Supermodel or not, the stresses of the fashion industry permeate its every sector. Accusations of rampant sexual assault in the modeling business have ruled headlines in recent seasons, but beyond that, more men and women are speaking up about the need for change across the board when it comes to ethical treatment of models on all fronts. Most recently, Condé Nast has vowed to no longer work with models under the age of 18. Ahead of the launch of her first book, Lessons: My Path To A Meaningful Life (out October 2), model Gisele Bündchen is opening up about how the early days of her modeling career caused her to have panic attacks and led her to contemplate suicide.
“It felt like everything in my life was going to kill me," she writes. "First it was the airplanes, then elevators. Then it was tunnels and hotels and modeling studios and cars. Now it was my own apartment. Everything had become a cage, and I was the animal trapped inside, panting for air. I couldn’t see a way out, and I couldn’t stand another day of feeling this way." Bündchen was discovered at age 14 when she was eating a Big Mac at a McDonald's in her native Sao Paolo, Brazil. She's since become one of the highest earning models in history, including posing and walking for the biggest names in the fashion business.
During the early stages of her career, Bündchen contemplated ending her life. "When I think back on that moment, and that 23-year-old girl, I want to cry. I want to tell her that everything will be all right, that she hasn’t even begun to live her life. But in that moment, the only answer seemed to be to jump."
In the book, Bündchen also reveals that her struggles with motherhood (she shares Benjamin, 8, and Vivian, 5, with husband Tom Brady) contributed to more recent intrusive thoughts. "When I became a mom, I kind of lost myself. It was like part of me died. I’d been this very independent person. It was all about me. But now I had this little being, and I suddenly felt I couldn’t do other things, and that was very hard for me." She's since committed to consulting doctors and living a healthier lifestyle, mentally and physically. To come forward about the darker parts of one's life isn't always easy, so we're proud of Bündchen for continuing to serve as a role model off the runway, too.
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Every time February and September roll around, we quickly revert back to being kids in a candy store. From the shows to the streets, the sheer number of awe-worthy trends that come across our plates during the bi-annual fashion week events can make soaking them all in a little daunting. But if there's one trend worth getting a jump on this season, it's the new-and-improved raincoat. Spotted on show attendees dodging the elements and models debuting them down the catwalk alike, raincoats, specifically of the transparent variety, have been everywhere.
Where we once thought of raincoats as a nothing more than a rainy day accessory, these updated versions are a ready-to-wear force to be reckoned with. Between the oversized pockets seen at Fendi to scribbled-on designs courtesy of Moschino, you're about to see a whole new side to wet-weather gear. So say goodbye to the utilitarian raincoats you used to know and welcome a fresh take on this previously blasé essential.
Ahead are our favorite raincoat runway moments and 15 shoppable picks to swap your umbrella for this fall. Just promise us one thing: you won't wait around for a rainy day to make this Fashion Month's most practical trend your own.
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It was 1995, and Selena Quintanilla took the stage to perform "Bidi Bidi Bom Bom" at the Astrodome in her iconic shimmery purple jumpsuit. The late singer exuded confidence not only in her dance moves and passionate vocals, but in her signature red lips. The lipstick shade would become symbolic of Quintanilla, so much so that it was included in a limited-edition MAC makeup line, which sold out in five hours in 2016.
While it might represent a classic makeup trend for many, the color means much more to the Latina community. Frida Kahlo, Celia Cruz, Quintanilla, and now Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez — all women who represent different periods of time, industries, and communities — all turned to crimson lips as an embodiment of their confidence and femininity.
"There is something going back decades and decades about the importance of always having your femininity on display," Regina Merson, founder of Latina-driven makeup brand Reina Rebelde, tells Refinery29. "There is a ritual about painting your lips red, and it's not by accident that these women, especially women who were trailblazing as far back as 50 to 60 years ago, were all grabbing [that shade]."
Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez celebrates her NY Primary victory with supporters.Scott Heins/Getty Images
In a society where Latinas are told to keep quiet or hide in the background so that they aren't labeled as "spicy" or "fiery," red lipstick has become a symbol of fighting back. Just look at the women who have proudly worn the color on their lips: Kahlo, who transformed her struggles into vibrant art and defied society's beauty standards. Cruz, the Queen of Salsa, who played an important role in the conscious elevation of Afro-Latinidad. Quintanilla, a Grammy-award winning artist who was one of the first Latinas to be open about her struggles with cultural self-identity. And Ocasio-Cortez, who takes a stand for political injustices and wears her favorite lip color proudly as an unconventional congressional candidate.
The shade has even made its mark on the world of comedy. If you watch Cristela Alonzo's Netflix stand-up special Lower Classy, you'll notice that the comedian also opted for red lipstick. "I wore red on my Netflix special intentionally," Alonzo, the first Latina to create, write, produce, and star in her own network sitcom, tells Refinery29. "I wanted my words to be the most important thing on that stage. I decided to go for a bright red to highlight my mouth so that people knew my words were important."
I decided to go for a bright red to highlight my mouth so that people knew my words were important.
All these women had or have something to say, and they all turned to a lipstick color to send a message. "It announces your presence. You wear the perfect red lipstick, and you’re there," says Merson. "There’s a prerequisite to putting on red lipstick, and that’s self-confidence. There’s an innate self-confidence in being Latina; we want to be noticed, and we want to be respected. The red hits all of those marks that we’re after."
With this lipstick shade, there is a higher message to be sent in a world that tries to shut out the Latinx community. It's that we've been fighting for decades, and we're not going to stop. Latinxs have a place in this world, and they're going to make sure you see them. As Occasio-Cortez told Elle, "Any attempt to make femininity trivial or unimportant is an attempt to take away my power. So I’m going to wear the red lipstick." And that's that.
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If this was the summer of love, then this fall will be the autumn of lawyers. Of the three A-list engagements that sprang up this year — Priyanka and Nick, Hailey and Justin, and Ariana and Pete — all will likely be mounting prenuptial agreements before officially tying the knot. Or postnuptial agreements, depending on their timeline.
“In these types of situations, whether it be a Justin Bieber-Hailey Baldwin situation or whether it be an Ariana Grande situation, I would bet in both marriages that there will be prenups,” says matrimonial lawyer Robert Wallack, whose NYC-based firm repped Gossip Girl star Kelly Rutherford during her very public custody battle.
A quick recap for those who were, until now, oblivious to prenuptial agreements: They are contracts, drafted by matrimonial lawyers, that stipulate how a couple’s assets will be divided if they divorce. They detail what spousal support will look like, and they ensure that both parties, in the best case scenario, don’t end up destitute. Still, they can’t dictate child custody rules, and — sorry, tabloids — can’t really enforce lifestyle stipulations. There are rumors that Beyonce has a cheating clause in her agreement with Jay-Z. This is cool, but, er, if that ever made its way to a court, a judge could easily dismiss accusations of cheating.
“People can agree to anything,” says Laura Wasser, a divorce lawyer so seasoned she has a podcast called The Divorce Sucks Podcast. She’s handled everything, from Kim Kardashian’s split from Kris Humphries to Charlie Sheen to Angelina Jolie’s separation from both Brad Pitt and Billy Bob Thornton. (She and Jolie recently parted ways — Wasser was previously working on Jolie’s split from Brad Pitt.) She’s a favorite of the Kardashians, having handled Khloe’s divorce from Lamar Odom and Kris Jenner’s as well. (She recently had Jenner on her podcast.) “But if somebody agrees to an infidelity clause,” she says, “and then they cheat, and then the spouse says, 'There's this infidelity clause' — in California at least, the court is not going to uphold them. They can't uphold things that have to do with people's behavior.”
