are you know him from his iconic heels videos on Instagram. At first, Watters started making videos dancing in six-inch hot pink heels because it was "ridiculously entertaining." He'd go to the studio on a quiet Sunday and film a bunch of clips, complete with costume changes, to splice together for Instagram. "I quickly realized the persona I had on my social media and Insta was truly me," he says. "I was like, Why do I not bring aspects of that into my work? The second I did that, my dancing got better, and the roles I got increased because I had such a newfound confidence in myself."

    The heels videos, and the confidence Watters gained, became his "ticket to getting out of the corps de ballet," he says. "The heels — yes they're fabulous and six inches — but it's so much more than a heel." The message he tries to send to his 141K Instagram followers, is to "find their own heels, whether it's a literal heel or it's something else."

    Watters spoke to Refinery29 about self-acceptance, social media, and why ballet is a microcosm for society.

    Interview has been edited for length and clarity.

    Most of the men represented in classical ballets are heterosexual princes, which can be challenging for aspiring male dancers. Is it important for you to show through your Instagram that it is possible to have a duality?

    "I never really intended to be the face of something, or I didn’t really understand how simply being myself would empower others. But it has, and I'm so grateful for that. In order for us and ballet to have more diversity and inclusivity, people who are just starting out need to be able to see themselves in the dances. That inspires them to get into the studio.

    "So, I tried to use my visibility and to use the power that I have in being myself. Self-acceptance is what allowed me to become a better person, but also a better dancer. Finding that, and learning that what makes me happy, who I love, what I look like has no effect on the quality of work I see, was really a powerful kind of moment for me. I just try to live authentically and share myself, and what makes me happy, and hope that it empowers others to do so as well."

    Did you ever receive pushback from your company about your social media presence, or have they been supportive?

    "I was so proud of my company for supporting my voice and understanding that, because it’s so important now. We have students in Houston Ballet who are transitioning, who are following me, and they need to be in a space where they feel supported and accepted. Recently, someone posted a video of men doing all these tricks, and someone commented, 'This is ballet, not what this idiot at Houston Ballet posts in heels and tutus.'

    "You know, the students who come into a ballet company are going to have to make decisions in their careers that are completely unrelated to the tricks and extensions and everything. They're going to have to make choices that they're only going to be able to make if they are comfortable with who they are, are vulnerable, and are willing to make a mistake."

    In order for us and ballet to have more diversity and inclusivity, people who are just starting out need to be able to see themselves in the dances.

    Gender equality is a hot topic in ballet right now. Do you think that it's possible for there to be gender equality in ballet, or do you think it will always be gendered, as other dancers have told me?

    "I like to think of ballet as this microcosm for what is in mainstream media. There are characters now who are finding their way into TV and into movies, who are lesbian, or who are trans. It's a stepping stone for more characters like that to hold more powerful, in-depth roles — and that's what we need as ballet dancers and creators to introduce more diversity inclusivity into the works of ballet roles.

    "There is drag in Cinderella and Sleeping Beauty, but you’re never like, What's the emotional backstory of the Step Sisters? It’s much more comedic and comedic relief. Why not introduce a supporting character to the ballet, or a one-act ballet that is clearly in drag, or is clearly gay, but has an emotional moment? There is a way to introduce more diversity so we can work toward equality in the ballet world.

    "As a dancer of color, I would hope that someone who is white wouldn’t say: There's never been Black people in ballet. As a culture and society, we have to work on ourselves to achieve inclusivity and diversity as an idea. I definitely think it’s workable, and to me gender is just a social construct."

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