California is a sticking point here. It’s a “community property” state in terms of divorce, which means, unless there’s a watertight prenuptial agreement, state law splits all things evenly. For our young engaged couples, this is a big deal. Justin Bieber is worth an estimated $265 million dollars, Ariana Grande a slightly slimmer $50 to Pete Davidson’s reported $2 million and both Nick Jonas and Priyanka Chopra are both sitting pretty on about $25 million dollars. And they should all expect to make more in the next few years.
Things can change, though. What if Justin Bieber takes time off, and, during that time, Hollywood scion Hailey Baldwin becomes Forbes ’ next self-made billionaire? What if Pete Davidson becomes the next comedy blockbuster superstar a la Jerry Seinfeld? Wasser says this type of shortsighted view can ruin an agreement.
“It's interesting — I've done some prenups for people where one person is more famous than the other, and so they're kind of shielding their assets and making agreements about not having to pay any spousal support if and when the parties when they split up,” Wasser says. “Then they're married for five or six years, and the person they were trying to make more assets from is making more money than they are. The tables turned!”
"My goodness does feel good to have our future secured!"
The fact is, celebrities have a lot of money, and that money needs to be protected. Nashville-based business manager Mike Vaden — who Billboard named as one of the music industry’s top managers in 2017 — says that, in general, pre-nuptial agreements are more important when the marriage occurs between a celebrity and a non-celebrity.
“A marriage is hard enough for most people to maintain,” says Vaden. “But, for an entertainer, who's on the road all the time, it's doubly hard. Unfortunately, they get into marriages quickly, and they get out of them quickly. Everybody needs to be protected.”
And, a prenuptial agreement between two very famous people is often simpler than it sounds. “If two people are celebrities and both are wealthy in their own right, they would generally keep what they have and what they make, and their income would be their income,” says Vaden. “Most of the time, what they'll do is start a joint bank account, if both of them are pretty well-heeled.”
Ostensibly, if Pete Davidson keeps on signing movie contracts and Ariana Grande keeps making music, their agreement should be pretty standard: Let’s keep what we have and then start a joint account for all of the beanbags we’ll be buying for our $16 million apartment in New York City. (To be clear, Davidson did tell GQ that Grande bought that apartment herself. That asset will likely be hers and hers only for the rest of her life.)
Most likely, they’ll all sign prenuptial agreements in a state like New York, which is more protective over the assets of the two parties involved (this could explain Bieber and Baldwin’s New York marriage license). Again, California is the outlier here.
"If you live in a community property state like California, and you get married on September 18, and you go perform on September 20, and you get $100,000, and then you divorce on September 21, [half] of that would go to your spouse," Wasser explains. This is something Vaden also emphasizes: Short marriages, especially in California, can really hurt you, but a prenup protects against this.
"So, [they] would say, 'Well, I'm not interested in having the law define how I divide my assets if I split up, and I'd rather say that the money I make remains my separate property, but I'll contribute to the joint account or to the community," Wasser explains. By “community,” Wasser is referring to the assets that will, in the event of a split, be determined “community property.” These things will be split evenly in a divorce — so, a joint bank account that a couple keeps flush during a marriage will be sliced in half, easy-peasy.
The options here are: Split your assets according to the state law, or split your assets according to the terms you've agreed on with your lawyer. Going prenup-less isn't going to make a marriage less painful — looking at you, Hailey Baldwin and Justin Bieber, the couple who is rumored to be going into married life without one. (Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard have also said that they didn't sign a prenup.)
The marriage doesn’t have to happen in New York to operate under its state laws, though — you can specify that in the agreement. And you can get married anywhere! The most important part is, get the damn prenup.
"The first thing [a couple will] say when they're getting a divorce is, 'Holy shit, I wish I'd signed a prenup," says Wallack.
Vaden (a business manager), Wasser, and Wallack agree that prenups are more commonplace with older people, especially people who've been married before. But there's been an uptick in prenups among young people. Regina DiMeo, a divorce attorney based in D.C., says that millennials are more money conscious than previous generations.
"Generally, younger professional couples want to protect against debt, unlimited alimony, and maybe protect inheritance [or] premarital assets, but they still have a vision of creating a family and accumulating wealth together," DiMeo says. Older couples, meanwhile, have maybe already made their money, for the most part, and are just looking for "companionship," per DiMeo.
From Wasser: "I am seeing definitely a trend to people in the entertainment industry entering — definitely millennials entering into them, entertainment industry or not — I think people are getting married a little bit later, and also with a little bit more information about what being married entails. About that this, too, is a contract." As with all contracts, breaking it is a pain that will involve pricey lawyers who charge roughly $850 an hour, as Wasser does, and disagreements, most of which concerns spousal support. (According to DiMeo, D.C.-based family lawyers with more than 15 year of experience will charge between $350 - $550 per hour.)
For celebrities, who exist in the semi-public at all times, divorces run the risk of becoming tabloid fodder, the way that Alec Baldwin (Hailey’s uncle) and Kim Basinger did back in 2001. The couple famously didn’t sign a prenup and battled in court for years, adding up to a reported $3 million in legal costs. It was this divorce that reportedly led to Baldwin’s angry phone call — you know the one, where he called his daughter (Hailey’s cousin) Ireland a pig? Which isn’t to say that a prenup protects against foul behavior, but it certainly provides that you don’t have to deal with the nasty stuff.
If you live in a community property state like California, and you get married on September 18, and you go perform on September 20, and you get $100,000, and then you divorce on September 21, [half] of that would go to your spouse.
So, why would someone forgo a prenup, especially a young, rapidly rising star? Well, they take time, mainly in the tallying of assets and in the negotiating.
"There are still circumstances where they didn't sign a prenup. Maybe [the couple] just never got around to it, or they have a more romanticized view of it — they never thought it would end, so they didn't want to deal with that type of issue," says Wallack, who says he hasn't been approached about drafting a Justailey prenup. (Lawyers usually draft the prenup alongside a business manager and, occasionally, an entertainment lawyer as well.) Adds Wallack, "Other times, you'll have one party who just refuses to sign it, and you'll have people getting married anyway."
If a couple fails to get a prenup because, say, they rushed to City Hall or eloped in Vegas, all hope is not lost. They can still get a postnuptial agreement — a post-wedding agreement done after all the fun, frilly romantic stuff. These agreements operate the same way as a prenup; they're just harder to get done. You know when you say you're going to do something and then you write it off until tomorrow? Yeah.
"Those are harder to draft, because often the person is like, 'Well, I already married you. Why would I do a post-nup now? Doesn't make any sense!'" says Wasser. There have been reports that Hailey Baldwin and Justin Bieber are drafting a postnup following their (maybe) City Hall wedding this month. This can happen, and should happen, but it's going to take a minute. Both Bieber and Baldwin will have to disclose all of their assets — everything they own, and every paycheck they've received for the past two years. And then, they have to make an agreement. Following that, they have to negotiate, which is a slow process in part because it's painful. Who wants to lawyer up when you should be shopping for wedding rings?
In his Instagram post announcing his engagement, Bieber wrote, rather exuberantly, "My goodness does feel good to have our future secured!"
But is his financial future secured? Only his lawyer (and maybe Scooter Braun) knows.
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It's safe to say that Serena Williams is winning. She's got a clothing line. She's standing up for women on and off the court. She's definitely winning at motherhood — have you seen her adorable daughter? — and now, after years in the spotlight, she's still winning the red carpet beauty game.
In fact, TMZ reported back in March that the tennis star filed to trademark the name Aneres, which could potentially be a beauty line. Given Williams' love of big hair, pretty lipstick, and dope manicures on and off the court, we have a feeling that it's going to be good. While we're waiting (with baited breath) on more news — and hopefully product details — let's take a look at Williams' tried and true beauty go-tos.
1. Power Ponytails
When you're winning titles and making history, you're probably a little too busy to make a fuss about your hair. Which is probably why we've seen Williams in her fair share of updos on and off the court... including this gilded, segmented 'do that was created by Vernon François.
"Serena’s Versace dress was the inspiration for this hairstyle," he told us. "With the gold detail and padded shoulders, the look needed to give face, so I was like, ' Ponytail it is!' Snatching her hair up, away from the face, like this works well because it emphasizes the features."
She even rocks the look while wearing protective styles, like these long and gorgeous cornrows...
Photo: Via @serenawilliams.
... The same ones that she wore at the royal wedding. Accessorized with a fascinator, of course.
Photo: Via @serenawilliams.
2. Pink Lips
You can always count on Williams to give you a pretty-in-pink pout, whether she's on the carpet or playing around with Instagram filters. It's been reported by Blaq Vixen Beauty that one of her go-tos is Smashbox Lipstick in Splendid with Sephora Collection Lip Gloss in In the Buff, which looks exactly like the look she's wearing here.
3. Rosy Blush
Sir John (who created Williams' Met Gala 2017 look) told us that a little bit of well-placed blush is all you need to make your face come alive. Williams consistently relies on this trick to bring life to her visage, typically choosing a deep pink shade worn on the apples of her cheeks. Tip: Glossier's Cloud Paint in Haze is a brown-girl friendly pick that goes on so easy and creamy, you don't even need a brush to bend it.
4. Big, Beautiful Brows
Come on, now... you know we couldn't do a Serena Williams beauty slideshow without calling out her impressive arches. Sis has a mean eyebrow game, and doesn't care what the haters think. “I let them grow out,” she told People Style. “I went a year without touching them, so everyone was making fun of me, because I wanted them to grow out like crazy. So I literally didn’t touch them for a year, and I was totally okay with it.” Her secret? Conditioner and tea tree oil.
Photo: Via @serenawilliams.
5. A World Of Curls
Fearless women don't shrink back when it comes to their glam — they go big or go home. Williams loves to turn up the volume with her curls, and often wears extensions that match her naturally curly texture. Tip: If you heat style, try creating a really tight curl pattern, then use a Denman brush to loosen it afterwards. See a tutorial here.
Photo: Via @Serenawilliams.
There's no telling if this is Williams' actual 'fro, but all of that volume is still real-life glorious.
Photo: Via @serenawilliams.
You can also count on Serena to bring out the voluminous curls for magazine shoots, including her cover for Harper Bazaar UK 's July 2018 issue. This windswept hair was perfect for the dreamy beach backdrop.
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Judge Brett Kavanaugh and Dr. Christine Blasey Ford, who's accused the embattled Supreme Court nominee of sexual assault, will both testify before the Senate Judiciary Committee on Thursday.
The public hearing will begin at 10 a.m. ET. C-SPAN will broadcast the testimony and you can watch it here. Other news outlets — such as NBC,ABC, CNN, Fox News, and CBS — are also likely to livestream the event.
Sen. Chuck Grassley, chairman of the Judiciary Committee, and Sen. Dianne Feinstein, the ranking Democrat, will both have opening statements. Ford will be the first to testify and be questioned by the senators in the committee. Because all the Republicans in the committee are men, they've recruited Arizona-based prosecutor Rachel Mitchell, who specializes in sex crimes, to question Ford on their behalf and avoid the bad optics. After Ford finishes testifying, she will leave the room to allow Kavanaugh to be questioned.
Dr. Ford says that Kavanaugh sexually assaulted her and attempted to rape her when both were in high school. She has asked for the FBI to re-open Kavanaugh's background check and investigate her claims, but the White House and Republican leadership have refused.
Since she has spoken up, two other women have accused Kavanaugh of sexual misconduct. Deborah Ramirez claims he "exposed himself at a drunken dormitory party, thrust his penis in her face, and caused her to touch it without her consent as she pushed him away" while both were freshmen at Yale University. Meanwhile, Julie Swetnick alleges that Kavanaugh and his friend Mark Judge conspired to drug girls and gang rape them at house parties in the early 1980s; she also said both men were present while she was victim to one of these gang rapes.
There’s nothing worse than realizing the year has almost passed by without you using more than a couple of your hard-earned OOO days, but if you’re on a budget, the idea of actually booking a proper vacation may seem completely out of reach.
Luckily, it doesn’t have to be. In fact, all it takes is a few hacks and some insider knowledge to be able to afford your next trip (yes, even if you’ve also got student debt, rent, and entirely unaffordable serums to think about). To prove it, we teamed up with Citi to bring you 12 tried-and-true keys to get you where you’re going, while still leaving you with enough money to actually have fun once you get there. Click ahead for all the tools you need to finally request those well-deserved days off.
We’re all for a spontaneous trip, but if you’re really trying to be conscious of your wallet, it’s in your best interest to wait it out until you’ve saved up enough. Start a dedicated savings account now that you add to each month (even if it’s just $20), and don’t touch it until you’ve saved up enough to at least cover your flights and lodging.
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When you’re actually ready to sit down and book your flights, make sure you’ve timed it correctly. Many U.S. airline sites launch sales on Monday or Tuesday mornings, and competitors will typically match those with lower prices by Tuesday afternoon, so that’s usually the ideal time to book.
How far in advance of the trip should you be booking? According to a study done by CheapAir.com, the best time to book a domestic flight is 70 days in advance. For international flights, the ideal booking windows are 160 days for Europe, 207 days for the Caribbean, 70 days for Mexico, 120 days for Asia, 110 days for South America, 197 days for Australia or the South Pacific, and 199 days for Africa.
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In addition to saving up for a trip, make sure your regular spending is also aiding in your travel goals — yes, even that daily overpriced matcha latte can get you a little closer to an affordable trip, so long as you’re using a credit card that rewards you with travel points.
For example, Citi's no-fee American Airlines AAdvantage MileUp credit card lets you earn two AAdvantage miles for every dollar spent at grocery stories and on American Airlines purchases, plus one mile for every dollar spent on all other purchases. There's also a limited-time offer of 10,000 AAdvantage bonus miles and a $50 statement credit if you spend $500 within the first three months.
Booking a round-trip ticket from one airline is certainly the most convenient option, especially for racking up miles with a preferred airline. But it's often more cost effective to book two separate one-way tickets. This allows you to play with departure times and different airports, which opens up options and lowers price points.
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If your travel dates are flexible or you have enough time to plan in advance, set up fare alerts that notify you of any major sales or price drops. Sites like Skyscanner and Airfarewatchdog offer services where you can plug in your home airport, desired airport, and desired date range to be sent updates whenever rates change.
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It might not be the most creative option, but booking a package that includes airfare, your hotel, and a car can often end up saving you quite a bit of cash. Online travel agencies (OTAs) like Expedia, Hotels.com, Orbitz, and Priceline will lower their prices for both airfare and hotel to lure customers into booking it all through one site. Just be sure to look over what you're booking: The price might be considerably lower, but that may mean you’re getting a less desirable flight time or room.
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Why are flights to Europe and hotels so high in the spring and summer? Because the rest of the world wants to be in Europe then, too. It’s basic supply and demand. If you want to score the best deals on hotels and flights, scope out both the low and shoulder seasons in the destination you want to visit. When there’s lower interest, rates will be lower as well, so airlines and hotels can keep their occupancy numbers up. Plus, there’s a good chance you’ll have a row (and a beach) to yourself.
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Weekends are when most of the country is getting out of town, and they’re likely taking either Friday or Monday off. That means airlines will jack up the prices for these peak travel times. The best time to fly is midweek, so if you can spare the OOO days, you’ll save on airfare.
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Sure, you could definitely get a baraign booking through an OTA, but sometimes human-to-human contact is the best way to snag the lowest price. Calling a hotel and asking an employee what the lowest rate is could gain you access to prices that are not listed on the website or OTA site.
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It’s one thing to browse Expedia and Orbitz, but becoming a member of an OTA can actually save you more money, unlocking access to members-only prices and experiences. Some benefits include hotel price guarantees, exclusive deals, and no blackout dates for redeeming points.
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Sometimes airlines and hotels will offer flash sales, meaning they come up quickly and leave just as fast. Many apps (including TravelPirates, The Flight Deal, Hotel Tonight, and Exit Fares) make it their sole purpose to track these sales and report back to you, so be sure to have those handy.
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Honey is a browser extension that automatically applies coupon codes at checkout, and it recently launched a travel version that compares prices from Expedia, Priceline, Booking.com, and other sites for both U.S. and international travel. Using it could save you up to 55% on hotels.
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Pregnancy and childbirth can definitely change a person's body and their body image — even for Gisele Bündchen.
In her new memoir, Lessons: My Path to a Meaningful Life, Bündchen revealed that she had a breast augmentation in 2015, when she realized that her breasts were uneven after breastfeeding her two children. In the book, she wrote that she instantly regretted the procedure.
"When I woke up, I was like, 'What have I done?' I felt like I was living in a body I didn’t recognize," she told People. "For the first year I wore [baggy] clothes because I felt uncomfortable."
She also told People that prior to the procedure, her self-esteem took a dip when her body changed after breastfeeding.
"I was always praised for my body, and I felt like people had expectations from me that I couldn’t deliver," she said. "I felt very vulnerable, because I can work out, I can eat healthy, but I can’t change the fact that both of my kids enjoyed the left boob more than the right. All I wanted was for them to be even and for people to stop commenting on it."
Since the procedure, however, Bündchen says, she got her self-esteem back on track with some help from her husband, Tom Brady.
"He just said, 'I love you no matter what' and that I looked beautiful," she told People. "This was definitely another lesson: What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. But I wish I would have learned that a different way."
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If you want to put both your hometown pride — or, alternatively, your globe-trotting lifestyle and seemingly infinite number of PTO days — and your excellent taste in bougie candles on display without a single humble-bragging word, there's no better way to do that than with one of Diptyque 's City Candles.
The nuanced scents cast each respective city in their most flattering lights: Miami smells like freshly-squeezed lime and a delicate hit of magnolia, not cheap margaritas and dance-floor sweat; Shanghai is all hot green tea and osmanthus, no smog to be sniffed. They're all gorgeous and inherently collectible — with one caveat. The collection is sold exclusively in Diptyque outposts in the cities that inspired them, meaning you're pretty much out of luck if your heart is in the lush public gardens of Tokyo but your body is in Tokio, Texas. (Last recorded population: 24.)
But starting at midnight tonight, for four days only, you'll be able to get your hands on a candle inspired by your favorite vacation or your spiritual home, no matter where you are in the world. What's more, this year's release sees the launch of two brand-new cities — Paris and Hong Kong — and the first time you'll be able to get your hands on the New York candle online.
Retailing for $72 a long-lasting, slow-burning pop (and, for the true Diptyque diehard, a set of six for $432), you can shop all nine of the candles exclusively on the Diptyque Paris website through September 30th. The limited quantities won't last, so this is one deal worth staying up past your bedtime for. And besides, they're a hell of a lot cheaper than those flight prices to Berlin you've been tracking on Expedia...
Smells like fresh-cut grass and an early-spring breeze rustling the namesake trees of Unter der Linden in Germany's green, sprawling capital city.
Diptyque Berlin Scented Candle, $72, available at Diptyque Paris starting September 27.
London is fully floral, an ode to the city's flower market on Columbia Road, with distinct notes of heliotrope, lilac, juniper, and hyacinth — and a hit of spice to warm it all up.
Diptyque London Scented Candle, $72, available at Diptyque Paris starting September 27.
Far from the overcrowded dive bars on the Lower East Side or the brightly-lit blur of Times Square seen through the window of a yellow cab, this New York is a smoky, atmospheric shadow of cedar, vetiver, and heady incense.
Diptyque New York Scented Candle, $72, available at Diptyque Paris starting September 27.
Like stepping into a dimly-lit historic tea house, green tea and maté are rich and earthy without being overpowering.
Diptyque Shanghai Scented Candle, $72, available at Diptyque Paris starting September 27.
Woodsy chypre and narcotic florals, the kind of scent you can't help but notice, and je ne sais pas pourquoi...
Diptyque Paris Scented Candle, $72, available at Diptyque Paris starting September 27.
An intoxicating blend of cypress, pine, cedar, and incense would feel like a religious experience if it weren't so sexy.
Diptyque Tokyo Scented Candle, $72, available at Diptyque Paris starting September 27.
A tropical vacation in a frosted-green glass jar, but more sophisticated than the usual coconut-y, piña colada vibe, Miami is at once bright, soft, and deliciously tart.
Diptyque Miami Scented Candle, $72, available at Diptyque Paris starting September 27.
Soothing, sweet, and mild, like a saucer of rice milk warmed over a hot stove — or wafting through the air of a humid subtropical climate.
Diptyque Hong Kong Scented Candle, $72, available at Diptyque Paris starting September 27.
A sip of barely-sweetened lemonade topped off with fresh mint, and a whiff of freesia that makes you remember why you love the West Coast in the first place. (It's not the Hollywood sign, that's for sure.)
Diptyque Beverly Hills Scented Candle, $72, available at Diptyque Paris starting September 27.
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If hair is our crowning glory, we should coat it in luxury, royalty-worthy products. But lately we've been treating our strands more like a plastic tiara from Party City, because our budget hasn't reached Meghan Markle levels quite yet. We do like to treat ourselves to a fancy-schmancy mask or styler every once in a while, though, and Space NK's big hair sale is the perfect opportunity.
Space NK is a beauty boutique known for carrying prestige products, and it's having an epic one-day sale in honor of National Hair Day. The company will be offering a special buy one, get one half off promotion on all our favorite high-priced hair products — think big brands like Bumble & Bumble, Oribe, and Rahua — on Monday, October 1.
To get you prepped for next week’s unbelievable BOGO sale, we have pre-picked some highly rated and reviewed standouts that qualify for the deal. See which products we're most excited to shop, ahead.
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Retailers have a hard time keeping this shampoo on shelves because it’s just that damn good. This sulfate-free cleanser is safe on everything from color-treated to chemically-treated hair.
Bumble and bumble Hairdresser's Invisible Oil Shampoo, $31, available at Space NK
It’s hard to discuss prestige hair products without including Oribe’s popular oil. Infused with vitamin E, argan oil, sandalwood, and amur cork tree bark, this repairing oil moisturizes damaged hair and smells like a fine fragrance.
Oribe Gold Lust Nourishing Hair Oil, $55, available at Space NK
Keep your ponytail sleek or top knot intact with this finishing paste that holds hair in place with ingredients like beeswax and kaolin clay.
Spritz on this refreshing mist to give your hair an instant wake-up call. The apple cider vinegar in the formula helps seal in moisture and create slip for detangling.
Philip B. Detangling Finishing Mist, $27, available at Space NK
Give your hair the gift of shine and body with this moisturizing conditioner that’s loaded with hydrating ingredients like juniper berry extract.
R+Co Television Perfect Hair Conditioner, $32, available at Space NK
Show your scalp some extra love with this exfoliating scrub that helps reduce built-up residue and itchiness.
Christophe Robin Cleansing Purifying Scrub with Sea Salt, $19, available at Space NK
Keep your hair healthy and vibrant with this nourishing mask made with organic ingredients. It's loaded with hibiscus extract to safeguard color and the namesake rahua oil to preserve shine.
Rahua Color Full Hair Mask, $62, available at Space NK
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With summer out of the way, we're tumbling headfirst into the chill of autumn. Luckily, Shopbop is swooping in with a fall kick-off sale right as we're in need of a little closet restructuring. If we have to say goodbye to our smocked dresses, at least we can make the process of re-familiarizing ourselves with long sleeves easier on our wallets.
Shopbop's aptly named "Stock Up" sale is begging us to do exactly that. Starting today until Saturday, September 29, the retailer is giving its customers a sweet little discount. With the code "STOCKUP18" you'll save 20% off any order under $500 or 25% off any order over $500. Best of all? The code is applicable site-wide including most full-priced items and sale items. And if you're not quite ready to splurge on a coat, there are a few straggler swimsuits you can get your hands on for dirt cheap.
With an overwhelming level of products to choose from, we've picked out our top items from every price bracket. So whether you're on a strict budget or rolling off the high of finding a few forgotten AMEX gift cards stashed away from a few Christmases ago, there's at least one fall must-have waiting for you. From under-$100 finds to the high roller $500 and up section, shop the best of Shopbop's four days only sale ahead.
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Here's a conundrum that would give Joseph Heller pause: You can use eye cream to tackle your dark circles and fine lines, or you can use concealer to cover them. But if you use the eye cream, you won't get instant gratification, and if you use the concealer, you won't get long-term results.
Of course, you could, technically, use both. But then that's an entire extra step to reckon with in your routine, and god, what a hassle that would be — especially when beauty brands have devised some very convenient ways to combine the two.
Click-pen illuminating concealers laced with moisturizing ingredients to swipe on skin care and swipe away dark circles in one single brush stroke, pots of pearl-infused cream with an added boost of pigment to color correct as you hydrate: These formulas are the best of both worlds, if one world is having good skin in the future and the other is having good skin five minutes from now. Ahead, six easy ways to turn that double bind into a win-win...
If all you need is a little tint to even things out, this skin-smoothing treatment should be enough. If you need a little more than "a little tint," its lightweight texture — which is somewhere in between a cream and a light mousse — acts like a primer under concealer to make it go on better and last longer, while retinyl palmitate (a retinol derivative), ascorbyl glucoside (a vitamin C derivative), and antioxidant-rich grape-seed extract work to improve fine lines and darkness over time.
Kiehl's Youth Dose Eye Treatment, $39, available at Kiehl's
In addition to brightening and concealing even the most severe (like, closed-down-the-bar severe) under-eye circles and puffiness with one flick of the brush, this lightweight liquid formula fits as easily into a sleek clutch as it does a random canvas tote bag of unknown origin filled with your debit card, keys, five lip balms, and a bunch of crumpled-up receipts at the bottom.
Clé de Peau Beauté Radiant Corrector for Eyes, $65, available at Neiman Marcus
Yes, you should be wearing SPF under your eyes during the day, and yes, you should probably start sooner rather than later. This creamy, tinted hybrid makes it easy, combining SPF 30 protection from zinc oxide with wrinkle-reducing peptides, nourishing shea butter, soothing bisabolol, and a sheer universal tint that does enough, but not the most, for a believable just-slept-10-hours effect.
PCA Skin Sheer Tint Eye Triple Complex Broad Spectrum SPF 30, $65, available at DermStore
It only comes in three shades, but despite appearances, this genius color corrector/eye cream hybrid blends seamlessly into every skin tone (from the fairest of fair to the deepest of deep) as if by magic. The accompanying instructions are very particular: Smooth a tiny rice-grain-sized dot under each eye, like a moisturizer, then pat gently to set the color, like a concealer. You'll get the perfect amount of coverage, instant results, and more bang for your 48 bucks.
Tatcha The Pearl Tinted Eye Illuminating Treatment, $48, available at Sephora
Fans of the brand's original CC cream already know — that full-coverage claim is legit. This formula, which is on the thicker side, packs in hyaluronic acid, hydrolyzed collagen, aloe, peptides, antioxidants, and more, along with hardcore concealing power and a formidable SPF 50. (Also not to be missed: the fact that the cooling applicator tip boasts a proprietary feature known as Cold Spoon Technology.)
It Cosmetics CC+ Eye Color Correcting Full Coverage Cream, $29, available at It Cosmetics
The very definition of a one-and-done, this multitasking concealer juggles instant brightening with known hydrating and de-puffing ingredients like caffeine, cranberry-seed oil, and hyaluronic acid, all in the silkiest, most blendable formula that leaves skin looking just like (healthy, luminous, perfected) skin.
Elcie Cosmetics Complete Remedy Silque Concealer, $28, available at Elcie Cosmetics
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Grey's Anatomy first premiered on ABC in 2005, bringing with it a diverse group of doctors and an array of real-life issues ranging from equal pay to immigration. Medical dramas may be more commonplace on TV today, but Grey's has continued to stay relevant, not only because of its plotlines that make us sob for hours (okay, maybe even years), but also because it’s never failed to amplify strong women and throw them into relatable situations that demonstrate just how fearless and powerful they are.
At a time when so many viewers are searching for representation, Grey’s continues to be a TV trailblazer, using its platform to present situations that challenge preconceived notions about women — something that keeps us coming back season after season. That’s why, ahead of the 15th season premiere on September 27, at 8 p.m. EST on ABC, we’re taking a look back at some of the series’ most groundbreaking moments for women — from Cristina and Meredith’s iconic friendship to Jo’s powerful domestic-violence story.
A Female-Dominated Hospital
The TV industry has thankfully made some strides toward embracing more female-led shows, but women are still all too often relegated to side-character roles (the wife, the girlfriend, the best friend, a quirky neighbor). Since premiering, Grey’s has consistently fought against this, working to shatter the TV glass ceiling in countless plotlines that show women in powerful positions.
This is particularly evident in season 12, when General Surgeon Miranda Bailey (Chandra Wilson) finally achieves a longstanding career goal, becoming the hospital's first-ever female chief of surgery. But she's not the only woman in a high-level position: She joins Callie (Sara Ramirez) as head of orthopedic surgery, Arizona (Jessica Capshaw) as head of pediatrics, Maggie (Kelly McCreary) as head of cardiology, and Amelia (Caterina Scorsone) as head of neurology. Soon after, Bailey promotes Meredith (Ellen Pompeo) to chief of general surgery, making women dominant in the surgery division. This moment is so defining, not only because it shows women holding powerful jobs in what’s thought to be a largely male-dominated field, but also because it busts the myth that there’s only room for one woman at the top.
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“You’re My Person” & The Emphasis On Strong Female Friendships
While there are countless fictional female friendships that hold special places in our hearts (and have maybe even inspired or reinforced closeness with our own friends), few are as iconic in pop culture as the friendship between Meredith Grey (Ellen Pompeo) and Cristina Yang (Sandra Oh). Early on in season 2, Cristina tells Meredith that she put her name down as her emergency contact, declaring, “You’re my person” — three words that continue to define their friendship as we watch them support each other through life’s highs and lows, call each other out when necessary, and, even through disagreements, never let their love for each other waver.
We see Meredith continue to build confidence in other women in later seasons, particularly when she introduces her and Cristina’s de-stress, no-tears, “dance it out” concept to Maggie and Amelia, after Maggie’s mother dies.
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The Importance Of Speaking Up
At the end of season 12, we see hospital resident Jo (Camilla Luddington) turn down a marriage proposal from head of pediatric surgery Alex Karev (Justin Chambers), which viewers soon find out is due to the fact that she’s already married — and her name isn’t actually Jo Wilson. It’s established that Jo had run away from her abusive husband and worked hard to build a life away from him.
In season 14, she comes face to face with her estranged husband, Paul, in a chilling episode titled "1-800-799-7233” (the phone number for the National Domestic Violence Hotline). Jo bravely shares her story with Alex, Meredith, and Paul’s current fiancée, Jenny, ultimately helping Jenny realize that she needs to escape her dangerous situation as well. In opening up and sharing their experiences with one another, the women are able to begin the healing process. In today’s cultural climate, where survivors of assault are consistently encouraged to share their stories, this storyline is particularly relevant and shows the incredible impact of speaking up.
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Women Advocating For Themselves
“My name is Miranda Bailey. I am chief of surgery at Grey Sloan Memorial, and I believe that I am having a heart attack.” Bailey confidently says these words the second she walks into Seattle Presbyterian Hospital in season 14, kicking off an episode that highlights a very important issue: women having serious medical conditions ignored or dismissed thanks to centuries-old stereotypes about them being hysterical and dramatic.
After doctors at the hospital dismiss her gut feeling and medical expertise simply because she has a history of mental illness, Bailey gets fed up and drops some major stats on the doctor (and viewers): Most women who die of coronary artery disease — 63% — don't have previous symptoms. Also, women of color are at a far greater risk. Still, the doctors don’t take her seriously and her condition worsens. Bailey eventually takes matters into her own hands and calls in Grey Sloan’s head of cardio and former chief of surgery to get herself treated. Fortunately, she survives her heart attack and subsequent surgery, but others in the real world may not be as lucky.
Aside from educating viewers on important and often overlooked stats, this moment demonstrates how important it is for women to advocate for themselves — especially when no one else will. It's a concept that has been central to Grey's from the start and one of the show's most defining traits: displaying the power that comes from women standing up for themselves, whether it's in the workplace, social situations, or relationships.
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Paris is known for a lot of things: carbs, the Eiffel Tower, iconic designers like Chanel and Dior and Saint Laurent. Still, when it comes to style, Parisians get boxed in. But fashion there isn't limited to that whole French Girl thing. And, if there's any time of year that really shows Paris' range, it's Fashion Week.
On the streets of Paris Fashion Week, you'll see everything from Phoebe Philo -inspired minimalism to Hypebeasts who look like they just dropped $10K at Opening Ceremony. Depending on which show you're standing outside of, you'll likely get a few curveballs — something punk, something oversized, something sequined — and that's what makes these photos stand out, especially when your feed has been dominated by street style for the past few weeks.
Despite it being day...well, we've lost count...of shows and outfits, the street style crowd has (thankfully!) yet to run out of ideas. Here's every look we're loving from the streets of Paris.
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Trusting someone with your hair color requires a leap of faith and even a bit of hope — which, every so often, is dashed by a botched color job. Maybe you requested ashy blonde, but ended up with a brassy yellow that just looks off. Or perhaps you envisioned a medium-brown hue with a touch of caramel, but left the salon with anything but warm chocolate. Asked for natural-looking highlights and got skunk-inspired streaks instead?
Although all colorists ultimately want happy, satisfied clients, there’s always the possibility of human error or a breakdown in communication. But before you resign yourself to wearing a hat for the foreseeable future, consider this: Most color catastrophes are completely fixable over time.
To help, we consulted three expert colorists who shared what you can do to fix the most commonplace mishaps. The solution might involve giving your colorist another go (hey, everyone deserves a second chance!), kicking off the correction process with a few at-home products, or simply cutting your losses to find a new colorist for a redo. Read on for exactly what to do if you can’t stand your new hair color.
Wait It Out If your color job left your hair looking more like Carrot Top than Christina Hendricks, your first instinct might be to request a quick fix. But, for the sake of your hair, consult an expert before doing anything. “Because tones, formulas, and techniques range so broadly, only an expert can make a professional assessment about when and how [your hair] can be processed again,” says Maisha Cogle, a colorist at New York-based Butterfly Studio Salon. “Typically, hair can be processed again immediately, but leave it to the technician to make the call. Hair health comes first.”
Celebrity colorist Kari Hill of Meche Salon agrees: “It depends on the amount of possible damage that has occurred. I definitely say to take the hair-coloring process in baby steps. Consult with your stylist and determine what is best for the health of your hair and go from there.”
Collaboration Vs. Confrontation Don’t give up on your colorist at the first sign of something going wrong, especially if you’ve been to them in the past with positive results. “Trust them to fix it if they've been your colorist over many visits to the salon, and you’ve built a relationship,” says Cogle. “You know their skills, and they know your hair and unique preferences, so allow them the opportunity to make the adjustment.” If it’s their first time working on your hair, but you've had a good rapport and experience overall, she says let them try again, adding: “Trust works both ways, so finding a hair expert who vibes with and communicates with you is essential.”
However, if you feel intimidated or uncomfortable voicing your concerns — hit the road. “Any hair-color appointment, particularly a corrective one, should feel like a collaboration between you and your colorist,” explains Cogle. “We always want you to feel happy and confident with the outcome.” Hill agrees, adding, “When communication is broken, and your colorist acts defensive or has a diva-like attitude, just cut your losses.”
Cherin Choi, a colorist at Los Angeles-based Benjamin Arts District has a good tip for sussing out if your stylist is actually up for the task: “If they don’t have any work on their profile showing they can achieve what you want, find someone else.” She adds: "It may cost more in the end, but having the right color is priceless.”
Don’t DIY No matter how your dye job was bungled, most colorists agree you shouldn’t try to fix it at home. “Color-removal products are created specifically for professional use,” explains Cogle. “They’re hard to get your hands on for a reason. We choose the best option for color removal based on a few key things: how much color we need to remove (for example, someone going from black to red or blonde versus someone who's a touch darker than they’d like); what was previously used on hair (such as permanent color versus demi-permanent); and what would be best suited for their specific hair type, including its current condition.” The truth is that the color-removal process is highly complex: “In the salon environment, there are many variables in lightener formulas, different strength developers, techniques, and so on. These differences are the tricks of the trade, and one size does not fit all,” she adds.
Usually, professionals will first try products that remove color without bleach or ammonia. “These contain sulfur and shrink the dye molecules trapped in your hair,” says Choi. “It allows the color to wash out and is much more gentle than using bleach. It doesn’t have a 100% success rate and can only pull out so much, if it’s permanent or semi-permanent [dye].” For more serious removal, the pros reach for bleach. Though it’s a harsher process, “now that there’s Olaplex, it’s a less damaging process overall,” says Choi. “To fix that green-hair-in-a-pool moment, your colorist may use a mineral remover, which pulls out buildup and may slightly tweak the tone. A bad blonde job can be tackled in so many different ways and is quite specific to what actually went wrong.”
Start Shampooing There are a few products you can use at home to help kick-start the correction process. “If you feel like your blond color ended up too dark, utilize a clarifying shampoo to help fade or take the edge off,” advises Hill. “Keep in mind it can also make color brassy, so you may need to follow up with a purple shampoo, like L’Oreal EverPure Blonde, to counteract that.”
According to Choi, you can also use hot water along with any shampoo or soap high in sulfates — which are abrasive enough to help fade color. “It will make your hair feel much more dry, so if you’re concerned about the integrity of your hair, see a colorist before taking matters into your own hands,” she says. On the flip side, if you’ve gone too light, Hill recommends a deep conditioner. “Before you come in to get corrected, sleep for a week in a color treatment mask,” she says. “The mask can help fade your color, through over-conditioning, by one shade. Then you can utilize a gloss or toner to deposit color that has been removed.”
Still, Cogle advises playing it safe: “It's best to get a recommendation as to which shampoos and how many are necessary before moving on to the next step. Sometimes, they can cause more harm than good, such as pulling out too much color or revealing unwanted tones.”
Balance Brassiness A too-brassy dye job is probably the easiest fix, calling for a toner correction at the salon. “Sometimes, the highlights need to be lightened a bit,” says Cogle. “Brassy highlights can result from the highlights not being processed light enough, particularly on darker bases.” If you can’t wait for your next salon appointment, try eliminating brassy tones with a purple or blue-tinted shampoo, which contains correcting and neutralizing pigments. We love this formula from Matrix, which you can leave on your hair for a few minutes for extra toning.
Solve Stripe-y Highlights "Highlights" that look more like skunk stripes require more professional expertise. “This issue can sometimes be corrected by simply toning down the highlights so they blend better with the natural hair in between,” says Cogle — this technique is often called rooting. “Or the opposite may need to happen, and the natural hair will need to be lightened to lessen the contrast. It all depends on the desired result. Sometimes, a few more highlights are needed to fill in spaces. If the highlight is stripe-y and too chunky, then a lowlight may be necessary to break it up.”
Whatever you do, though, Cogle says not to fix this at home. “Clients come in all the time having tried this themselves, and it’s a disaster.”
Lighten Up If you're already regretting your decision to go full-on Morticia Addams black, your colorist may be able to dial it down with a color softener or remover. But you’re in luck: “Often, if a color appears too dark at first, it lightens on its own after a few shampoos, even with just your regular shampoo,” says Cogle. Hill adds that while there’s no quick fix for going lighter, you can speed up the process by “sleeping in deep conditioner to try to fade hair naturally before going to get a color correction.” We suggest sleeping with a formula that is free of parabens and sulfates, you don't dry your hair out in the process. This one from Alterna will leave your strands feeling silky even if it isn't left on overnight.
Everything Is Fixable The good news? It’s all going to be okay. “Everything can be fixed within a reasonable time,” Hill assures. “Hair grows half an inch a month and replenishes itself, so you are never completely screwed.” Cogle agrees, adding, “The beauty of hair color is that, as long as the hair is still on the head, it can be fixed. The question is, how long will it take? Typically, color can be tweaked right away by adjusting the tone, adding more highlights, and so on, but a truly botched color job takes time. After the first appointment, it will look a lot better and only improve from there, but it typically takes a few more appointments after the first.” In other words: Better days are ahead.
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You always want what you can’t have — especially when it comes to beauty products. That’s why we’re getting the inside scoop from your favorite retailers on what’s selling out right now, how to sign up for waitlists,and where to go to find the next best thing. Because if everyone’s buying it, you know it has to be good.
People think they want to smell like the beach. Not the salty water or seagull poop — but that feeling of laying back on a soft terrycloth towel, wearing your cutest bikini, with your go-to cold drink of choice in hand. Bottle up that feeling, churn it into a thick body butter, pop it in a bright yellow drum-like tub, and give it a cheeky name, like 'Bum Bum Cream' — and you've got a bestselling product waiting to happen.
And that's exactly what happened when Sol de Janeiro, the beach-y Brazilian body-care brand, repackaged its cult-followed body lotion and started selling it in a jumbo, 16.9 ounce jug big enough for you to fit your whole hand inside. The $75 Biggie Biggie Bum Bum Cream sold out mere minutes after it was released, and there are currently more than 800 people sitting on the waitlist for a restock.
Whether you're on that list, or looking for a big ol' jug of scoopable body cream that gives your skin that soft and warm feeling of sitting in the sun, check out our favorite Biggie Biggie Bum Bum alternatives, ahead.
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People were slathering this buttery coconut body cream all over their butts (and everywhere else) with so much gusto, they complained about scraping the bottom of the yellow plastic pot too often. So, Sol de Janeiro launched this massive jug of the Bum Bum cream — complete with a handy surfboard spatula for scooping — and it sold out in under two hours.
Sol de Janeiro Biggie Biggie Bum Bum Cream, $75, available at sol de janeiro
Creme de Corps — the creme de la creme of body products from Kiehl's — boasts only the richest, most hydrating soaps, oils, and creams. You can get the cocoa butter body lotion in a one liter pump for around the same price you'd pay for a jumbo tub of Bum Bum.
This is the body butter for the girl at the bar who orders a Sex on the Beach when everyone else is sucking back boring vodka sodas. That is, it's extra (rich, thick, and fragranced) in the best way.
Soap & Glory Soap & Glory The Righteous Butter Body Butter - 10.1oz, $11.2, available at Target
There are no frills here — no fancy French label or overwhelming fragrance — just a nourishing lotion that'll keep your legs from looking scaly when the cool weather rolls in.
Jergens Jergens Ultra Healing Extra Dry Skin Moisturizer, $7.93, available at Walmart
You know who else loves to have dewy, moisturized shoulder blades and kneecaps? Emily Weiss. So much so, that she formulated this super rich body lotion that smells like a bouquet of roses packed into a pale pink tube.
Glossier Body Hero Daily Perfecting Cream, $22, available at Glossier
If your number one criteria is moisture — and you've been suffering through cool showers and slathering strong topical steroids over your red, itchy arms — just trythis Dream Cream. Read: It's been called an eczema miracle worker.
Instagram can teach you a lot about piercing trends, from the daith to the nipple to the one you'd never tell your grandma about. But what you won't learn on social media are the nitty-gritty details — like the healing process — that follow. In one scroll you might notice that rook piercings are the new It spot, but what happens if it migrates, you're allergic to your new barbell, or it gets infected? But better yet, how do you know if it's infected in the first place?
We asked L.A.'s most in-demand piercer, Brian Keith Thompson (whose client list includes Beyoncé and FKA Twigs) and Patricia Wexler, MD, New York-based dermatologist, to answer the top questions surrounding infections, migrated jewelry, and more. Keep scrolling for some of our top FAQs.
Let's start with the big question: How can you tell if your piercing is infected? According to Thompson, the telltale signs of an infection are simple: "The area around the piercing is warm to the touch, you notice extreme redness or red streaks protruding from it, and it has discolored pus, normally with a green or brown tint," Thompson says. "You might also notice swollen lymph nodes, which is your body trying to kill the infection." If your piercing is severely infected, you'll basically feel like you're getting a cold, and, in some cases, you might even begin to run a fever.
Dr. Wexler agrees that it's easy to identify an infection by the above symptoms, adding that you might also experience some swelling, pain, tenderness of the area, burning, or itching. "This usually occurs more than two days after the piercing and continues to worsen," she explains. See a medical professional to address the situation ASAP if this sounds like what you're dealing with.
When it comes to pus, what's normal and what's an infection? " When it's discolored, like green or brown, that's serious and something to be addressed immediately by a medical professional," Thompson says "This could likely be an infection that shouldn't go untreated." Dr. Wexler agrees: If it's yellow or green around the opening, call your doctor. (White fluid or crust, on the other hand, is normal, but more on that later.)
Are infected piercings common? "Most of the time what a person thinks is an infection is really just a pissed off piercing," Thompson says. Dr. Wexler mentions that your piercing (especially ears) will most likely be sensitive for several days — and that's totally normal. So, don't overreact until you spot the aforementioned symptoms.
How do you treat an infected piercing? If the piercing is infected, don't panic — just get to the doctor. Your next plan of action is treatment: "A minor infection can usually be treated at home by cleaning around the piercing with the saltwater solution three times daily and a topical antibiotic ointment," Dr. Wexler explains. But she warns to look out for crust forming around the inflamed piercing hole — it can trap bacteria and close the hole. She suggests cleaning the front and back of the piercing and drying with a lint-free sterile gauze or paper towel.
How can you avoid an infected piercing? Most importantly, listen to the after-care tips from your piercer. Try not to touch your new piercing — and if you must, wash your hands thoroughly before doing so. Thompson adds that you should wash your piercing at least once a day — twice a day if you're active in your daily routine, like you work around children or outdoors. His soap of choice: Dr. Bronner's Castile Soap. But any mild soap works, too!
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When is the best time to remove a piercing in the case of an infection? "In the presence of a minor infection, the jewelry should not be removed or the hole will close and lose the piercing," Dr. Wexler says. "Earring holes, specifically, can take a minimum of eight weeks to granulate and removing the earring will destroy any chance you have of keeping that piercing."
My piercing is red, irritated, and a little swollen, but it doesn't seem infected — what could this mean? "A lot of times people will come in thinking they have an infection when it's really just physical irritation," Thompson explains. They're likely hitting it a lot or playing with it — both no-no's. Cartilage piercings experience this often because it's in the line of fire for everyday activities. This can cause redness, swelling, and a little bit of pain. You might even see some white or clear fluid from the piercing — this is lymph fluid, not pus. Dr. Wexler adds that this is normal and may be noticeable for several days after your piercing. If it persists past a few days it's good to rule out an allergy to the jewelry.
Can I be allergic to my piercing? Cheap jewelry often contains allergens like nickel, but titanium, gold, and platinum are better bets because they're hypoallergenic. If this is the case, then think about having the jewelry changed ASAP. Dr. Wexler says that after swapping out the jewelry, consider seeing your doctor to make sure it's healing correctly, because you might need to treat the irritation topically with steroids.
I've heard that your body can reject a piercing — what does that mean? A rejection happens when your body's immune system tries to remove the piercing for you. This happens most often to nipple and naval piercings. It's just like it sounds: The body slowly pushes the jewelry out.
What does a rejected piercing look like? Rejected piercings aren't as serious as infections, but could threaten the longevity of the piercing. It normally gets inflamed, then begins to move slowly out of the hole. Thompson explains that, in the case of nipple piercings, you'll notice the skin between the barbells has protruding red streaks and starts getting shallow. You'll see the same around the curved barbells in naval piercings.
Dr. Wexler says that this isn't a life-threatening situation. "One rejected piercing has no relevance on future piercings," she explains. "If the rejected piercing is due to infection, but caution is taken to prevent future infections, all future piercings should be uneventful." She stresses that the most important thing to remember is to take care of your new piercing until it's fully healed. Be meticulous, keep it clean, and make sure the jewelry is sterilized before use.
What should you do if your piercing is rejected? Thompson suggests that if your body begins to reject your piercing, don't wait for it to fully remove itself, or else you'll have a pronounced scar from where the hole originally was. Call your piercer and have them look at it before this happens. They may change the jewelry, or remove it altogether. If this is the case, you can wait for it to heal, then try piercing it again.
How common is this? It's hard to say, because everyone's bodies and immune systems are different and a lot of issues can impact this. What sensitivities do you have? How was your body pierced? What kind of jewelry is it? Did the piercer go through enough tissue? These are just some of the factors involved in a potential rejection.
Is a rejection different from a migrated piercing? Yes, sometimes people will get a piercing and then they'll notice it move just slightly. This is like a rejection, but it's actually called a migration. "Say you get cartilage pierced and you're constantly sleeping on it," Thompson explains. "Your body will change the location of the jewelry to protect the body from trauma." So, it might be at a different angle than when you initially got it pierced. Its movement depends on where you're putting the pressure, but if the piercing is in an area not normally touched often, it wont' be prone to migration.
What's the one thing that everyone should know before getting a piercing? Thompson stresses that piercings don't heal overnight, some could even take up to six months — and that's if you leave it alone and keep it clean. But don't feel bad if you physically irritate it. Thompson and Dr. Wexler agree that accidents and sensitivity around the area is normal. But, most importantly, let it heal without messing with it. "Your piercer could do a perfect, textbook piercing, but if you don't let it heal, it won't heal," Thompson concludes. Bottom line: It's your responsibility to care for it.
Where can I purchase quality jewelry online? Brands like BVLA and Maria Tash are popular designers stocked at many piercing studios, including Body Electric, but they're also available online. There are lots of great brands out there, just make sure that whatever you're buying is 14k gold (white, yellow, or rose) or surgical-grade stainless steel, both of which will last longer that cheap jewelry and lowers your chance of having an allergic reaction.
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It's that time of year again. Well, a special time of year at least. And no, we're not talking about Halloween (or are we?).
The New York City Ballet 's fall fashion gala is upon us and the Sarah Jessica Parker-conceived event is continuing to serve its purpose of blending the worlds of fashion and dance in the name of spectacle. In its seventh run, the night not only sees the world premiere of new choreography for the NYCB's fall season but also a carefully curated selection of designers who've created costumes for the pieces in collaboration with the company's costume director Marc Happel.
For the fall 2018 season, designers Gareth Pugh, Alberta Ferretti, and Giles Deacon created costumes to fit the choreography of Matthew Neenan, Gianna Reisen, and Kyle Abraham, respectively. And that's no easy task. What makes it so difficult to put fashion in motion is not just what it'll look like flying through the air from the audience, but also how it'll work being tousled about between bodies. For example, in the video below, released exclusively via Refinery29, Happel concludes that a skirt would have to be made of a different fabric so as to maintain its shape and texture throughout the performance.
The same could be said for the preparation of a traditional runway show, for example, but it's not like those follow a rubric anymore, either. Just yesterday, at Paris Fashion Week, the Dior spring 2019 show saw Tel Aviv-based choreographer Sharon Eyal and eight dancers perform around the collection as it walked down the runway in the 16th arrondissement. It proves the NYCB's fall fashion gala isn't just a stuffy event where New York's elite gather to watch classical dance and contemporary fashion unfold on the main stage, but it's a reflection of what's happening in the industry, too. It's also, if you've ever been, just a treat to endure.
Since 2012, the gala has seen designers from Valentino to Virgil Abloh of Off-White, Rosie Assoulin, Thom Browne, Sarah Burton for Alexander McQueen, Fernando Garcia and Laura Kim of Monse and Oscar de la Renta, Prabal Gurung, Carolina Herrera, Mary Katrantzou, Humberto Leon of Opening Ceremony and Kenzo, Dries Van Noten, and more lend their expertise to the costume department of the NYCB. The event has also raised more than $15 million for the dance company.
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On Tuesday, Trump wore a black collared shirtdress to the 73rd session of the United Nations General Assembly in New York City, where her husband spoke. Online, people are speculating this outfit is a subtle support of #BelieveSurvivors, a movement in support of Christine Blasey Ford, who accused Supreme Court Justice nominee Brett Kavanaugh of sexually assaulting her in high school.
Melania's wearing black - is this her moment to stand with sexual assault victims? Not quite as obvious as her "I don't care" jacket, but of all the colors to wear at this time...
In August, Omarosa Manigault Newman made similar claims in her book, Unhinged: An Insider’s Account of the Trump White House. In an excerpt published by the Daily Mail, the reality star wrote: "Taken as a whole, all of [Melania Trump's] style rebellions have served the same purpose, and not only misdirection and distraction — strategies her husband knows all too well. I believe Melania uses style to punish her husband."
It's worth pointing out, however, that Melania has never shown any sort of solidarity, verbally or otherwise, to anyone besides her husband, as she continues to stand by him. Enough with the assumptions.
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Whoever invented dress codes must have had a strong sense of humor. White tie, black tie, black tie optional, casual, business casual, cocktail, formal, semi -formal — the list of cryptic options goes on and on. Too often we've found ourselves in a last minute bind, desperately Googling "what can you wear to a black tie wedding?" Luckily, for the less strictly formal categories that leave more room for interpretation, like "cocktail" or "semi-formal," you get the best of both worlds. If you're itching to finally wear a floor length dress, go for it! But if you're on the hunt for an excuse to get away with something less showy and more familiar with your personal style, then an ambiguous semi-formal dress code requirement just might be your friend.
If you're like us, your current go-to outfit looks something like a midi dress paired with strappy sandals or chunky sneakers. The dressy enough for a nice dinner, yet casual enough to wear to an afternoon barbecue ensemble nails today's formal- ish dress code. (But maybe lose the sneakers.) So while the concept of strict dressing requirements might be a little too out-dated for our tastes, a not-too-fancy, not-too-informal dress is right up our alley.
Ahead are 16 semi-formal appropriate dress picks that eliminate the panic of cracking your invitation's dress code.
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